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I think so.. Really, I have the feeling everything's messed up in my life, especially the girls part.. And it's all caused by my shyness... And I hate myself for being such a coward in social situations... I'd give anything to be a better person..

That all sounds really familiar Thanks for your advice It's more a general feeling, although there was one girl I was interested in until a few days ago.. I finally thought it was working, and I had a few great weeks with her.. I did everything she asked, I also bought her flowers... A few days ago she told me I was boring, and she thought I was around her too much..

17 I'm not sure.. I just have the feeling I need to be take care of, I need some comfort, I need a hug from time to time... Thanks for the advice, but that doesn't really help me.. When I think about it (logically) you're right... But I'm still afraid to be outgoing, and I'm also not really sure what to say to people etc.

I hate myself because I'm shy.. I really hate myself.. I have trouble meeting new people, especially girls.. At the moment I guess I really need a girlfriend.. And I can't even meet a girl.. And when I have the guts to talk to one, I'm really boring because I'm not sure what to say. I see other guys just having fun with girls, playing games.. I wish I'd be more like those people..

Thanks for the advice. The past few days I really put a lot of effort in praticing talking, and although it's really hard, it's going a little bit better already..

Thanks for all your help.. But I guess a large part of my problem is that even when I talk about things you suggested, they seem to be bored. I guess I'm not that good on talking in an interesting way.. Any advice on that?

First of all, I appreciate your advice. I never said I'm spending all of my time behind a computer, but I do spend a large amount of time behind it. Although it's one of my hobbies, I really should spend less time behind the computer, although it's hard not to do it, because I haven't really got much else to do. Sometimes I go skateboarding with some friends, and I also spend al lot of time (alone) playing the guitar. (Learned that all by myself) But I actually I would like to do some more together with friends, but I have to admit I don't have a really big group of friends. I don't know why, a lot of people like me, but I'm not really friends with a lot of people. With girls, it's far worse, they don't even like me at all, although it's getting better since I try to be more outgoing and talk with them. I would especiacially love it if I could just do some fun stuf and hang out with girls, without feeling terribly shy. Well, PLANNED doesn't sound good. I tried preparing conversations with girls a few times already, but the girls don't respond the way I wanted them, making the situation even more uncomfortable to me, than when I just don't know what to say anymore. That doesn't sound silly, it's actually what I decided I wanted to do. The problem is, I'm still not sure how. The 'laughing at myself', I've never really understood what people mean with that, and I'm still not sure about it.

lol, well, actually I already knew not to ask these things.. Your other advice was some help to me however

I found that out already, still thanks.. But I have no clue what to say and what to talk about, any advice on that?

Well, it's a long time since I last posted here actually. I was really shy and afraid of girls. I still am actually, but it's already a lot better now.. Although I find when talking to girls, I actually have nothing to talk about.. I guess my life's just boring.. (I'm actually behind my computer most of the day to be honest, and well, girls don't think that's interesting Can somebody give me some advice on what to talk about when talking to a girl?

One is not better than the other, but I for example want to be more outgoing and more talkative.. I would probably give anything to be able to be that person I want to be.. So from a persons point of view, one of those two things can be better than the other.

Hi.. I can't really help you I guess, but I wanted you to know I'm kinda in the same situation you are in.. I'm still in HS, but it's my last year. Anyway, what you describe really looks like my situation. It's quite hard for me to speak to other peoply, I'm really shy, I'm not confident, girls seems to ignore me.. I've also thought about committing suicide or harming others who took adventage of me, but I'm also just too nice to do that.. I'm glad to know there are more people sharing the same problem... And maybe you will feel good about that too.. Good luck

I'm just starting to become less shy, especially with girls.. And well, talking to just one girl (that walks alone or something) is now a possibility for me and I'm getting a little bit better and more comfortable around girls.. But, usually, girls are together.. And I don't know how to deal with a group of girls... Especially when there are also some girls I don't know standing there.. Btw, I still have a lot more problems talking to girls I don't know... Well, any suggestoions/help is welcome... You've already helped me a lot!

Guess you're right I know I should think about what I did achieve, and that I shouldn't think about what I didn't, but still, I really thought I improved myself a lot (in a week time) but it turned out that I'm not really changed, and I'm really disappointed because of that. I really hope that I will be able to make those changes.. But I hope I will, and I hope that I'm going to get a lot better in handling social situations, and being more spontaneous and outgoing. Thanks. Guess I'm going to need it

Thanks, but you know, I actually have the feeling that it doesn't seem to be working, no matter how hard I'll try. But, I guess I should keep trying. But really hate the fact that today didn't go exactly as I planned Guess that's a good thing to do.. You're right that the goals I want to reach can be looked at in many ways. I also think that I just want to do more than I'm able to, and well... it does really disappoint me.. I'm really disappointed by the way things didn't go the way I wanted to day.. I actually really thought I was able to do everything I wanted to be able to do, today, but it seems I can't yet.. But I guess you're right.. Thanks