Mia8xxx

Thank you for the responses. But to clarify I have never sought ego validation or attention from him. I reached out to him to apologise for treating him unkindly when we were younger. Those who are saying I went after him to feel better about myself couldn't be more wrong. I have only ever wanted to be friends and when I am with him, I behave like that....just friends. I am worried about over stepping the mark in terms of time I spend with him not my behaviour, as I know he is married. However, it feels like I have been painted as some unconscionable homewrecker lol. I guess your answers were a depressing reminder about how women are often blamed and vilified in these scenarios even though no-one has commented about the actions and motivations of the guy.

I recently reconnected with a high school friend after many years. I reached out to him as I wanted to apologise for a past mistake. It had been 15 years since we last saw each other. I know that he had an intense crush on me when we were at school. He is now married and we have met up several times. We have never crossed the line and I respect his relationship with his wife. However, I am aware that we do go out and have fun and drink, just the two of us. I am unsure as to whether he wants something more. He has never made a pass at me but he is always keen to meet up again. I have only ever seen him as a friend and I have never had any physical or romantic attraction to him. I don't want to lead him on by spending time with him. However, I would like to keep him as I friend. What do you think his true intentions are? And do you think I need to put some distance between us or stop seeing him?