blacksmith3

I'm trying to not lead with emotions and thinking about it first. I've never been in a situation like this but normally I wouldn't take someone back. But I also really never cared about anyone as much as i did for her or enjoy a relationship so much.

3 months... Its a long story why we broke up .She has ptsd and suffers from trauma.. I did something that trigged it that i had no idea triggered it. She went into fight or flight mode freaked out. I said a couple things but really werent so bad but she was so freaked out it bothered her enough to break up with me. Basically she said she couldn't trust me anymore. It bothered me so i said all the times ive been there for you (which is a lot and she knows it, and i was happy to be) you cant trust me anymore after 1 thing. It set her of like i was throwing it in her face all the stuff i did. But before that it was really all great. And some miscommunications about sex which again are mostly her. But it left her confused. That one would take to long to explain. Shes a great person, we had a good thing going and a real strong connection. But she clearly has some trauma and shes told me shes trying to work on how she handles She isn't talking to him at all anymore. We where only apart 3 weeks. But claims she feels terrible about everything and talking to the other guy and sleeping with him. I'm very tempted not to. I've thought the same thing. What if he wanted more than sex would she of perused it longer? I'm just conflicted because she stopped us from having sex like i said and then the day after all that stuff happened. So she shut me out an broke up with me while having a P But people do make mistakes, she messed up and knows it. I still did hurt her feelings and i listened to what she had to say. The fact she felt guilty enough to tell me means a lot too.

It was only three months but i had real strong feelings for her and her for me. Its a very long story how we broke up but it was mostly her. But i didn't realize what i said hurt her. Anyways about 3 weeks later she reaches out and wanted to talk.. We talked about everything, and listened to one another... i went over next day.. We both felt like the time we where apart made our feelings grow even more. She apologized for what happened and explained to me why she felt like she did.. I understood. This morning she calls me and said she had something on her mind. Old friend on facebook saw she was single and said he always liked her. They got talking and she ended up sleeping with him and regretted it. She wanted to save that moment for me. We werent together so it wasn't cheating. I can almost get over that but, when we met we both said we haven't been with anyone in a long time.... Lets wait, to make sure our feelings are true and because she had to wait for medical issues to clear to get in BC. The night we went to have sex she thought i wasn't into it felt rejected and stopped. Then we had an issue the next day but between those two things she broke it off. In all honesty it was mostly her. But we are trying to make things work, work on our communication. She said she was hurt but couldn't get over her feelings for me because before everything happened she could picture us being long term. I felt the same but it just bothers me she did that. I truly loved her and believed she loved me and still does. But i feel like a fool for bringing her back. She handled an issue wrong, broke up with me, hooked up with a dude and realized what she missed. My heart says give her a chance because she has been real good to me in other was but my head says ive given her enough chances.

good luck. you don't know until you try. If it doesn't work out, its gonna suck, but if it works out then thats awesome.

could be his diet

Yup, I have a dealbreaker list and i'm sticking to it. I don't have time for any drama, or for someone who doesn't help improve my life and me improve theirs.

Part of my profession is reading people and knowing how to properly utilize them.. Most of the time, I've get most people figured out in 10 minutes, i'm usually right. I don't text her that often either and I don't want to text a lot with someone I don't know, or even with people I love. But it doesn't mean I shouldn't try and get a good read on someone i'd maybe like to date. I'm sure she has some ideas about me, its just normal.

yup, your 100 percent right. There is just some stuff about her/she said that really is exactly when i'm looking for in a partner. So i am a little extra excited then i should be... I'm not the type of guy falls in love with any woman that says hi... I will say though, after getting to know her a little more this week....i'm starting to think she has some real bad anxiety. She takes along time to respond, and i think its because she gets nervous about what to say.

I forget but probably 8 hours... She texted me late at night and said sorry, she wasn't ignoring me, work was chaotic and said my idea of walking the lake and grabbing a slice would be nice. Like I said, i'm pretty sure she's got some anxiety and can only handle so many things at once. It sucks we can't see each other for two weeks but hopefully the fact her brother is getting married will make her extra excited about starting a relationship and i can use that for momentum.

All set for 2 weeks from this Saturday.. Pizza and walking the lake.

just an update... She just texted apologizing for delay in response and said that would be nice. So i'll probably still end up taking her out when our schedules allow, later in the month. Gives me time to talk to this other girl a little bit...

Whats funny is thats what she has in her profile... looking for someone kind and honest. Thanks, we actually had really great conversations for a week, up until right before her flight to Europe for a vacation. I told her to text me when she gets back and she said she will. Can't wait to hopefully take her out.

Yup, i'm sure she would have responded by now if it was more "small talk"... I'm not sending another text.

thank.. 5 hours later no response. Moving on to the next. I'm hopefully taking another girl out next week.

We did some more small talk today... I just texted her asking if she'd like to grab a slice of brick oven pizza ( she said she loves it) and walk the nearby lake.. Lets see what she says. I can't do small talk that leads nowhere for a few weeks unless we have set plans for 2nd date.