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  1. I'm listening to bloody 'pinball wizard' in my head every time I see this thread in the list. Otherwise I'm listening to all my Metallica albums.
  2. I am closing this thread because it is two years old.
  3. It looks like the argument has dried up, so will leave the above. However I ask posters to treat each other - and everyone's posts - with respect. Debate is fine, but further attacks on people's opinions will not be tolerated.
  4. I have no idea how this thread has come to life, but please note that if the girl had had the baby it would be over two years old by now. Ancient thread.
  5. I really implore you to stop criticising yourself and trying to rationalise around all this by dismissing your own feelings. Some people might be fine with what your boyfriend says, and might call you immature. I certainly wouldn't. I think the things he's said are way out of line and you have had others say that to you too. You have to be honest with yourself here, this is who he is. Now he might be great and lovely the rest of the time, but can you truly live with this? If we assume it continues like this (him saying the occasional thing about his sex life that upsets you) can you really cope with it? I don't mean "yes, if I make my mind changes somehow" but if he stays as he is and you stay as you are, is this sustainable for you? I think your guts are reacting understandably to something that on some level you know is out of kilter. Listen to your guts, I don't think they will let you down .
  6. Absolutely. He's either insensitive to the max, or he's testing you. Either way, I don't think you are being paranoid, and I question whether he's someone whose word you should place much stock in.
  7. 12 kilos? Oh my god, have you been very sick? I hope you feel better soon, sounds rough.
  8. Guys, kitty went to have this talk over two months ago. I was in touch with her after this and she was fine but still dealing with stuff. I wouldn't think it's helpful to keep on the topic of this particular thread. Maybe PM her if you want to see how she is, but I haven't seen her on ENA since the end of January and she's not been in touch with me separately since then either.
  9. You may well even feel better about this by now, but I just wanted to say to try not to sweat it. I think it's fine and normal when you're engaged to have moments of fear of independence lost, but if you're marrying someone who is right for you you should be able to negotiate this. Even if you need to have some big discussion about this now, you may well find it's not that big a deal and you can work out something for the future. I had some concerns like you did but found they were groundless in reality. Being married has not been the complete loss of independence I was afraid it would be. Have some faith . There's no reason why you can keep going out once you're married, and in fact it's a useful safety valve anyway to have that kind of time apart. I agree with the others - maybe just be clearer about expectations up front and try and do your best to contact. He'll be okay.
  10. Nothing that can help Orly, sorry! This sounds like a wicked case of mixed messages but there's not much I can recommend you do other than what you've done already. Well done by the way You can choose to believe her that her need for space has nothing to do with you, or you can choose to be suspicious. Given it's new and special I would advise you give her the benefit of the doubt and do what she asks, and not look too deeply into it. Perhaps she is dealing with big issues that she doesn't want to burden you with, and maybe she is genuinely concerned about scaring you away with her feelings or attitude. Give her a chance for as long as you can stand to. However, I would also advocate a degree of caution. Two weeks of quiet in a brand new relationship doesn't sound great. Try to give her support, but keep living your life. If you have a gut feel about how she's treating you, then be true to yourself. Be polite and be mature, but be true to yourself.
  11. Yes, I think you're probably right scarew. I know that personally I never really pay that much attention to people's bodies at work. If I do notice what they look like and think I see a change I tend to just assume I never noticed they were chunky/thin/whatever in the first place.
  12. Nice pictures scarew! Yes a big change huh! You're a beautiful pregnant woman by the way - well you're obviously beautiful anyway, but you also seem to be wearing the pregnancy well .
  13. I used to be a smaller person but put on 5 kilos or so before falling pregnant. Not sure what I qualified as to start with now, probably a "curvy" small person. I'm 8 weeks now and have thickened in the waist and put on maybe 1 - 1.5 kilos. I used to have small waist even after my previous weight gain so I guess I'm noticing this more. I am also retaining a fair amount of fluid. I haven't told work yet but am wondering if it's starting to get obvious - my body shape has definitely changed, in my eyes at least. I guess my pale, permanently nauseated look and the lack of 5 bottles or so of Diet Coke on my desk might be a sign to my co-workers also!
  14. Just interested in people's experience here, in particular for first babies. When did you first show and is this different from "popping out" (a term I've heard)?
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