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One of the best ways to get rid of shyness is to just embarrass the crap out of yourelf Seriously though, just be you, open up, don't be afraid of saying the wrong thing, cause truth is, you can't. People are gonna like you for you. Maybe it's just your perception on the situation that makes you believe you aren't getting any attention from the gals. As far as a turn off goes...some girls like shy guys, it's a cute characteristic, but what they really like is a confident guy. Just remember, you're in highschool, and while it may seem like these people have the most important opinions in the world right now, you probably won't see most of them after you graduate. Now is THE best time to make your embarrassing mistakes, get comfortable with yourself, and most of all, just have fun! When it comes to talking to people, practice makes perfect, best way to get rid of the shyness is to just start talking to people, about anything you can think of, sometimes it might be cheesey, take it in stride, it's how you learn.

Nah, I wouldn't say they are "drifting" just cause they are in separate rooms. They live together for cryin out loud! lol. But they could be drifting for other reasons, such as not having much in common? You've gotta look at a couple things here. Sure you love him, he's probably great. Exactly how compatible are you two? There's gotta be /something/ ya'll like doing together. If there's aboslutely nothing, Im not sure why exactly you enjoy spending time with eachother. The other thing that needs to happen is some compramise. Sounds to me like this guy is hooked on compics, and needs to get off of it before it's too late. Make it a plan to go OUT at least once a week, whether it be to eat, a cafe, a club, whatever, something not in the house...if he cares about maintaining this relationship with you at all, I don't think once week is too much to ask. But something's gotta give, or 007 is right on the money, and things have already been drifting for some time now, *nods* I hope things get better, keep us updated!

First off, it's not like that anymore, women are starting to ask men out just as much as we ask them. Second of all, the games are for those who are doing just that, playing games. Stop asking yourself all these silly questions like, "should I call her, should she call me, does she like me?" Look, it's so obvious that it's become difficult for people. If you want to call her, call her. If you don't get through, leave a message, and she'll get back to you. If not, she's not interested. If you do get through, ask her out on a date, if she says yes, obviously she's interested enough to give you a try, don't sweat it too much either way. Know what I think the real problem is? A lot of people want and expect to find the right woman instantaneously. So you meet this cute girl, have a great conversation, and all of a sudden you start freaking out about whether or not she likes you, when you gotta take a step back and realize that you don't even /know/ this person. The best relationships come from friendships. Why? Because you actually took the time to get to know this person and develop /real/ feelings for them, instead of just jumping into it with a person you thought you knew, then come to find wasn't what you expected. And no, nice guys don't really finish last. I don't believe I've ever lost a girl because I was too nice. Probably cause I didn't listen, or neglected her...Problem with nice guys who think it's their kindness that loses women is that they still have a lot to learn about women!

I enjoyed reading that, thanks for posting!!

I believe in soulmates...sort of. But I tell you what, I won't believe it or use the term till I'm married to the person for 40 years or something. "The danger of this is that later, after years of playing, we will meet our Soul mate, but it may be too late then.We may have already made a Life mate of our Playmate and created life-long bonds (emotional, children, etc.)" ^ Sounds like somebody having troubles in a relationship who ends up having an affair because things aren't all smiles at the moment. It's called bumps...and unless Im wrong, you even have them with a soul mate Only reason I believe in "soul mates" really is just that I believe things happen for a reason. There's a reason you meet certain people, blah blah blah...but that doesn't mean you met them to be with them forever, so yeah. Here's how I look at it. Treat the person like a seed. The more you take care of it, water it, nurture it, the better the seed will grow, and the more fruit it will bare. Give it too much water and it drowns, not enough and it gets dehydrated. Give it too much sun and it dries up, not enough and it wilts. Always communicate with your seed, it helps it grow better. So folks, take good care of that seed, and it'll grow to last a lifetime

Well to be honest I imagine porn stars are probably the best lovers...after all it's their job. Ah but seriously, what kind of question is that? Are you dating an astronomer or something? That just seems like a random profession to pick and say "these guys are the best lovers". It's just something that doesnt apply to professions.

I've never been to a bar (age thing), but I can tell you what I know. You can't MAKE a girl like you or go out with you. One good thing you can do though is be yourself.

And yeah wlfpack...those are the kinds of guys girls date...but not for long! And the real men are there shortly after, picking up the pieces that these "tough guys" left behind...

Just make sure that she knows you're coming when you hug her from behind...don't wanna scare her or anything . And hey! literally drawing on somebody with a pen is fun you use the right kind of pen at least, lol. I know a girl I was with loved it. It's like doing a soft/less permanent tattoo...dunno, I'm draw a lot, might have something to do with it!

I did date a girl for 2 years without having sex. I tell you what, I'll never do it again, lol. Mosty just because I'm a sexual person. It's possible. Is it logical? If you're saving yourself for marriage, yeah, other than that, I dont think it's necessary.

Not sure what to tell you on that one. Honesty says "right now I'm just doin my own thing, I don't really want to try persuing any friendships" Will this make you a jerk? I don't think so. Will it hurt her feelings, probably...just by the fact of what it is. But it's really up to you what you want to do. I think it's better than leading somebody on *shrugs*

yeah I wasn't trying to come off badly. Sounds like a good plan. Of course nobody likes to be told their clingy either, but I think there's better ways to go about it if you try, and still be pretty honest and forward. "I'd rather hang by myself today/night, I need some "me" time"...I dunno, that does seem like just a temporary thing, but yeah, it's better than being ignored.

First off, not trying to be mean, but please quit putting yourself down...it's not fun to read, and it doesn't do you any personal good...so be a little more confident I'm sure you aren't that bad of a guy at all. I don't see any harm in being friends with this girl. You stopped just because she was being clingy? Did it ever occur to you that she might actually LIKE you and wanted something beyond a friendship? I really don't think she's trying to contact you and wants to hang out because she doesn't really mean it...I mean, why would she bother if you are already not there? Do you want to be friends with her? if so, harbor a friendship, no harm in that, but...it involves communication. If somebody is being clingy and getting too close for comfort, you need to let them know that so they at least have a chance to fix that before you just ignore and avoid them. If you don't want a friendship with this person, I think you should tell her that. Oh, and don't be ashamed of who/what you are. If you're happy with yourself, who cares?

Well first off, you are going to need to find something you are both interested in or things that you feel strongly about. The other day I had a great conversation with my girl about the death penalty. Before that we talked about abortion/adoption, stuff like that, where as I learned a good deal about her upbringing (I found out she was adopted), and how that strongly influences somebody's points of views. And they don't even have to be topics like that. yeah, eventually somebody's childhood history runs out and you need different things to talk about, lol...so, have any passions you would like to talk with him about?

If you don't allow yourself to trust or like anyone, it WILL be a break up. But I don't imagine you're about to just jump into another relationship anytime soonish anyways. Once you've moved on completely I imagine and hope that you'll see things in a better light I've learned that relationships are a beautiful thing, whether they turn out good or bad. There isn't a better life experience. What once started out for me as being a way to give meaning to my life, has turned into something beyond what I could have imagined. Much to my rents dismay, I've always followed my heart, and let me tell you, it takes me some crazy places...as of now, it's about to take me to australia for a while!