Fallout

LOL I am stupid, I didn't even look at the date...gah thanks igiveup for bringing up a 2 year old thread lol Anyway, if one of the two people with this problem is still reading this, you could post and let us know the developments...

Actually luv, it has hurt plenty of people. Just because you didn't react adversely to it does not mean noone does. Besides, keep in mind it's one thing to give light taps to a 5 year old and another to give painful lashes to 13-15 year olds.

That is disgusting and definitely abuse...maybe she loving them is sort of a stockholm syndrome...like when you read about all the abused women here that still love their abusers. The thing is everyone takes it differently....and I know hard spankings like the one described above, slapping pulling hair etc. can deeply damage a child emotionally for many years if not for life.

Ok interesting...well look everyone it's like this : - some people are born to be attracted to the opposite sex - some people are born to be attracted to the same or both sexes - some people are born to be attracted to children Don't blame anyone for being born a certain way. Paedophilia is no more wrong than homosexuality, and if you look at it from a rational point of view you can clearly see that. The only thing wrong is acting on the paedophile urges, because no matter how you look at it, that's rape. Also paying for child porn, because it supports kids being sexually abused....if noone was paying for it they wouldn't be abused in the first place. I don't think counselling can help you get over the "illness"...that's the same as those people that think homosexuality is an illness that needs treatment. BUT I would suggest counselling to help you both deal with who you are, and make sure your natural desires are kept in check and you don't act on them. It's understandable that you are afraid to go because of the societal taboo on it, but here's a way: online counselling. You can conceal your ip to feel safer, and everything would be done online..just google "online counselling" and you'll come up with alot of sites that provide it. Oldguy : congratulations on never acting on your natural urges, takes a great man to do that...

I haven't had too many experiences with doctors but I always felt they are condescending and at times arrogant...like have the "You're under my control now, I can do anything with you" attitude lol What exactly did she do Chele?

For once I agree with CB (wow never thought I'd say that!) she has no right to tell you not to see him. Seems like some sort of childish jealousy that you're getting to be a better friend to him than she is. So...talk to your guy friend he shouldn't be dumped on your best friend's "say so"

I don't know whether to laugh or to cry. I find this porn "problem" utterly ridiculous. Guess that's what an super-prudish society does...creates problems like this. How can watching other people do it on a screen constitues any form of cheating is way beyond me... People are attracted sexually to other people, usually of the opposite sex. If they are in a relationship it doesn't mean they stop being attracted to everyone but their partner. Asking for that is like wanting to control thinking and basic urges, it totally goes against nature. Sure if it's an addiction and you'd rather watch porn than be with your partner then it is a problem, but only then. So to me, anyone that finds watching porn sometimes 'evil' 'synful' or 'cheating' has big problems themselves That being said, personally porn doesn't turn me off too much because it seems fake and at times gross...I'd rather watch an erotic movie anytime for that, and yes it can watched just for entertainment or fun.

Ok...best of luck to you...

Well if you have friends in real life you can meet people that way...going out etc. And for online why not save yourself the headache and chat with people from your town/area you can find on dating sites?

Hmm I just have a question curious about something...it's adressed to those people that were spank past the age of let's say 10... Are you close with your parents now? I mean do you share your life, your feelings with them?

Help her fix the problem(s) that lead to cutting so she won't have a need to...

Look Shih-Hein I think she's fake, that story seems to be a bit too far fetched for my liking...you know there are alot of people that make up stories online, create completely different identities...some for fun, some are sick or something. From what you described that 'girl' it seems to me more like a teenage boy pretending to be a girl to get kicks out of it...be careful and check things out first. Now to answer your questions..so you're prepared if/when meeting others : 1. It's hard to say if 'most' are, some are seeking love others friendships...and perhaps most are seeking both! 2. It is rather normal, I don't find anything wrong with it... (but abnormal in your case, it was only her 2nd e-mail to you!! that's why I think she's fake!) I mean I talk about sexual stuff with online friends which are mostly girls... 3. I think you should take a seat back and move to the next...I'm 99% this one is fake like I said. Oh and cybersex...well that can mean lots of stuff from erotic writing good or bad to both or one masturbating on webcam...BUT if you want to try it check with your girlfriend first!! I mean having girl friends that you're open with and talk about sex is one thing...but doing sexual things with them can be a form of cheating...even if it is all online...

Those genetic risks can be tested tho...I think it's fine not all that weird anyway

He probably wouldn't do anything...and do you want to spend the rest of your life unhappy just because this jerk is threatning you "don't leave, or else?" You only live ONCE. You have the police to protect you if noone else if he actually does something...