couldbeme86

dude i dont think you should have to change anything about yoourself or who you hang out with to get a girl. it will only hurt you more if she says no and youll have all your friends made at you. good luck.

dude just go up to her and be yourself. say sweet things, but dont be really sweet. say things that make her smile and giggle. dont let her know your shy too. have a nice conversation with her about things both of you are intrested in. be her friend but dont get too close. let her know youll be there for her if she needs you. then tell her you like her and ask her out. most girls like a guy that is nice and doesnt come on real strong. if this doesnt help you im sorry. i hope it does though. good luck. later. if you want to im me my sn is somewhatstupid87.

actually the poem at the bottom is really as song. its called "day that i die" by good charlotte. its a really good song. the twins wrote and sing it. and i dont really care if my friends know that i might have to go. they are the reason i stopped in the first place. they would be happy if i went. i want to make them happy. but i dont need some doctor telling my parents that i need help with my life. thats part of the reason i dont want to go. i already know what its like. alot of my friends have gone for the same thing. i already know that going isnt gonna help any thing. it will most likely screw everything up even more. ive already got things back to normal with my life, or at least close to normal. i dont need the damn doctor causing more problems because im gonna be the one that has to clean everything up. i already cleaned things up for myself, i dont need to ad on to the list that im working on now. thanks for the advice. mabye ill go once, but only once. talk to you later. rc

okay my mom is going to drive me crazy. a few days ago she started freaking out on me about why i have sharp objects next to my bed. i told her it was because i use them to cut things when im dont feel like going and getting sissors from the kitchen. its kinda a lie but i dont want to tell her the real reason. the real reason is i used to cut, but i stopped a while ago and just never got rid of the knives and stuff. niether one of my parents noticed i was cutting. but now, a month later, they are freaking out because they think im hurting myself. the only part of my body i cut was my arms and now that the scars are gone i wear short sleeve shirts. but they wont leave me alone about it. and today i was going to the orthodontist and my mom started freaking out on me. then she told me that she had called our insurence agent and asked where to get a pyscologist. ive told my friends a millon times i wasnt going to a damn pyscologist, now i might have to because of my parents. its not like im going to tell that person whats going on. there is no point in me going. im good at hiding things and can go on forever without any of them actually knowing what ive done. anyways how do i get my parents to leave me alone? and how do i tell them that im not going to a pyscologist? that i dont need help? that they would just be wasting money by forcing me to go? thanks to anyone who read all the way through this. if you can please tell me what you think of this situation. thanks again.bye rc

its gonna be awkward no matter how you ask them out. trust me. i did it a month ago. we're still good friends but somethings have changed. good luck. later. rc

thank you mermayd43 and midknight for your opinions. i posted my dreams at both of the sites and got a few responses. thanks for all the help. also i have asked the girl that i like out and she said no . but i have a really good friendship with her and i hope that will never change. thanks again later. rc

hey safari. sup dude. i how you feel. see im a freshman in high school and i just found out im bi. it was a little strange for me cuz i had never really thought about it. but when i started hanging out with a new group of friends one of them caught my eye. my classes got switched around and i ended up having one of my classes with her. at first i didnt realize i had feelings for her but after about a month they got really strong. i already knew she was bi so i figured i might have a chance, i didnt. we both sent signals to each other but i knew that her signals werent because she liked me. i had the same temtations and i still do. some times when we're just sitting there talking i would just watch her. some times i have to bite my lip so that i dont just lean over and kiss her. but the best thing i did was tell her how i felt. a lot of people at my school arent open minded so some of them will make comments to me about it and i just smile and tell them what they want to know. so you should go out as friends, just the two of you, and casually ask him what he thinks about gays or bi's. that will give you some information on wiether or not you want to tell him you think you have a crush on him. hope i helped a little. later. rc

