geyser92

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. My only idea would be this: maybe you ought to write her a letter. I would write a really clear, really honest description of everything that happened from the beginning of your problems with her, from your side of the story. Tell her exactly what you were feeling... kind of the way you wrote this post, except more descriptive. Tell her how much you love her (its clear to me that you really do), tell her that you don't know how you could have offended or alienated her, but that you apologize from the bottom of your heart for hurting her in any way. It's really important to be really humble when you write this. I really hope this works out for you, i just wish i could give you more advice... hang in there!

I've been having a crush ( ) on this girl since mid-march. Originally, i called her up and asked if she wanted to hang out... but i think she took me to be asking her out, and she said no, because she had a boyfriend at the time (i obviously didnt know about it.) But she knows about my feelings for her, this i know for sure; and she also broke it off with her bf about two or three months ago. Recently i found out that i have a big chance to see her a lot over the summer... she's on my younger sister's swim team, and is a member of a community pool over here. i'm not really a member there, but i do go once in a while... every time i'm there, i see her hanging out with a group of kids our age, and it seems to me that i ought to try to be a part of that group if i want to get to know her better. It seems like a really good opportunity. The problem is that i get really shy about mixing with a new crowd. Even when i have friends introduce me to those people, i'm still shy... i could be sitting on the edge of the pool right with them all, but i wont say a word, because im just wayyyyyy tooooooooo shyyyyyyyy. So what i'm asking is, does anyone know a couple of hints to help me interact with this girl and her friends? any good ways to get in on their games? i feel kinda stupid asking these questions, because they seem so simple... but yet i'm having the most difficult time in the world dealing with this thing. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

he definitely DEFINITELY likes you a lot. All i have to say is, i wish to god that i was as comfortable as he is with a situation like that. But the point is, he definitely likes you, and i think everything is going great for you. If you want to step things up, i think it would work out fine. good luck... have a great summer!

hi! well, i know what you mean about the online relationship thing. I have been in that situation countless times, and i guess i've been there more often than i've been in a situation with someone who lives nearby. The one difference between your situation and some of mine is that i met those people first. One girl, i met at a one-day workshop thing, we were really friendly to each other, exchanged screen names, and thus began my obsession for at least a year. i told her how i felt, and she responded well for a while, but eventually everything sort of died. I never got to see her again, but i still talk to her once in a while. To tell you the truth, i have given up on the long-distance internet relationships thing. I guess that i've decided that emails and instant messages simply dont compare to real live interaction. I can't seem to express myself in writing, especially lightning-quick IM's, as i can speaking. I also can't really get to know someone as well on the internet as i can by interacting with them. That's how i look at it. But i dont think that you should give up on this girl. I doubt that you have sufficiently freaked her out enough ( ) to make her get upset if you ask to see her. Either way, it is definitely worth a try. hehe, the nice thing about internet relationships is that if she does respond badly to you asking to meet her, it's not such a huge problem, since you probably won't ever see her again. The emotional impact on you will of course be great, but i am positive that in the long run everything will work out for you. I hope i've helped you out a bit... good luck!

lol jose whut did i tell you!?!?!? ya man, dont worry about her friends... did u say hi to her @ school yet? later dude

yeah, i agree with the last guy who posted. He explained what it's like perfectly. As for me, i'm finally getting a little bit better at not being shy...things are going good. But yes, i agree with the advice he gave you, and i stick with what i said before... i hope everything works out for you (if it hasnt already )

lol... sounds like a man with a plan... good luck!! wish i had a girl that was as hot for me as she is for u

i kind of felt like you do sometimes, until i started posting stuff on this board... i actually feel more important now. feel better!

Darn it, you stole my idea!!!!! im with cheech, this place rocks. Everyone here rocks. Thanks so much everybody!

hey! I feel like your story is more or less the carbon copy of twenty of mine. I never got anywhere with those experiences, though. But i would say that everyone else here is right. Try to talk to him on icq. Try to talk to him in church, of course its tough for us shy people , but think about it: do you really have much to lose? oh yeah, and the note thing is a really good idea!! If he is at all interested, he will definitely write back... i would! well anyways good luck...

hey buddy... i'm sure that i never really have gone through what you are going through right now, but i do think it's normal. Either you will get over it and meet someone new, or maybe you will even get back together eventually. All of us go through similar things after a breakup. Either way, i want to offer you my condolences... good luck in the future!

i think he might like you! you should hang out with him more, alone even. He sounds like a very cool guy, and he definitely cares for you. So i would say, get to know him better, see what happens... unless of course you don't like him back. good luck...

lol, i would help you, but it seems to me than you have gotten a lot farther than i ever have... hopefully somebody with some more knowledge will help u out. good luck!

thanks everybody! im gonna make another attempt to call her today... thanks again folks! i'll let u know how it goes, in case i am in desperate need of more advice...

hey man... NO, dont ask her out already. Definitely not. The risk is too high that she'll just say no. If your a nice guy, and it sounds like you are, then definitely do the other thing... work your way into conversations, get to know her better, then eventually get to the point where you have conversations with JUST her, and even where you hang out with her a lot. Then, if it feels right, ask her out. In my experience, i've found that girls dont like to be rushed... lol, i know it seems much easier to just ask her out right now, i've been tempted to do that myself, but you're probably better off taking your time. good luck!