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  1. If you said that to me 5 months ago, I'd have just nodded in agreement. The problem is that she doesn't look plain to me at all now. Maybe I should take a week off and hide somewhere in the mountains before I do anything further.
  2. I didn't hook up just yet. I don't know what to do. But I like the player perspective. Dating 100+ women, and then lecturing 1 guy who wants to date 1 woman. I'm starting to wonder how many of those women I asked out at one point or another were treating me like a creep because they had a smooth talker who knew just what to say and when, with that experience from his 100+ other women. Anyway, that's just me being bitter. I have no idea if I want to be a step dad, and I don't think I want to break that other guy marriage. But, whatever I do, 6 months are gone, and probably another 6 with me wallowing in self-pity after I take your advice. Then, I'll be back again, wiser, and even older.
  3. I don't know what she wanted. I'm a man of numbers. I don't like to act without proof. Plus, I don't want just sex. I want something I've never had, which is a good long term relationship. I'm just too confused at this moment and overwhelmed. I might go tomorrow evening and ask her straight about what she wants from me.
  4. I feel like at this point, whatever I do, it will be wrong. If I distance myself from her, I will probably feel like I missed a huge opportunity. I've been single for a very long time, and trying to date outside work didn't produce any kind of results. On the other hand, if I go out with her, there are two additional people I didn't think about at all. I have a bad feeling about continuing on this path.
  5. I posted here before, months ago. I was complaining I couldn't find a woman to my liking. Well, that changed in an unexpected way. I met her at my workplace. She came in two years ago, and all I knew about her was that she was nice and talkative. Almost a year ago, she got transferred to our department, and she works in an office just two doors from mine. At the time, I would just notice her on the hallways or in the copier room but I wouldn't engage her. I didn't think she was especially pretty, but I've always thought she had a lot of taste (hairdo, dresses). Now I'm catching myself thinking she looks like my dream girl. In February, I had a really rough patch at work. One project was ending, and the deadline was mercilessly breathing down one my neck. There were uncompleted tasks, team members were tired and stressed out and we were short staffed. She isn't in my team, but she knew about our work. So, I meet her by the coffee machine, asks me out of the blue how things are going (it was the first time we talked to each other), and I tell her. She replies that she admires people who can stay in control amidst so much chaos. Since then, we kept meeting occasionally and we'd always have good conversations. At some point, I started telling her jokes. I thought I've exhausted all my jokes with the women I tried to court unsuccessfully before. I knew she was married, and I thought it was so cool that I can be friends with a woman without all that relationship thing ever coming up. Then April 14-th came. It was a cold day. She came in from somewhere, her face red from cold, and there were a few strands of sweaty hair sticking to her face. I don't know how to describe that moment, but I felt like falling down inside myself. Since then, I often space out thinking of her. I kept talking to her at work, until she started inviting me to get togethers with other colleagues. I usually avoid those, because I often get bored with the conversations. But, it was nice, especially because she was around. Then, one day, she brings her five-year-old to work and asks me to watch him for a little while. The kid was very nice and babysitting didn't feel like work. It should be mentioned that other colleagues and friends of hers have watched the kid before, so I didn't think anything of it. As time went on, our conversations got deeper, but we always danced around the subject of relationships and marriage. But she is not shy to bring sex and relationships up when she talks to other colleagues. On one occasion she let it slip that her husband won't sleep with her anymore and on another that he was very jealous. I've seen her husband twice since I know her. He seemed like a normal guy. But over the last few months, I understood from other colleagues and her that they separated. I'm not sure about it, and I have not asked her directly. Then, sometimes in June, she asked me to play ping pong with her after work. We've been playing ever since and I enjoy it. Two weeks ago she asked me to go shopping with her. She bought a large TV and I brought it to her apartment. It was not my first visit, but it was the first time we were alone. She asked me to stay and fixed some drinks. We talked and talked, and had she not been married, I would have jumped her then and there. That happened the other Friday. On Monday she was distant. She seemed bothered by something, because she kept sighing. On Tuesday she had a phone call and she locked herself in her office, but I heard her screaming into the phone. Later, we went out for a late lunch with one of our common friends in the office. She seemed distraught, so I tried to calm her down, telling her jokes and stories. She didn't say much, but at some point she whispered something like "if I don't end up in bed with you by tonight". I asked her what she meant, and she told me she didn't say anything at all. But that disturbed me greatly and since then I've been toying with the idea of asking her out on a real date, complete with wine, candles and dinner, which, if she were single, I would have done already. Sorry for writing so much about the situation, but I need some outside insight. I need to know if I should pursue her, or not.
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