JoHarvelle

I meant the stuff he did after our breakup like keep asking me for sex even though I had told him it only confused and hurt me and pushing me to do it both mentally and physically (twice when we met). It's not that I didn't want to but I knew it wasn't a good idea.

I just noticed this. That was back when he wasn't married though. Right after the breakup. He knows how much fidelity means to me. Half of our problems was because he had told me he had almost cheated on his ex!

Well yeah, that's also possible but he stayed for a long time afterwards. I think he's just unstable. But let's say he was right, that I nagged a lot, that I never believed his love for me, that I was insecure and nothing he did was ever enough and I kept complaining. If I were like this, does it justify any of what he did?

It's just that I still have questions on my mind. Like, if he never loved me, how come he waited for a year to sleep with me because I wasn't ready to do it (I was a virgin and we live in a conservative country). These unresolved questions make it harder not to think about it every once in a while to be honest.

That's exactly what struck me. "I couldn't resist reaching out." I felt like it came out of a selfish place. And honestly that kinda makes me happy. Like if he has done this out of anything but good will, makes me feel like I had every right to feel insecure in that relationship and I just didn't trust my gut feeling enough to act on it. A love affair? His wife and I with him you mean?

Hello everyone! So you might remember me from before. So here's the story: This guy dated his ex for 10 months, “almost” cheated on her and told me had a hard time staying faithful to her. They had to break up because of the girl's mother. He was with me for three-and-a-half years. We were pretty serious and we intended on getting married. He broke up with me since we were having a lot of problems toward the end of our relationship. He kept asking me for sex for 7 months after the breakup (I mostly declined since I loved him and wanted a real relationship) then 6 months after the last time he asked me to come over to his place and I didn't and a year after our breakup, he got married to his ex before me. He was the one who had told me he couldn't keep in touch because there was no point and it was too hard given our history and all and now a year after his marriage he texted me after absolute no contact for about a year and a half. He told me he had a really bad dream and I was in it too. It felt so real and that he couldn't resist reaching out. He wanted to see how I was doing… I replied coldly but politely that I was fine and thanked him for checking and he didn't say anything further. So I was wondering, why on earth did he reach out? Was it just an excuse?