Confused_987

Part 1 Part 2 Its been about 2 and half weeks or so since I've moved out. Things are getting a little better. For awhile she texted me hourly and called me 3 times a day o but in recent days its been about one text a day and one call a day. She keeps telling me s hes going to change and for me to come back home......and she cant live without me, also how she cannot be with anyone else ever again......But I'm still a little apprehensive . Could it be that I'm just not into her anymore in that way? It pains me to think like that but i guess thats just reality. Who knows... i have many feels running through me. I don't know what i feel. Its very awkward. I find myself getting anxiety about the littlest things almost like i'm trying to find an excuse to go back... Thats where the confusion and awkwardness may come from...... I know I'm supposed to cut her loose.... how come i cant? I know its really selfish and by not cutting her loose completely I'm causing her more pain......which i honestly don't want to do but she keeps feeding me lines like shes going to completely change for me. Do people change in the long run? I know this post sounds like a bunch of randomness but......... I'm feeling very torn.......and Still extremly confused,

Another Update: What a crazy day.... She called saying she wanted to come by and say a couple of things to me. I agreed, she started telling me about how everything was her fault. How she was trying to push her boundries to see how far she could go and she regrets doing so. She says she loves me so much and will do anything just to be with me. Including being more supportive. She also said she didnt expect me to take her back and move back home but she needed to get all this off her chest. I told her maybe its best we didnt talk for a week or so. She repiled with, "I cant wait around for another week and then you decide to dump me". Which is fair enough. I can understand where she's coming from. I had no real emotion, she was crying. I felt cold. I dont know why. This all lasted less then a half n hour. We hugged and i kissed her on the cheak and said i'll be in touch soon. I got out of her car walked back into my parents place and didnt look back. Could things get anymore difficult? Is her reaction normal? is my reaction normal?

what a rough day.... How painful.... She text me asking if i thought it was really over. I text her back saying it had to be because i could never see myself marrying her. We couldnt waste anymore time with each other. She then called me to say that she never wanted to talk to me again and whatnot.. and said she has a buyer coming to see our house today and wanted to know how much i wanted for it. Then asked, "Why?" Why arnt we compatiable. I told her all things i thought and she had a come back for each and everyone of them... I can hear the pain in her voice.. its killing me....i should not have dragged this out for so long....

Update: She text me asking me if i missed her. I replied with a "Why?" Then she asked me to call her. So i did. We talked a bit. It was light conversation we laughed a bit. She then asked me to cancel some of the services that we got for the house because she doesnt use them. Next thing i know shes asking me questions and asking me why i miss lead her for 4 years. Saying how could i have said i wanted to marry her and so on.... she just text me saying "Please dont call me, being mislead for so long is to painful to handle. I cant stop shaking" I text her back saying i didnt miss lead her things just happen to fall apart along the way. What do i do?!?!?

friscodj: Thanks again for the advice. I'll stay strong and keep emotions out of the situation and hopefully everything will run smoothly.

Hey everyone, i posted here about 3 months ago about my situation and felt the need to give everyone an update. This is my old thread i made 3 months ago that basically outlined the situation at hand. Its day one, I have finally moved out of our home and moved back into my parents place. Is it crazy not to feel anything? I'm not sad, mad, or hurt. If anything i'm just curious on how shes reacting and taking the whole situation. what do i do from here? should i call her to see how things are doing tomorrow? should i carry on like she has never exisisted? Just some random questions..... Tomorrow im heading back to our place to pick up the remaninder of my items and then from there we have to arrange to sell the house.. Its going to be a rough couple months.... something im not looking forward to.. Confused_987

do people actually still do that? How old is he? If he's that childish hun, you're way better off.

My family does speak greek a lot, espeically when they have company over which is most of the time. But whenever shes around i only speak in english. I'm starting to get to a point where i dont feel comfertable with her around my family anymore.

