James Pohn

No reallly i dont want her back. it was sex and i guess ego as Lambert said. Which is not good. On instagram and Facebook, the first one to block doesn't appear anymore. you cannot block back and thats where she came back from Next time if she does come back i have to block her back right away. I was doing so great during 3 weeks..jeez i was weak !

Hi thanks for your long and detailed answer. Thats what I don't know with that woman. It is always ambiguous, but when she explains it later it is clear. So sometimes I think I am becoming crazy...but on the other hand its not by chance she does it.. All my friends tell me she does it on purpose, that she is somewhat toxic and even for sex i shouldn't agree. But I cannot believe it because I dont know why she would do that, what she would gain from that... And that is exactly why I answered to her. I thought i could handle just sex, guess i was wrong. You are right about the chaos..nothing good is coming from here. And she blocks me, then unblock me (as i said i cannot block her if she does first) and talks to me...next time i need to stay strong and block back directly. You think she sees I am "nice" and take advantage of that ? Because Just so you know, she friendzoned all her ex /friend with benefits and they all accepted to become friends. She was often talking to one of her ex "sexfriend" when i was with her, even seeing him ..i found it strange (remaining friend with somebody you slept two times with, it didn't make sense to me) I am the only one to have said no. And she told me she was "shoked" by that.

Yes. Again she blocked me on social media first so i couldn't do it. Like she did now. In two months since the breakup i didnt want a GF. I dont like to jump from relationship to relationship. better to heal no? I dont understand the human nature i think. I never had a girl trying to come back again and again like that. And I always try to see the good in people. And she has no purpose in trying to keep me under the hook. ..

I think you are right . I am mostly detached, but parts of me are still attached. Well it's just 2 1/2 months since the breakup. But i never wrote back. And honnestly the last 3 weeks i didnt think about her ..until she reached out. Now its like i go back in the healing process a little bit. Its because all that hot and cold remind me of what she did at the breakup.. and because i though there was some respect between us. So making hopes and then blocking like that...its no respect at all. Now i hope that she doesent reach out again. I cannot block her since she did it first. Haha

Hi Kwothe28, Well yes I thought I was going great after 2 months. I thought that having only sex would be okay. But even that seems soooo complicated with her. I understand what you say. But I was clear that I never take an ex back, and that sex is the only thing I take. I also told her that friendship would never happen as I dont want it. I honestly dont see what she would gain of all that.. after just a 6 month relationship.. coming back, making hopes again and stuff like that..she even told me that "we couldnt take back where we stopped our relationship ", I said I totally agree. So I thought she was totally over as well..but I dont know...she remained ambiguous like always..even if she thinks/say she's not...i cannot believe after all that, that she just doesn't know how to communicate cleary, that she is just clumsy... she really wants to play with my mind..but she has nothing to gain from it....i dont know ..its like she stay ambiguous on purpose...even if when she explains things it makes sense... it's like she wrote to me on purpose when i was going on vacation (like "hey lets have sex but too bad..you are 8000 miles away..too bad...i will make you jealous as well during your vacation" 🤣")

Hi everyone! I hope all of you are going fine ! For me it as been better ...until my ex unblocked me and contacted me again . As i had good time with a few girls, i thought, that after 2 month i would have been good and having "intercourse" with her would have been possible..i guess i was wrong! she texted me out of the blue,and long story short she came at my place one evening. Already the day she should have come , she texted me strange stuff like "my sexy dress is now in washing, i put it to go out last week" (she knew i loved that dress). "but tonight i put something quiet its not a date". ..It was like she was testing me. Anyway i had a nice evening with her , she was close to me all the evening, wanting contact. But refused a kiss. She then told me it wouldnt be a good idea because "she left me and it was her wrong doing" I said i was just interested in sex , not getting back with her because i never take an ex back. She said she would think about that but now she doesnt want a guy in her life, her kids are her priority. Saturday, on my way to Mexico for a vacation with some friends, i received a text from her : " good vacation , lets meet when you comme back in two weeks if you are single 😉" I was thrilled and send "good for me, see you" but i dont know why...i smelt it wouldnt go right (why would she text me at the beginning of my vacation when i am at the other part of the world...).and it didnt...the next day, when i landed in mexico , she texted me " hey i am trying Tinder again, maybe i will meet somebody till you come back " I was like..why does she agree to have sex like i proposed and that she doesn't want somebody in her life..and now suddenly try a dating app...i simply answered " great, he can keep you busy when you dont see me ;)" But again yesterday she sent me "hey i have a date on friday, when do you come back already?" I was pissed of because i didnt see why she would say that again..I told her I would come back in two weeks and that I didnt care about that, that she is free ...and she bloked me everywhere again... I felt bad today..i sent her a mail and she answer that she blocked me because it was not a good idea to have sex with an ex, and that she felt "ready to have something serious again with somebody"... but why block me in the first place..why not say it and then block me..its so rude and it doesn't make sense..also the timing..suddenly she wants to try something serious even if she said the contrary ....and at the same time she agreed to have sex again.. its ambiguous like always...its like she bloked me to have a reaction from me.. i am thinking that either i am fool or she is fool with me and she wants to drive me crazy...really...nothing make sense... thanks guys ! lesson learned i guess...

