PHillwife

TRUST ME... if she can't let go she can't move on... I'm starting to think that is my problem...

Been there... i am there. I have finally decided I need to stop this insanity. It's going to be so hard we both have a daughter and we own a house...i have no ideawhat i will do

I did very well for myself and was very happy on my own. I live in my own home and my daughter and I were best friends. I am happy now, except for this lingering plague of having ruined his life.

I don’t think so. I mean I am still heavier than when he met me. I’ve lost about ½ the weight. I think I just married him for the wrong reasons. I could live my life faking it, but who is that good for?

NOTHING. no chaos, no drama, nothing. We have all our bills paid, the kids are doing well in school. It's a picture perfect little life. I kept thinking this was the stress of this that and the other, but there is no this that or other now...

I thought I did. But the more I reflect, I was doing alot of what everyone expected. It was the "perfect marriage" 2 single parents coming together to make this "perfect family" and it is... buttt yet.... it still isn't fair.

yes. I get so sad when he tells me how much he loves me. because I know I just don't love him as much as i should it feels like a brick on my chest. I hide in the bathroom and just cry sometimes. It breaks my heart, but I know he should have someone that really loves him the way he deserves

I love my husband. He has been nothing but wonderful. He has supported me in all my crazy behavior, even through my weight gain lossof libido and my now new found way of eating and wonderful weight loss. As much as I love him, he loves me more. I can’t begin to match the love and affection he gives me. I feel like I should love him more and he deserves so much better. I know there is a woman out there that can give him what he needs, wants and deserves. SO how do I ask him for a divorce? It’s going to break his heart, but I know it would be better for him. We have only been married a year, but I think we may have rushed things and I feel he needs more love than I will ever be able to offer him.

yopu might also talk to the local Hospice organisation. They can alot of times organize all this for you. They will do all the transport for you along with the appropriate supervision. Also, he may not be able to fly at all. my Grandmother was transported by train.

For those of you that have seen my previous posts, you know what a personal battle I have had regarding my step-daughter's bio-mother her new baby and how to handle the recente-mail of her giving me all her parental rights. WE spoke to my husband's lawyer, and she said according to the paperwork that the judge signed in February, she really has no parental rights except child support. the paper work contains the prrof of neglect ans abuse. So there is no reason that we should take up her offer to hand over everything. All it will really do is relieve her of any support payments. I did how ever hotline her. I realized that there is nothing I can do. I have no control over this woman or what she does hundreds of miles away with her child. All I can do is report her to the Texas authorities and hope like hell they pay attention. thank you all sooooooo much for your advise and support.

I know. My husband fully supports me in all this. He left a message for his lawyer this morning to get her advise. I guess I am one of those little girls that always loved children. I volunteered in High School at the local Children's hospital inthe nursery. I spent hours rocking and cleaning and feeding abandoned babies from crack moms and the like. I would of taken them all home if I could. Have you ever heard the song Allysa lies? link removed I'm afraid if I don't do allI can.... noone else will. If Ifeel bad now... can I bear the pain of finding out something worse happened to him?

I am a mother of 2 beautiful girls. I have a 10 year old”firebug”. My husband brought in his 5 year old”sweetpea”. We live in Missouri. Neither of our children have responsible “other” biological parents. Sweetpea’s mom will not even speak to my husband. However we do occationally talk, and I have tried very hard to be polite. When we got custody of sweetpea, her mother”Poppy” lost all her State aide.( foodstamps, Medicaid, etc…) she has actually been kicked out of section 8 housing twice. So she was living with a woman when we went to court and gained custody. Apperantly that day, after court she told her she wanted to get pregnant. Poppy started bringing home a different man every night, within weeks she had what she wanted. She went to the state aid office and was told due to her default on section 8 and other things she could not receive state aid….Sooooo she moved to Texas where she had a set of Grandparents, who immediately got her hooked up with a church and wham, back on state aide. She has her baby and he is now 3 months old. Now mind you she owes us child support. A mere $200 a month. But it took a year for her to pay, so now 50% of her paychecks are garnished.She is working part time at a grocery store and barely making over $100 a week. I do feel bad for her, but she made these decisions… She sent me an e-mail today “I know this is a bad time for this but I have been thinking about this. What would it take on both of our parts for me to sign over my rights to being Sweetpea’s mom? You are the best mom she has and i am grateful. I want what is best for her and I think and know this would be it.” I can’t imagine just giving up my kids! Now to prevent making this post 10 miles long I will just say we know for a fact this is merely to get out of the child support, and frankly she hardly calls, so she isn’t really being a parent anyway. My initial instinct is to answer with” When you find good parents for “nate”(that’s the new baby) then we will discuss the other. It’s not fair that he should have to suffer as Sweetpea has. She has physical, mental, learning and social problems due to 4 years of neglect and abuse from her. It took my husband a lot of legal battles to save her and gain custody. (Missouri almost always favors mothers) While on one hand it would be a blessing to us to be rid of Poppy, I can’t help but feel like we would be abandoning this little boy. He deserves to be rescued too…. What do I do? This is one of those moments I am so torn

yup... and I get cravings... I'm a bit anemic, so I tend to crave red meat and broccoli...go figure

I have been working with the school for months. I finally went to the superintendent of schools. Last night when I got home and actually saw my little girl, I took her directly to the Police Dept to file a report. We have been working on her to teach her to defend herself, but she is very passive. She just has no desire to hit someone. WE live in the country, so changing schools isn't an option. The next school district is several miles away.

I have talked about this befor but I just don't know what to do! This girl keeps picking on my daughter. They are both 5th graders. She has done everything she can to avoid this girl. Once she pushed her into traffic, she's pulled her hair, stolen her things, the list goes on. I have gone to the school repeatedly. The principal insists she is doing all she can. In our old district a kid would have been suspended by now, if not expelled. No tolerance. I don't know what to do! I can't stand to see my kid so upset!!!