Mathew

I think you need to talk it out man, with some one who can be constructive, a good friend might be an idea? Someone your comfortable talking to. Its not good to keep these things bottlled up, you need to talk it out with someone, i believe the only way you can help yourself is by asking for it.

Hey man, Ive had a similar experience, with the same girl as a matter of fact. I started our friendship together on the basis that i wanted to date her. And i guess you could say that our frinedship hasnt had the best track run since i lost interest in her, but we have remained friends. The only difference i see, is that i dont have those feelings for her anymore. And i believe we've been able to move on from that. Do you still have any feelings for her? Im gunna assume you dont, because i dont see any real 'affection' between yous two, not recently anyway. Ending a friendship is not an easy thing to do, especially when all of your other frineds are also friends with the person, all you can really do in my opinion, is tell her how you feel about her now and how you used to feel about her. After you tell her the truth, its then up to her how things will go on.

Hey sumguy, in my opinion, theres nothing wrong with you, CoffeeGirl84 is right, its just your personality. Think of it as a blessing, i have the worst road rage, and keep grudges for the littlest things for years... anger just gets in the way of moving on. Be careful with some people, if you continuesly forgive them, because its in your nature, there going to make a habbit of letting you down.

Man, if i was that girls boyfriend who he was talkin about, id feel like kicking that guys teeth in! Id tell him to watch his mouth around him, though it depends what this guy is like, something tells me he wouldnt be too impressed...

Hey, ive just entered my first serious relashionship. Before now, my contact with girls was purley at partys, something im trying to stay away from. I really like her, we've statred going out, i feel like im useless, i just dont know how to talk to her, like really talk to her, i found it so much easier before we started to go out, she pretty much has to beat my feelings out of me cause im so nervous I tell her that its because im just a wuss, but really its because im afraid of what her respnoce is? I dont really know what she finds interesting about me? Shes very intellegent, into books and poetry, pretty much dead subjects for me cause i cant really respond. I know we have stuff in common, i guess im just having trouble trying to commit to something this serious. I keep putting up mental blocks in my mind telling me to run for the hills!

1. Because I was running out of ways to cope with depression. 2. On the arms, close to my elbows where i can hide it. Usually the bathroom, where i can lock the door. 3. No time of day, though its always been night time, usually when ever I feel like i need to think about something else, or just built up anger. 4. I feel empty before and worse after, though while i bleed its like im coping. 5. Ive only done it once, in the space of a few days, just about 15-20 cuts, though i stopped because i was horified with what i was doing to myself.

Wow, macdomat, its certainley not easy reading what you said even though some of it is true. I know nobody is going to help me, i kinda gathered that from my experiences with asking for it. What i was wondering was if there are any ways i can help myself, with out outside help. I feel as if ive burnt all of my emotional bridges with my family, Ive become so shut off with my feelings, most of my friends/family dont even know what im going through. Personaly i hate my mum and my sister. I dont want there help. Im trying to help myself, but im just not dealing with it! Im just ignoring it till i get pissed off or break down and cry! I feel like what im going through now is more the fact i havent dealt with my feelings towards what happened, its just built up to a point where i cant deal with it anymore, im so detached from everything, i dont even love my dad anymore, at first i hated him, now i feel nothing, im even forgeting what he looks like. Im so scared of talking about my feelings with people, they just make me feel selfish for how i feel. I just dont want to feel like this.

Im depressed at the moment, I've been depressed for the past two years really, its only recently ive realsied that i am, reading this forum has helped. Since my dad commited suicide 2 years ago, its really just gone down hill from there. I was really fine with it when it happened. I found the best way of dealing with it was to just ignore it, lot of good thats doing me now, just a few weeks ago, its all come crashing down. I just cant deal with life. Im asking for help, in my friends, my reletives, mainley my mum, shes really all ive got left, emotionaly anyway. My sister tried to kill herself on and off the last two years, so when i went to mum for help saying i was depressed, she basically shut me down saying, "Just get better!", "cant you see the stress im going through because of you!". My frieneds have acted this way as well, they dont want to help me, they just want me to get better so im more fun to hang around... Well, really what i want to know, is there anyway to help myself? Ive just got so much anger buit up inside me, im getting in fights, getting drunk alone so i can just cry. I want to change, but it doesnt look like anyone is willing to help me.

Thanks guys, all of what yous have said has helped. Its so hard though, cause this guy doesnt deserve her =/ Seems like nothings easy.

I really like this girl, shes great, she makes me laugh, theres no awkward silences, cause she talks and talks! We've just become good friends recently after hating each other all during high school... The problem is that she has a boyfriend! Shes going through a rough patch wth him, he's basically ignoreing her. Shes talking to me alot about it, asking me what she should do, I dont know what to say to her, i dont want to manipulate her into breaking up with him, just cause i have a crush on her? What do I do?