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FraniMar22

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  1. I hear you all and I get what you're saying. I kinda thought that was the response I would get as I was typing it, lol. I guess my thought process is knowledge is power. The more I find out, the stronger it makes me to run for my life. Because my stupid idiotic self will start thinking maybe it was just that one thing, maybe it was an innocent conversation, and so on. I know how my lame brain works. Believe me, you all have helped me immensely to see this is unacceptable without being told you're being too sensitive, you're paranoid, blah, blah, blah.
  2. There's one other thing I wanted to mention. We met on the Plenty of Fish dating app. After we decided to be exclusive, we both supposedly deleted our profiles. The other thing I saw in his email were tons of emails from this dating site with new matches for him. He swears he's not on there, hasn't been in a very long time. He showed me his phone and showed me the apps on it. I'm thinking there's a way that people hide apps on their phone. Does anyone know if this is possible? Just me digging deeper into this wool that's been pulled over my eyes.
  3. I agree. I miss them terribly.
  4. I honesty don't think I can get past this. And, the fact that he thinks a hug and a sorry make it all better is disturbing. How can I ever trust him again? Quite frankly, I think I've just hit the tip of the iceberg here. I'm sure there's a whole lot more.
  5. He definitely doesn't play fair. But, I want to see him as uncomfortable as possible confessing to my face what has been going on while he's been professing his undying love for me and making a fool of me.
  6. So, I let loose on him yesterday, couldn't even control my crying. He said he was sorry for what happened and that he stressed me out so bad. I told him there must be something missing in our relationship that he needs to get attention elsewhere. He said he loves me, loves everything about "us". When I wanted to take the conversation further and ask questions, he was resistant and just wanted to let it go. It was late and I didn't want to get into another big showdown, but I can't let this go. He needs to provide answers to me, whether he likes it or not. I don't trust him now. I don't know if I'll ever trust him again. I'm not even sure if he's fooling me with apologies.
  7. Not at all. I moved here to be with him, an hour away from where I'm from. I've worked at home for 20+ years, so I can live wherever I want.
  8. I'm not really interested in living with my father. He's very self sufficient but also very judgmental and controlling. Not a good fit for me right now. My son just moved into his own place, his first time on his own. I'd rather not upset his space.
  9. My son is 24 and having some emotional issues that I could surely be helping him with. My father is up in age and I barely get to see him.
  10. I didn't have very many options. My landlord sold my unit and gave me limited time to move out and find a new place. In this very overpriced rental marked and few available rentals, I had nowhere to go but move into his apartment. Granted, I could have held out until I found another place of my own. But, we decided to move in together and make things a little easier financially. Honestly, be careful what you wish for.
  11. I have made this very clear on many occasions, specifically regarding this woman. She has consistently tried injecting herself in our relationship, and he just allows her to do it. She can message him all she wants, but he doesn't have to answer her. He could block her. If a relationship is that important, it should be protected without any outside influences interfering. It just invites trouble. And, as long as we've been together, I have never asked to see his phone or anything of a private nature. He offered to show me, trying to prove I was wrong. I'm not sure what his thought process was, scrolling fast so maybe I wouldn't catch sight of the messages. Once I saw it, he covered it up and refused to let me see anything further.
  12. Yep, that’s him. We just moved in together last July. I actually came upon the info inadvertently. I have access to his email because we pay bills together. Sometimes they send a code to get in a certain account. I saw notifications in his email about the messages. As long as we’ve been together I have never snooped or invaded his privacy. This was right in my face. When I confronted him with it he offered to show me the messages to disprove me. I guess he thought he could scroll so fast I wouldn’t see, but I did. Once I did, he closed it up and refused to show me any more. That leads me to believe there’s so much more I don’t know.
  13. I moved an hour away from my son and my family to be with this man. I need to get back to where I have people who truly care about me. He knew full well how I felt about communicating with other women in that manner and he did it anyway. Granted, the messages were from a year ago and nothing since, which is his argument. I say he should it never should have happened while he’s supposed to be committed to me. He can be sweet and caring and then flip the switch and be mean and cold as soon as he’s called out on something I don’t agree with. My feelings get squashed.
  14. That’s a good question. I’m so tired of starting over. I don’t think I know what true love and happiness is so I keep working at something hoping it will change. I’m so full of anxiety it’s affecting my physical health as well.
  15. I really wanted to believe I finally had something real. It’s obvious I don’t.
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