5String

So here's the scoop. I am not giving you my new phone number. If you need to contact me, you can use email. You pushed me into poverty. You knew what you were doing - in fact, you PLANNED to do it. I know you told me you wanted to remain friendly, but the facts are clear. You pushed me into poverty. "It's not my fault if you didn't plan for your retirement." Well, remember..... You got cancer and wanted to retire. I said I would retire with you, we would use my 401K as a savings account and we would live off your pension. That was perfectly fine with you. You understood that I was sacrificing 6 years of salary (almost $700,000) so that we could spend whatever time we had together. I HAD a plan. I changed it for you. Then I contributed to your $780/month COBRA premium - even put you on my medical insurance so that you would have a less expensive premium. Put in that fireplace. Paid for vacations. When the budget came up short, I quietly pulled money out to cover the monthly bills. I ignored needed repairs on my car. Everything was fine until my savings were spent. Suddenly you wanted to know where I was "hiding" my money. Remember that evening when you demanded to see my accounts and I showed all of the to you?At that point I should have seen the writing on the wall. You knew that under NJ Family Law that if you divorced me, the Court would not approve the settlement if one of us had to undergo a dramatic shift in life style. You must have known that the Court would have ordered alimony - yes, only for the length of time we were married - because the Court would have understood that a 5 year gap in employment coupled with my age rendered me unemployable. And you certainly knew that the alimony figure would have been 1/3rd of the difference between your monthly income and mine. So what did you do? We both know the answer. You waited until I was too broke to even be able to afford to challenge the divorce. You even refused to memorialize the cash "settlement" because the Court might have interpreted that as evidence of your plan to leave me destitute. You were so clever. You lied to me. You lied to your family - "it was a mutual divorce" - you lied to our friends. You wanted to be sure that nobody ever learned how despicable you have become. I trusted you like I have never trusted any other person in my life. If there was anything in that "post-nup" that would have hurt me, I trusted you to tell me. You didn't. You planned to hurt me long before you carried it out. You are dead to me. I don't want to hear from you ever again for ANY reason. No texts or calls. No emails (yes, that address is being killed as well). No US mail - it will be tossed unopened. Besides, in a few weeks my physical address is going to change. You will not know where I am ever again.