Alison63

Cheers guys your support means a lot, will try hard to be the better person and rise above his games. He caught me on my way out to a meeting today so I had my first real conversation with him. Quite confusing got the I would like to be friends bit and the I truly loved you bit mixed in with the I don't know why I was ever with you bit. I thought I was ok with it at the time got a bit teary but after it felt ok, now having had the time to think about it getting quite upset and rather depressed. But on the bright side going to the gym tomorrow to take my frustrations out on the treadmill and he is off tomorrow so hopefully I can truly be myself for the day without all the anxious feelings. Thanks again. Alison XXX

Its hard, my ex is the flirtatious type and I see him talking to the other girls in the office and it hurts. But on my strong days I know that this is only designed to hurt me cause I haven't contacted him this time and usually I would have. I am trying hard not to give him any kind of reaction. I get some comfort in the fact that I have just been promoted (temp) to be in charge of the Admin section and this seems to bother him (comments he has made to other people). Im sure it is really hard for your ex also people like my ex and and your ex's boss will do whatever they can to get attention. A xxxx

I have never done anything like this before but have been logged into to all your threads for the last few weeks and they really helped me. Thanks. I was in a relationship for over 1 1/2 years which was great for the first six months and gradually took a turn for the worst. A lot of mind games, verbal and physical abuse in the last year. I work with my ex every day and find it hard to even look at him never mind talk to him since we split up as I have had the time to think about everything that he put me through whereas before I shut all the bad things out of my mind because I loved him and felt that I needed him !!!!!!!! Does anybody know how I should be acting around him in work, (I have no contact outside of work) because he looks like the good guy in work I feel that I look like I am acting immaturely by not talking to him when really it just hurts too much to talk to him. A xxxx