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  1. I'll add a story that I know, as I've asked for advice, it's only fair. Close friend of mine (dumpee) and her feller (dumper) broke up after nearly 10 months. His reasons was she was controlling, but also very insecure and needed reassurance a lot. I know them both and they would always bicker about rubbish but make amends. He ended it, they still spoke on and off for every couple of days (only on texts). Three weeks after the break up (I can't remember who initiated the talk) they got back together, seem a lot happier and still together 3 years after getting back together. It goes to show that there are no rules for the healing process. Sometimes distance works, while sometimes some contact works. I've noticed that if you want to let your partner know you're going NC, but you can't actually tell them, then there's something in that. If it's your intuition that I should keep the contact, or fear of not hearing from them again, then that's another question.
  2. Hi everyone, I've loved reading these stories, while it does partly fill me with hope in my situation, it's also nice to read that love is all powerful and has many ways of helping you find comfort, with or without the dumper. Is going NC always the best option? Break up was one with no fights and no pleading since. It's been just less than a week but she's text everyday asking something about me/what I'm working on. While I enjoy her texts, it makes me second guess at times whys she's messaging me. Love will find away, but if that's through staying friends, or cutting contact, I do not know? Obviously for now, I know that any decision I make will be swayed slightly as I'm still coping with the break up, and that we've both said we miss and love each other still. This thread is a beautiful thing and I'm looking forward to reading more posts!
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