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  1. it's just weird. At 1:30am on a weeknight, I would have most definitely answered if she had been in an accident or if there was some other emergency, but to leave no message, the thought dawned on me, that that is the very reason NOT to answer or call back, but she'd never know that it is that kind of behavior that is self-defeating. I was thinking to myself a minute ago "I'm happy now, and anything like weird phone calls serves only to disturb my peace." of course, it didn't.
  2. she did, at friggin' 1:30am Tuesday morning. I saw it on my caller I.D., but I didn't pick up. she left no message. It isn't that big of a deal, as I went back to bed, and I have not, and will not call back. But still, it begs the question "why?" I guess I just wanted to post here for the reason being that that is what this forum is for. She does have me guessing, which is the whole purpose of her call, I think. To make me wonder about her.but if she's calling at 1:30am, I think her wonder is more, or she decided to "drink n' dial." Gee Wiz! comments?
  3. I was just being silly about thanking your ex. all I meant was that you're in touch with your feelings. Think about it. I'm not stronger than you, you're just as strong. Strength comes from being in touch with yourself. question: why would things get out of hand? you're in control. if you don't want to move fast, then don't. this time around, mac, you will get what you're asking for. If you know she is a rebound, let her know (nicely,) if she is a good honest woman, she'll understand, and appreciate that you told her. It'll keep her from feeling like you used her. Be the "stand-up guy." if you don't want things going all out of control, then hold your horses. what's the rush?
  4. Sissy? mac, you sound like a real man. you're conscious of how you feel, and you're conscious of this other woman, and how she may feel. You're a real man, with real feelings, if anything, thank your ex for making you feel alive! Sorry I keep post after posting, but there is a lot to learn and comment on, all coming from you...take it S...L...O...W...L...Y...
  5. Hey mac, take it slow, take it slow. watch lost, but don't get "lost" in it. I too am kind of seeing someone, it isn't a rebound, as I haven't been with anyone for a year, but I still want to take it slow. this girl I've been seeing is nice, intelligent, and attractive. I see myself having a good good friend, if nothing happens. She knows about my breakup, as I told her, and she was very understanding. She's a catch, that's why it's worth everything to be friends for a time and see where it goes. The line between what you want and what you need isn't all that hard to see, if you're thinking. I know I want to be in this girl's orbit, and yes, she is attractive to where I want to sleep with her. I have thought about it, and it's a very pleasing thought, though at the same time, I feel I have made such a nice friend with her, that "going all the way" at this point is going to the movies and having veggie burgers at Native Foods. I'm enjoying myself. She called me on Saturday night to inform me that the Shins were playing on TV. Says she "I just thought of you, and I wanted to let you know." That was sweet, and I am savoring these small things. She calls me "sweetie." I'm not about to ruin anything like that, because this girl is a keeper. As a partner or as a good friend, I do intend to keep around her. She's very nice. If i feel i am ready for a "next step," then I will take it. for now, I'm having too much fun just making her laugh. Take it slow slow slow, Mac, you won't regret it. Conversely, she just might feel that the next step is soon, and if she does, she'll let YOU know. feel it out, think, and enjoy an episode of Lost, where is the harm in that?
  6. I had to chime in on this. I've been NC for two months. I feel so much better. No confusion, no scrambled mind, and a chance to really heal my heart. NO CONTACT is the perfect prescription for a broken heart.
  7. Thanks for this.Actually I had a Friendgirl (she's a girl, and she's my friend, she's a friendgirl, as opposed to a girlfriend) come over last night and make me dinner. that was nice. Tonight there is another girl that I am going out with. I'm not looking to fall in love. To be true, I am enjoying being by myself. I'm surprising myself every step of the way. Not that every surprise is a good one, but they are surprises nonetheless. I am so much more comfortable in my skin than I was, and I listen to what my gut tells me, more than I ever did. I'm doing great, I'm feeling great! Now, if a speacial lady comes along and likes what she sees and hears coming from my mouth, that will be the next step. Don't get me wrong, I am doing wonderfully, but I still have fears, but as i see it, that's just human. I have hopes, too, and that is also human. I think that what I am doing, even on a subconscious level, is t aking my time. I'm 33, there is time for everything, and there is no need for rushing anything. I'm ok.
  8. Always look forward. Gee, I really wish I could tell the secret, but there is no secret, we're all different. One thing that helped me, though was (and still is) in thinking that this woman is a person, not a god. This is a person, that just as I looked up to her, it's also possible to look straight and say "I deserved better than this." That realisation has helped me tremendously, and you can't buy that, only go through it until you see for yourself.
  9. I went through a similar thing. My ex had her stuff at my place, basically using me as a storage facility for three months, while she found an apartment. her mail would still come. I demanded (politely) that she come and get her things. She started with the "why are you being mean?" I said I was not being mean, and having her things out of here was about me, not her. I wanted to move on. As far as the mail goes, I told herI would not longer be calling her to come pick it up, but I would be throwing it away like I would a pizza or supermarket flyer. She stepped up to the plate changed her address, and removed her things from my place pretty quick after that.
  10. Thanks Orlander. I guess it is a kind on Independence day for me. I do feel at peace. So many things that bothered me in the last year seem to have just faded into the blue. I needed to realise that most of it was internal, hence the value of NO CONTACT. It made me look at me, and realise what I have control over, and what I don't. It's helped me so, so much. Hey Mcgyver: never never lose hope. We're human, Hope is what we have, and hope helps us move and do things. Keep doing, Keep the hope for yourself.
  11. Tonight is one full year that my ex-girlfriend became my ex-girlfriend, and was no longer my partner. She left with her lover and didn't come home. I've tried all day to associate the pain of that day with this day, but I can't shake the feeling of peace, just peace.
  12. Hey man, get that cell back from her. she can go to hell. Let call him from a pay phone! she's calling him at your expense, literally. My ex and i also shared a cell plan under her name. I got a house phone and gave it back right quick. afterward just give the phone to a family member or someone you trust that can use a cell.
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