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Sorry i lost focus.

The only way you give hope,IS TO GIVE HOPE.

He is not a victim he is asking questions on cutting.Hes undecided.You act as if hes lost ans there is no way of preventing this.Are you a cutter?Iwas a cutter.This is not a VICTIM this is a person,like we are.He is undecided.If I tell him one safe way to do it then im telling him one more WAY of doing it.HOw about i say "hey im thinking about slicing my wrist which vein should i cut to make it quick".Would you tell me which vein,and say to yourself ahhh hes going to do it regardless of what we say.Cutting is not simple ,cut, wipe the blood and thats it.I cut but sometimes it was too deep and had to get stiches.What happens when you hit a vein and bleeed to fast?What happens when you cant make it to the hospital.Im done.

you could be imature and buy pictures of naked guys and hang it up on your wall.Thats the immature way.Im a guy and can understand how that would make you feal.He is 19 though.Keep letting him know.If you dont like it you should keep telling him.But you know he might not get it for awhile.His friends seem to be higher on the ladder than how you feal.

Good advice nj.I was a cutter when i was young.I pushed a couple of good relationships away.It scared them bad.If you are a person that hasnt eduacated yourself on this,it does look psychotic.Me personally even though i was a cutter,if the person wasnt seeking or trying new healthy ways of coping,i wouldnt be in the relationship.I would help the person to the point were i wasnt enabling them.Because what happens when we break up am i going to be the reason they start cutting again.There is only so much you can do for the person,then they have to start and want help.Most importantly,be thier friend.Thats all you can be sometimes.

Your doing fine.There is no exacts in relationships.Stay with the e-mails if thats what he is comfortable with.Stay with what he is comfortable with.Dont push it.I know how you feal though.THe waiting game sucks.I have said it before "if it is meant to be it will be.If not there is not a damn thing you can do to make it happen.This is my experience.Be good to yourself.Dont be hard on your self.I have been in relationships were they said something small and stupid,and i blown it all out of proportion.I was looking for a excuse because i was at he end anyways.

Hey im straight but i have seen this and would like to make a comment.I am by no means telling you anything as far as dont or do.I have had friends that they told me they were gay then told me right after that in 2 minutes told me they wanted a relationship with me.This is me,he for some reason didnt know i was totally straight.I could have accepted him as gay.100% accepted him.So if he would have just stopped there.He would have known i wasnt.Because why wouldnt i be ok saying"hey i am too".All i said was umm ok.Thats fine it doesnt change us as being friends.I dont hang out with guys for anything other than/watching a football game,going out to a bar etc etc.I f nothing changes thats fine.But he followed it up without a thought "hey i want a relationship with you"Thats were we stopped as friends.I could be around him as gay,but not gay and wanting me.If you want a relationship, and i didnt tell you i was gay.Stop right there.You crossed a line.Honestly i loveeeeee girls but ok with having a gay guy friend.I dont care,i dont even think "hey hes gay".I look at him as a friend,thats it.This guy may be gay and all this may me nothing its just coming from a straight guys perspective.If you are gay and this is your lifestyle would you really want a friend that would not except you and the people you hang out with.good luck I know its not as simple as 1 2 3.It takes alot of thought.I hope this helped some.

Tell her how you feal>If you honestly want the friendship back that you had and not trying to date her.Let her know.But you its akward when you find something out like this from a friend.I have a friend that told me this recently.I feal so akward around her now.I dont want to lead her on.So i try to distance myself from her.It sucks bad.I want the friendship we had.But she gets really goofy around me now.Give it time.Give her time.We all take chances and sometimes it doesnt work out how we like.I would just back off and give her space.Or talk to her and tell her "hey i can respect,just friends".If you cant dont say it and give the relationship some space.You have no idea how things work out.

Well i guess the way i said that would sound blunt.Use your own way.Or you can leave it alone and wait for another drunk moment.That doesnt sound the way you handled it was massive rejection.Standing up and kicking him in the head would be massive.You sounded just confused.Honestly that could be scary in a situation you were not ready for.I would be the same way"how do i respond".How long have yall known each other.

Im not going to sit here and say DONT DO THIS

Why are yall telling the safest way to do this.There is no safe way.There is no best way to hide this.I was a cutter.Is this person totally decided on doing this.It doesnt sound like it to me.I think that alternatives are better.Why not tell them your expierence instead of THE SAFEST AND MOST DISCREET WAYS OF CUTTING.THey havent cut yet dont help push them into saying"hey i can do this and be safe".LIsten i am a cutter i did it alot.And there is no safe way,and no good places to hide it.GO talk to someone.PLEASE THIS IS NOT THE OPTION.Cutting is not a temporary thing.It can turn into a life long deal.We learn ways of coping with problems or life in general.Please explore other ways of coping or just thoughts of cutting period.

Are you sure your wanting to do this?Yes put a condom on.Herpes of the mouth,or somthing else you may not be ready for.Hand job....It will go anywhere.Put something over it shirt towell or whatever.Short and sweet answers.

People do strange things.Its almost cryptic.I do something and you figure out the real meaning.I have done strange things.I have had girlfriends that i would sleep with in the same bed for about a year.Man she was hot.BUt i knew we were friends and thats it.I did what your friend did.JUst to see where i stood instead of coming out and saying,"Hey this is how my feelings have changed for you".I didnt want to lose her as a friend.We had so much fun together,and i didnt want to lose that.Dont feal bad.Take into consideration what you have to go on.

COuld you call or sit with him and say "hey what happened the other night,i was kinda confused.How do you think of us?How would you describe our relationship?DONT BE UPSET WITH YOURSELF.You have no reason to.WHo knows maybe he was just being goofy.Only you will be able to figure that out.HOw did you respond to it?Was it real bad?

WOuld you ever think of him more than friends?I have used a excuse of drinking to find out if a friend wanted more than just friends.I was not confident enough to say it.I knew if i was rejected i could blame it on the liqour.I was about 20 then.It was childish but but i had no confidence.Girl and guy friends are so hard to just keep it that way.One side can change there mind at any time.Trust me i have been in the frustrating i love this girl and we are just friends relationship.But my question is would you consider dating him or do you want it to stay as friends?