dawn515

Hm, my boyfriend is ten years younger than I. I hope that when I am 60 and he is 50, he doesn't think of me as an "old granny." Hmmph.

Hi missmebaby, It sounds to me that you two spent too much time together in the beginning of the relationship. You mention that he still calls you a few times a day. Wow! Yet you still are now thinking he is bored with you. Too much togetherness in the beginning of a relationship is bad. You have been together only a little over three months. He is either bored with you, as you fear, or you two just need some time apart. Why not just see one another on the weekends for awhile? Give him time to miss you. Sounds to me like he still likes you, but talking every day? Go out with your friends here and there, and limit how much you talk to him. If you spend too much time together in the early stages, you just might get bored with one another too quickly. I hope it works out! Good luck!

Whoah whoah whoah!!! Hold on there! No, definitely NO flowers. And don't call her at work again. If I were you, I would wait a week and go to the restaurant again (when she's working). Is she the hostess? I think you might have come on too strong, and though she was interested, she fudged by saying she was "kinda" dating someone. I think there is hope, but, like ThatGirl said, pull back a little bit and play it cool.

Question for the OP: I have to ask, as others have, how many women have you slept with? And what number would be "satisfactory" for you, for your girlfriend of 36 years who has never been married? AND (bonus round!), why ARE you wondering about this eight months into the relationship? No judgment, just want info in order to give advice...

I agree. I find giving oral to be really intimate. I know a lot of people think the opposite. I know that I have given oral to less people than my boyfriend has received from. It doesn't bother me, though.

Batya, I am sure you would never judge someone's worth or goodness based on a college degree, and I never meant to imply otherwise. I said I wanted someone with "good work ethic" in the way that they wouldn't sit about, with no job, and not helping me out with rent. (I live in a very expensive city.) It really doesn't matter to me what he does, as long as it's above board and he can pay his half of the expenses. At this point in my life, having never been married, I've become very independent and want to remain so. I don't want to be dependent on someone else or their income. I don't think there is anything wrong with having certain standards, such as your requirement for a college degree. It's just that I used to think like that (even when I didn't have one yet!), and I think I could have missed out on quite a few guys if I stuck to that. The last guy I was serious with didn't have a college degree, but he was very intelligent and rose through the ranks at his company to a management job, and he is now making more than 200k a year. (We parted amicably.) The man I'm currently with is also quite intelligent, and is working his way through college, but he tends to the more creative arts. (My aforementioned ex was in the computer field.) But, I like his art and his creativity, and he thinks I'm the smartest woman he's ever met. (Yay for me!) And *I* haven't even finished school yet! I'm just wondering if you would make exceptions to the college degree requirement in certain circumstances? Not judging.. just curious.

She didn't say who started it -- she said after the bbq they got into their huge argument. (I said "blow up" because of the title of the thread.) I assumed that the PMS comment, along with the wine and the "selfish" accusation at the bbq, is what started their most recent argument, which ultimately led to her packing her bags (again). But apparently it played a role for her to mention it. I don't get the "selfish" comment about her drinking wine at all, so I didn't comment on it, so I posted about the PMS one instead.

I do not factor degrees into my dating situation too much. I have many friends who have Bachelor's and many in grad school. Like others have said, work ethic is more important to me. At the moment, I am working on my Master's, but I am with someone who has yet to finish his Bachelor's. He even had to take the semester off to work and save money. I could have dismissed him outright because of his lack of a college degree, but then I would have missed out on his humor, his love of literature (we share the same tastes), and his art. Yes, he's an artist. He's also highly intelligent and can keep up with me, most of the time! He's having a hard time right now dealing with an on-the-job injury and gathering the finances to go back to school. I don't care if he goes back to school, as long as he's happy at what he is doing and can pay the rent. He can do whatever he wants. Plus, I've been there -- I dropped out of school when I was 20 to work full-time and cover expenses. It was several years before I was able to go back. I can't judge someone for not having a college degree right off the bat.

No, I would not stoop to playing games! I don't think he's cheating, I really don't. I just don't know why he'd keep these numbers, especially after getting the new phone while we were together and, as I mentioned, going through his phone to delete the numbers of people he doesn't talk to anymore, except the numbers of exes whom I know he doesn't talk to anymore and was never friends with. I just don't get it. I haven't talked to him about it yet, but I haven't come up with a good way to approach it that doesn't sound jealous, controlling or . It's not like he's calling them, I know that. I just don't know WHY it's so important to keep these numbers. I'm starting to lean towards the Ego Theory more and more.

No, this is not a "we women" subject at all. If he talked about how she gave head at a party, I think any reasonable person would think that tacky and inappropriate. What is comparable is her talking about HIS technique at oral sex at a party. That's his prerogrative to not like the empathy discussion, though he could have laughed it off to "save face," I guess, and then tell her later it made him uncomfortable. It didn't need to become a "blow-up" fight. It wasn't THAT offensive, but he has every right to not like it, and he could reasonably tell her so.

Basically, it sounds as though you two aren't in the same place right now. Discuss this with her, and if she still pushes for more than you are ready for, you might have to end it. She may be a great woman, but ultimately, it's compatibility and concurrent life goals that matter here, I think. Good luck!

There is no shame in dropping a class and retaking it. If that's what you need to do, then do it. Next time make sure you take advantage of the tutors to help you out. I had a good friend who was majoring in mathematics, and HE was having hard time in Calc II. Don't sweat it, ok? Just make sure that next time you are more prepared and take full advantage of the tutoring options at your school. Good luck!

I'm sorry, but I just don't think this is comparable. His talking about how she performs a sexual act is the same as her talking about his PMS empathy? Perhaps you're right and he did feel "emasculated" by her comment, but I think most people would think it's sweet, as, I assume, does the OP. I think he'd only feel emasculated if he's insecure; if he was secure, he'd make a joke about it himself, and that would be that. Just my opinion.

Just wanted to say that you aren't always aware of when you get wet. It's not always something you can "feel." BTW, the "burning sensation" in your clit is the blood rushing through there as you get aroused, so take that as a positive sign. The more often that happens, the less it will feel like it's burning.

My boyfriend says he's only been twice in his life -- once for his 18th birthday and another time at the behest of a friend. He said that both times seemed like a huge waste of money. But then he has a thing about women pretending to be attracted to him.