DenverDude

This is my final response to this. Many here, like Tinydance, just don't get it. This is a business arrangement. I have ZERO romantic or physical feelings for her. She ASKED to go with me. She never goes on vacation. It was outside of our normal arrangement. I said yes as a favor to her and because I thought it would be more fun. My beef is that she didn't offer to pay a nickel. And then she waited until I bought a $32 ticket for an event until she said that she didn't want to go. She didn't offer to make it right or apologize. I also had to leave the hot springs early because she sat outside in the cold. Apparently many here would be okay with throwing money away like that. I'm not, and it says a lot about her character.

Decent people apologize or try to make it right. You sound like her.

Great post. You nailed it and you get it. That's the way I will go. She's gone.

Yeah, why would I care about throwing money away?

Jibralta: Because I don't like to throw money away. Is that shocking?

The line blurs a little between friendship and business. She has acted as though she is interested in me. The train trip was not business in her mind. She was not paid. Anyway, I see her as a leech and I will stop this nonsense. Thanks for your responses.

I found a rent-a-friend a few years ago. She has a hard life, works three jobs, and is from another country. She comes over every 3 or 4 weeks and I have dinner delivered, we watch a movie, she goes home, and I give her $100. Strictly platonic. She has a few forkfulls and takes the rest of the dinner home. A little annoying. Last week she was here and said I didn't have to pay her, but I did. I want to keep it businesslike. This past weekend she thanked me for the time and money, and recalled that I would be renting an Amtrak roomette for a 2-day trip to the mountains, and she wanted to go with me. I said yes. So we went up the other day. I paid for the Uber to the station, the train (food included), hotel, etc. There was a problem with her ticket but she was able to eat free on the train. I fixed it later so that she could eat on the return trip, also. I told her that if she wanted to go into the hot springs to bring a bathing suit. She forgot, but said she would improvise. See we took a taxi ( I paid) to the area and I paid the $64 ($32 each) for the hot springs for 2.5 hours. She then decided she didn't want to go in. I felt uncomfortable in the water by myself while she sat it out with a parka on. A big waste of $32. We then headed to a Mexican restaurant. She ordered a huge meal even though she wasn't hungry, ate a tiny amount, and decided to take it with her for the train the next day. I figured she would pick up the tab - or at least offer. Nope. So the next day we eat on the train, so she threw away the food from the night before. What a waste. I am not poor. I'm also pretty generous. But I'm still pissed off about this. Not even an apology for the wasted hot springs ticket. She didn't spend a dime on this trip. If I see her again I will tell her that I won't be supplying food when she comes over. I feel taken advantage of. Feeling bad for her working 80 hours per week has clouded my judgement. Am I being too harsh, too easy, or too cheap?