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Wow! Thanks you guys! both of you for your advice...what you both said really got to me and makes a LOT of sense... he called me last night and again told me how much he loved me ...but this was after a whole day of being out with his friends and talking to me only for a minute at a time when i called! Tonight theres a laker game we were SUPPOSED to go watch it together....let me see if that will actually happen...if it doesnt im going to be so mad if he says hes going with his friends...i HATE his friends and i KNOW for a fact they are jealous! of him and of me. But the truth is that i love him hes my first love...no guy has ever made me feel the way he does and he says the same to me... I really hope he shapes up his act...OH yeah and another thing is he used to have this friend that i did not like at all who would want to always always go out on the weekeneds with him and be with him day and night... well that friend went away to live somewhere else... and things were great! well now... HES BACK! i hate it! hes been with my bf everyday since hes been back! i cant stand it ! well thanks again!

Cobro, the last sentence on your second post makes a lot of sense...dont worry.. as time goes by your those bad feelings will go away...you also asked " why is she after this guy if hes such a looser and jack@ss? " Well, let me tell you something about girls..wether they like to admit it or not its true that girls like guys that treat them bad.. cuz whena girl gets treated too good they feel like there is no challenge and that the guy is whipped on them so they have a tendency of not caring as much... But when the guy acts careless the girl is more attracted to him... thats just the way its been and its the way it will be.. im not saying be a complete @sshole to her but dont ever be too nice to girl if you dont want her to lose interest or act shady.

Well...i love my bf and we've been together for almost one year. Of course we argue and have problems liek all other relationships..but we both are crazy about each other.. recently ive been having more and more problems with him. But i know leaving him is not and option..we always talk about marriage..and when we are together its GREAT! BUT... i dont like his friends.. at all! they always come between us.. ALWAYS.. they always want to go out to clubs.. i hate that.. and now for our one year anniversary instead of being with me his friends are planning a trip.. and guess what?? hes going... and am i invited ?? no.. why? cuz im a girl and they are a bunch of guys and they dont want me to be there.. im and NOT okay with this.. and he knows its not okay.. its our ONE YEAR ! and now lately hes been changing..i know he loves me but he does things to push my buttons.. i dont know if its on purpose or just because.. but everything hes been doing has been pissing me off lately! Last night i couldnt stop crying thinking about the trip and how hes going to party with his friends...and without me.. i coudlnt stop crying.. then this really attractive guy that ive known for a bout a year called em and asked me to hang out.. he knows i have a bf but he likes me even tough he knows im taken.. hes a cool guy and ive hung out with him a few times ..not just me and him.. with friends too.. but last night he called me and asked to hang out.. i was so mad that i went to meet up with him at restaurant and we had a few drinks then he tried to kiss me and i did... i feel weird today but i still feel like me doing that doesnt add up to the way my bf treated me. i keep telling him to stop hurting me and he keeps doing it.. so i didnt think twice about the kisss.. i dont know what to do anymore..im crazy in love with my bf..but things just change afer a while i guess. kissing the other guy just mde me realize how much i love my bf.

When i first met my boyfriend, everything was GREAT! he was great i fell in love with him we would always go out together ( everywhere including clubs ) and have fun..... but NOW... after a year things have dramatically changed... for the worse! a couple of months ago i found out that after we had an argument he went out with his friends to a club ( which i knew about ) but then i found out he DANCED with THREE different girls that night... one of whom he had JUST MET... then when i confronted him he tried to deny it at first but then came clean.. after all this everything went from worse to HELL! we went out a couple of times after that incident ( now when he goes out most of the time he just goes out with his stupid friends ... only God knows what they do! ) and he doesnt even invite me! this past month he has turned into someone i dont know... when we go out all these girls come up to him and touch him and flirt and he just stands there and takes it...even when im there! then hell just say... oh theyre my friends... WHAT!?!?! and on top of it all when they see him hug me and kiss me they give me dirty looks! the clubbing scene has torn our relationship apart.... we had a loving relationship... a trusting one..now its LOVE one minute HATE the next... i dont know what to do... hes saying im too overprotective and that he wants to break up... and maybe get back together in the future.. but no way thats ok with me because i know in the meantime that we arent together hell go out with other girls.. go out to these stupid clubs and do things i would never be able to except ...not now not later! so now my heart is broken... the love of my life....my first love...my everything is slowly turning into a SLUTTY GUY....actually he already has.. and now i have absolutely no trust.. i cant even trust him at the GYM. Because i have this image of him talking and flirting with every girl.. and ive seen it with my own two eyes so it hurts even more.. and now when he goes out with his friends... no matter what i do.. even if i go out with my friendsi think about him all night and what hes doing... i was never like this and i hate it.. i hate being so bothered all the time and thinking that hes out doing things he wouldnt want me to do with other guys! the one thing i do know for a fact.. is that hes never cheated and thats just one of the reasons im with this guy.. but then again he flirts.. is that cheating??? what about dancing at clubs???? what about meeting girls and talking to them / dancing with them at clubs??? cheating???