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  1. That’s very true, I’m not quite sure what I was thinking considering contacting again. Thanks a lot for the replies, it’s helped me to see things much clearer
  2. Thanks for the complete honesty - I appreciate it. I’m so glad I posted on here again, I’ll be sure to stop here. Thanks
  3. Thanks for the response. I meant for her to give closure to me rather than the other way around. Still finding it hard to let go, but I agree with your points made - I certainly won’t contact her, I am glad I posted again as I didn’t see it that way.
  4. I am considering texting her to apologise for asking her the questions about her sex life & for being upset she got with another guy but I hope she understood why it upset me. And to ask her what she’s thinking about it now? I’d rather her give closure if that’s how she feels or what she wants, or is this a bad idea to message?
  5. Fast forward 10 days and still nothing from her. I’m finding it hard that before she left to go away it was so loving, and then now nothing. When she apologised for getting with another guy she said she just wanted to see me and to sort things out, but she has not let me know if she wants to meet and sort things or just call it off for good, and it feels so open ended. I obviously tried on the Sunday she was back to ask when she was home and she said she felt I was being controlling. Would you have expected a message to let me know that that is it for good if she’s thinking that?
  6. I am going to, my mind is made up to let this go and move on. I suppose I don’t even need to let her know unless she gets back in touch. The last thing she said was she can’t talk to me right now as it was making her feel anxious
  7. Definitely agree with all of this - thank you. Its sad that it has been left on a sour note now, with her saying she does not want to talk to me right now as it’s giving her anxiety. I obviously will distance myself now and leave things completely, but if she gets back in touch would you suggest I apologise for being upset? Thanks in advance
  8. I agree it was inappropriate, I really should not have asked her that question. You’re right, she has not technically done much wrong and it’s completely her right to do as she has done. But it just wasn’t a good thing for our possible relationship or rekindling. I Just wish we never met up again on the Sunday before she went, or wish we didn’t message when she was away etc, and I’d have never even known about it all.
  9. I feel like I’m in the wrong now for being upset by what’s happened over the last week. I’m just upset the fact we had such promise after last Sunday, her to say she loved me on Monday then do that. I understand she is feeling anxious but I can’t help being upset what is everyone’s thoughts please?
  10. Update: I messaged her on Sunday morning asking when she was home. She replied ‘not sure’ and that she’s not sure she wanted to see me. She was really sorry on Wednesday but on Sunday so short. She said she felt ill and not up to it. I stupidly asked her if she had been with anyone else in the remainder of the week? I was overthinking it all week and wanted to know as I was getting my head around it whether it was a mistake on her part initially as she said. she responded saying ‘No, I can’t talk to you right now youre giving me anxiety and feel like you’re trying to control me etc’ I understand I shouldn’t have asked her this question but just been a difficult week and didn’t expect this after Sunday. We never had trust issues really before this I responded saying ‘sorry you feel that way, I just didn’t expect this week to pan out the way it did after Sunday. It’s your life and your choices’ and then that was it.
  11. She was being really off with me so I just asked her if she was ok, and it was like 5:30am (I get up at this time for work), and she replied so was checking she was alright as it was early.. I had such a bad feeling it was going to happen even before she went on the trip. She was being really short with me and that’s why I asked her had she been with someone else and she replied ‘ye, at the end of the day you made me single’. Once I was upset back at her she then was saying sorry more. I even am thinking in my mind that it’s possible she could have done it again by the end of the week as she’s home tomorrow The last thing that was said was on Wednesday after she had told me and she said to me ‘sorry 😔 would you not even want to see me again? If I came to see you at yours when I am back?’ And I replied ‘tbh I don’t even know right now’. And she said ‘okay, sorry I’ll leave you be x’ I haven’t spoke to her since, as she’s away until tomorrow and I don’t want to message her to say this is it for good whilst she is away as i don’t want to ruin her trip in any way
  12. The not committing or the on/off after we broke up? I was in the happy committed relationship for a year. Perhaps I have commitment issues. I’m finding the whole thing difficult to distinguish between it not being right or whether it’s just me and my commitment issues
  13. You’re right. There is a reason I had a bad gut feeling around everything & a reason why i felt I wasn’t happy and ended the relationship. I need to just remember this I want to be in a healthy relationship where there is no doubts / bad gut feeling, and I feel the events of this week her sleeping with someone else will just add more doubts & troubles.
  14. Thank you for the input, it’s very sad as I keep thinking of the potential we could have had as everything ‘should’ have worked on paper, but it hasn’t worked out that way - that’s why we have kept trying back and forth, but until now none of us had slept with or made serious steps with anyone new. It’s definitely created a point where it now must end - perhaps it will help me to accept it. time to let go - I agree. Thank you
  15. Thank you so so much for the advice. I will message her something along those lines and then cut contact and move on with my life. I’ve been hung up on this for too long now. Thanks again 🙏
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