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  1. Thanks for the advice. Tbh while i do think therapy is a good start i can’t see myself going there. Being creepy wasnt my intention.i have asked more people irl and they told it wasn’t creepy, just very overwhelming.
  2. Okay i see,ty. But it’s hard to do that. I think to myself “no way she will like me” If i like a girl.
  3. I dont know what is wrong with me. But the thing is that whenever i like a girl i get awkward and nervous. Then i overthink. i have overshared like you said but what i regret is not telling her this earlier on when she was available.
  4. i dont believe that meeting someone from dating apps is a good idea unless you are very good looking.
  5. Im gonna be honest i had no idea what to say in the dm. I first wrote the message in the Notes app on ios. Then i reread it a few times. Then i spent 5 minutes hovering my thumb over the Send button in instagram. My legs were shaking, no joke. I’m just feeling sad that i was “too late” you know. In the sense that she was interested back then but now has a bf. and yea it’s the same coworker.
  6. I have never ever dated. I should have included that I’m 25M, the girl is 21F. I dont have experience, but she does, assuming from her interactions at work.
  7. I see. If a guy from work sent you a msg like that, what exactly would you think? i showed my text to my female friend and she said “if a guy ever texted me something like that i would think he’s depressed and feel bad for him.”
  8. I have never texted a girl or told a girl that i like her.i just wrote what was on my mind.
  9. So basically what happened is that there was a girl from work, and i DMd her on insta and confessed to her that i had a crush. She seemed interested back then because she would ask me if im single, if i have a crush, why i get nervous around her. And outside the office what happened is that we were talking and she pulled me towards her and placed her hand on my stomach. I got super nervous and leaned away, and she placed her again on my stomach. She just stared at me and looked at me. After that she started to eat lunch with me everyday, and initiated convos. Sadly she left work back in September 2022. I never told her i liked her. A few days ago i DMd her on Instagram. I wasn’t smooth at all. This is the message: ——— ”Hey how are you doing? Sorry for the random DM. We were coworkers at (company name) in 2022. I know this is a really bad timing and weird message, but I wanted to say something. You have asked me a few times why I get nervous, and you have also asked if someone ever had a crush on a coworker during a game of Never Have I Ever at the 1st Anniversary of (company name) back in July. I did have one on you, and I still do till now. You have also asked me if I have never talked to girls, and no, I haven’t. You are right about that, which is why this text may seem awkward to read. I have no idea about your current dating situation and this message may have been sent to you during a time where you are already dating someone, or maybe you aren’t interested in me, or maybe you won’t even read this message. But that’s fine. I just wanted to speak my mind out.” ——— she replied “hey (my name), im doing great, thanks. How about you? Thanks for the confession I respect that, we can be good friends i have no problem in that. Are you still working at (company name)?” She then sent me a follow request. i replied “I’m doing good, ty. No i left back in march 2023. Wbu?” i then realized that she blocked me. my old coworker(male) called me and told me that she called him. He told me this: “she was interested in you back then, but she told me that you messaged her after 10 months and she found that frustrating. She has a boyfriend now and she said she cant msg you.” Now my question for the girls is if my text was creepy. I asked my male coworker and he said she didnt find it creepy, just frustrating that i told her that after 10 months and with her having a bf now.
  10. Yes i do have a crush on her, but the thing is i simply have never talked to girls that much, especially the ones i like. The last time i approached a girl i liked was back in 2020 after she kept looking at me again and again. She was positive but i was nervous and left. and no, it wasnt an ego boost that i misinterpreted as attraction, because i found her attractive well before the touching stuff happened, like 2 months before that.
  11. Thanks. well i dont habe any confidence to put any romantic pressure into it and it’s a workplace, so its out of the question anyway.
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