TanyaJo

thank you for all the comments and recommendations. Dating is difficult so we have to kiss a lot of frogs unfortunately. I'll stay away from this guy 😞

I'm doing well financially than him, I just felt a little bit open minded in going for this.

So a bit of a background, I met this guy in a dating app. I'm 37F and he is 52M, there is a bit of an age difference but he seem to have always dated younger women. We have been so far on 5 dates. Sometimes I notice, he openly checks women out when he is with me. I'm quite attractive myself and he says that to be very often. On one of the dates, we were at a club and he noticed a young girl (must be 20 not more) with mobile in her pocket with flash light on. He wanted to go and tell her about it because he said it could run her battery down and she could not get a uber back or something. The girl was almost half dressed, quite attractive and clearly a bit drunk but she wasnt alone, she had 5 friends with her. He could have left it to me to tell her or her friends to tell her, but he went really close to her and whispered something in her ears, then the girl puts her arm around him, then he points at me and says something. He got back to me and said, "you know she must be attracted to be coz he started putting her arms around me" . The whole thing I felt was unnecessary if he had left me convey it to her. On the second date he was telling me about an incident that he found a girl in her 20s looking at him, this is something he should have avoided mentioning it to a date. He is also nice to me so far other than these red flags. Is this my interpretations and jealously or is he playing up or is he really attracted to much younger girls and I should run away from this guy? I genuinely want an honest advice on this please.

hi @Kwothe28 thank you so much for your replies. I agree with you and really thank you so much for empathising. I was even kind enough to be ok with him leaving for arranging furniture in the middle of the date but then I got annoyed when there were 3 phone calls checking when and how soon he will be back. I could hear the whole conversation. I felt bad for him and myself.

This is only one of the many incidents. My boyfriend asked me if I would like to meet for lunch and a walk, it was a nice and sunny day so I said yes and we met up for lunch. He gets a phone call form his daughter asking him to help with arranging the furniture at her mom's place (his ex wife's place). His ex-wife has a boyfriend too, plus a tenant living in her house, she isn't by any means on her own that she needs help. I understood the situation, also I was slightly annoyed as it did not seem like an emergency and he could have dealt with it later instead of rushing into eating lunch and cancelling the rest of the plans we had. On our way back he gets another call checking if he is on his way. He says his daughter and mom are similar, they keep him on the toes. I feel bad for him being controlled by these ladies but at the same time feel bad for myself not being a priority. I cried a lot for no reason while I understand he is a dad first then my boyfriend I'm starting to this if this relationship could work at all. Last week we were on a date night, daughter calls and asks him to walk her to mums from the station although it wasn't that late and the walk is only about 10 mins I'm thinking maybe she knows dad is with me and doesn't like it? Things were slightly better when the daughter had a boyfriend now that she is single again, she is more needy and her mom knowingly makes her go to dad coz she is jealous be is going out with me, while she is with a man who has no prospects at all. I've been crying a lot as I do empathise his situation and I also feel it isn't fair for me how he treats me. his ex wife is 55 and the daughter is 17

I send him a message today asking if he would like to join me for dinner, apparently he is meeting a friend for dinner he has been postponing. He was less texty today. I send him a text saying "You seem cold since the time you sent me that grumpy text for sending you something nice" - he says "Really sorry. Dont mean to be. I'm outside at the min. X" Now I'm not sure if he is really saying sorry or being nice but moving away from me.

Yes it isnt unusual. When he was with me not long ago like 3 days ago, he was awake till 1 am and we were talking. So I sent this picture because, I do oil painting and was checking with him if he would like a painting that I drew in his home. He sent a few pics earlier for inspiration. I did some research and made this image which I could potentially draw. So maybe thats why I'm hurt. I itsnt just a cool picture. It is a picture of us which I was planning to paint.

I did not expect a reply right away but atleast the next day

I sent my boyfriend a picture of us taken the previous weekend but with a filter that makes it look like an oil painting. I thought the image looked pretty cool like a painting. He did not reply to me the next day so I texted him saying "I sent something nice but you ignored it" for which he replied " Please! You sent it at 12.20 last night and I was asleep and you woke me up" - I found this so rude and so selfish. After being together for close to a year and a half I'm not sure where I stand if I cannot send a text at 12.20.