Hi Tinydance. You shouldn't feel bad about that whole thing. He clearly is immature because of his lack of experience in relationships. Honestly, i would even say that , like other said, he was just happy to have a first relationship. He doesn't know what it takes to make a relationship work. Not being an addict is normal..(nooo reaaally?🤦‍♂️) and doesn't justify why you should stay with somebody. And he went mental at the breakup because his first "trophy" went AWOL. Speaks more about his lack of maturity at his age. The fact you show here you cared about how he would feel, tells me enough to say you are a great person. Take care of yourself, you have time ahead of you to have children 🙂

You are probably right. I will let her br with her "rebound". I always had empathy for my exes. Never in bad terms. But that one, no way. Even if she told me how bad her situation was, it is not my job to fix her anyway. I hope she'll find peace in the future however.

I deleted her and blocked her as i said (already 4 days ago). Thats a friend who told me. is friendzone not when a girl put an ex (or somebody) as as a friend? or do you mean also as an orbiter, in case her new relationship doesn't work? Because when she said "we could have tried again", its even worse than friendzone. Its like she wants both me and him at the same time... thats why i felt bitter. Having sex once the breakup is over yes (even if its early), but that and false hoping your ex is kind of next level " lets see if the grass is greener there and if not, lets come back here") And oh, so you just know: when i blocked her on whatsap and insta and all that stuff, i forgot to do for the normal phone. She texted me that "it was a lack of respect to have blocked her everywhere". So even with that, she is not okay haha. Now she is also blocked on the "normal" number as well.

Yes. What make me almost laugh is that , as I said , right before the vacation, when everything was good, she showed me that this guy was asking her out. She then put him in her place coldly. Now one week later, she is with him?? She seems to like the attention. She cannot nearly block him one week before because he wanted to go with her, and suddenly ask him out ... Is this really how a sane woman would be ?

Thanks you. I am still so surprised. How can she be with him and still write to me at the same time. Its so not right

I want to send her how i feel. Do i have right to feel so angry and sad? How to overcome that.

I feel so bad..you are so right. A friend saw her with a guy. That guy tried to be with her right before the vacations (when everything was good between us). At that time in the past, She showed me the messages with him. She wrote him "im a in a couple, not interersted". Now, she is with him. I am literally down. At the same time, she text me to make me false hopes. It hurts. A lot

Hi guys. I reflect here my thoughts of the weekend. Better here than unblock her and write to her 🙂 I feel angry, with a lot of questions running in my head. Why recontact me even if i made clear i didnt want to be friends ? Why accept to see me, make sexual allusions, use the old sweet name she gave me...and then cancel and not talk anymore. And with all those thoughts, i find her pretty cruel, like she wanted to dig in the open wound again. And i feel angry against her. But i won't unblock her or write her my angry thoughts. I feel like I have to keep that energy for me, to move on. I hope every one of you had a great weekend!

Yes thats the conclusion i came to. When she agreed to see me (before cancelling it) , i feared what would happen next. I would never be comfortable around her if she wanted to rekindle. I would fear the next breakup...because she dumped me with no fault on my side...