Thank you for the responses. But to clarify I have never sought ego validation or attention from him. I reached out to him to apologise for treating him unkindly when we were younger. Those who are saying I went after him to feel better about myself couldn't be more wrong. I have only ever wanted to be friends and when I am with him, I behave like that....just friends. I am worried about over stepping the mark in terms of time I spend with him not my behaviour, as I know he is married. However, it feels like I have been painted as some unconscionable homewrecker lol. I guess your answers were a depressing reminder about how women are often blamed and vilified in these scenarios even though no-one has commented about the actions and motivations of the guy.