Thank you DN, I really appreciate the advise. Deep down i know what i have to do but i think i may be to much of a panzy to go through with it for whatever reason. If we do end up breaking up she would be in a much better financial state then myself. I have offered to give her 60% of the equity we have incurred in the house and anything she wanted in regards to furniture and house hold items including my 42" lcd tv. I think i might be a little scared of the whole process. The selling of the house, moving the furniture out, moving back into my parents house, and mostly what shes going to do and where shes going to go.

Hey everyone, Ive been reading these fourms for the last couple weeks and have realized a lot of people are in the same situation as I am. Which makes me feel not alone this is going to be really really long, ive held so much in for so long.... My situation goes like this: Ive been dating a girl for around 4 years. I'm 23 and she is 22 At the beginning of the realsionship it was all about sex. She had just broken up with her boyfriend of two years and i had broken up with my girlfriend of two years. Needless to say, we were both rebounds. Around 2 years ago she had to move out of her parents house due to her father being an abusive alcholholic. She ended up finding a roomate and moving out with her. Which was cool, she had her own place where we could hang out and she was away from her father. Around a year later, her roomate decided she couldnt handle living with my girlfriend anymore so she packed up and moved out. This left my girlfriend with no where to go. So i asked my parents if she could move in with us. My parents were reluctent at first but said if you're serouis about this girl then she can move in. Otherwise, no. so eventually she moved into my parents house and we lived there together for a while before buying our own place and moving in...When she moved in with my parents her realsionship with my mom had been diminishing. My mother can be a bit much. She is forign ,so a lot of things that she says do not translate well to english and end up sounding very offensive. Everyone i know loves my mother because shes kind, speaks her mind, and very funny. My girlfriend on the other hand, cant seem to stand her and thinks she is ignorant. My father has told me on a number of occasions to break up with my girlfriend. My parents and all my friends seem to tell me when i'm out without her i'm a much different person they say i'm much happier. I ended up asking her to marry me everything was ok at that point. We moved into our own place which we bought together.From the first month we have been fighting non-stop. We fight about anything and everything. Neither of us are willing to comprimise anymore and it feels like i'm at a dead end. We've been at it for about 7 months non-stop As we started to talk about the wedding I realized that it might not work. I am greek and I come from a very large and tradional background. Certan thing need to be done in order for a greek wedding to take place. There needs to be a certain amount of people at the wedding so no one gets offended. Its all very stupid sometimes, but its still tradition and the way things work. She did not agree to any of my terms of the wedding so we ended up calling it off. We're still living together, even sleep sleeping in the same bed. Sex is no exsistent but not because of her. Its because i do not want to. She asks for sex on a regular basis and i keep shuting her down. Its killing her inside i know it but i dont mean to. We no longer enjoy the same things anymore. I play basketball and she does not like coming to my games. All the other players girlfriends, wivies, and fiances are usually there but mine doesnt like going. Whenever we go out together with my friends she ends up being a damper on the evening. Even before the fighting had initally started. She had always been a damper on me evenings. I thought eventually it would get better but she feels all my friends are ignorant and rude and all my friends feel the same way about her. So my friends and family all dislike her. I'm starting to feel really lonely. We have talked many times about breaking up. We have both stated if it wasnt for this house we would have broken up by now. I feel very frustrated with her all the time and i dont know why. I dont like hanging out with her, i dont like affection, i dont even like talking to her anymore but for some reason i feel an obligation to protect her. I'm affraid of what would happen to her if we break up. She has no where to go. She cannot go back home and she has no other friends that she is able to move in with. Also, she has no other friends that she would really be able to hang out with after i'm gone as well. To make matters worse, i have recently been falling for other girls. I havent phsically cheated on her but i feel with all the emotion i'm putting into the other girl, i have cheated. For some reason, i feel like i'm getting old. I know 23 isnt that old but everyone around me seems to be getting married and engaged or starting to date new people.. I'm starting to feel behind. I feel like i want to take a big step back and just leave everything and go and discover myself.... I dont know i'm so confused... I really hope this made sense. Even if no one responds to this i'm finally happy i was able to get this off my chest. Thanks to anyone who reads this.. God bless.