okay i had a dream last night that i did something to piss all my friends off and they all left. when i woke up i was shaking like hell and i havent been able to stop thinking about it.it really freaked me out cuz ive done alot of crap to piss them off and hurt them. i love them like hell and they all know it. but what scared me the most about the dream is the girl that i like was the first one to leave and she told me that i had hurt her so much that she was sick of my crap and didnt want to ever see me again. ive told her i like her but nothing ever happened. i know she loves me as a friend and nothing more but i dont know what i would do if i ever made her or any of my friends leave because of what i did. i get scared every time i think about losing any of them.ive told a few of them that im scared as hell that i might lose them. they told me that they would never leave. i want to believe them but im still scared that i will do something really stupid and they will leave. the dream might have just been my guilt for going of on my friend the other night. could that be it? im just feeling guilty? i dont know. i dont even know what im saying any more. sorry if this makes no sense. im still a little shaken. thanks for reading this. if you understood what i was talking about and think you can tell me what the dream might of ment please respond. if you need more info just send me a message or write a response saying you need more info. thanks. later. rc

hey dude have you ever had a real conversation with her? if you have then she would know who you are. so when you see her, by herself, walk up to her and start a conversation with her. tell her that you like her and see what happens. i know it will be hard, but you can do it. trust me i used to be really shy last year and now the only time im shy is when im around the girl i like. and the girl i like is one of my close friends so she kinda figured something was wrong. so my point is just work up the courage and tell her that you like her. good luck. later. rc

okay hi. im so confused right now. see theres this girl i like. but im pretty sure she doesnt like me back. also we are both bi. im going to a concert tomorrow with her . its just gonna be the two of us until we meet up with someone she knows. but we are gonna be sitting on our asses for like four to five hours by our selves. i really like her and shes a really close friend of mine. she knows i have a crush on her. well i told her i did like two months ago. anyways i want to tell her how i feel again cuz we never really talked about it when i told her the first time, but all my friends say i should just keep my mouth shut and go on with my life. but i keep getting really depressed from seeing her and not being able to telll her how i feel. im not sure if i should tell her how i feel tomorrow or just sit back and keep my mouth shut. should i tell her? should i just go on with my life and find someone else? i really love being with her as just a friend but i want to try and be more. when ever they start talking about how hot other girls or guys are i just nod my head and say wether or not i think theyre cute or not. it kinda hurts to hear her call people cute but i deal. do you guys and girls think i should tell her how i feel? if you can, please tell me what you think i should do tomorrow. thanks. rc

hey charlotte. im sorry about your dad. i know how hard it is to lose someone you care about and are really close to. what your going through is hard to deal with. what you should do is tell one of your close friends about how you feel. some times it helps to just tell someone about what your feeling. if theyre a good friend they wont mind you telling them whats wrong. it might help you with your depression. i know it helped me to tell my friends how i felt. i never cried in front of my friends, but i would always have really quick mood swings. i would be fine one minute, and then one of my friends would say something as a joke and it would set me off. they would all just sit there looking at me. none of them would know what to say. then after a month or two i told them that that was my way of breaking down. after that, if i went off everyone would ask what was wrong and offer a hug to calm me down. that helped me, knowing that my friends care about what was wrong. now im always the one offering the hugs. after a while you get back to how you felt before and feel much better. i hope youll talk to one of your friends and tell them whats wrong. hope i helped you at least a little. later. rc

hey thanks john one and nina for all the help. ill try to do what the two of you sugested. hope this will help. my frinds are starting to tell me that if i dont do something theyre gonna tell my parents about everything. thats the last thing i need right now. i already have enough stress from my parents, i dont need any more. again thanks for everything. later.

okay the last few months have been crap. everything was great until a few months ago. i started to lose my temper more and would go off on my friends about the smallest things. now i just hate being alive. the girl i want to go out with i cant go out with, my parents want to know everything about my life, ive hurt all my friends and i just want to die. i cut for a while to try and get rid of my depression. that didnt help any cuz i hurt all my friends, which made me even more depressed. its funny cuz im always fine until night time. thats whan i get really depressed and do something stupid. i always end up in a fight with one of my friend because im so edgy at night. my friends get pissed because im not afraid to die and wish i would. i always tell my friends sorry for everything ive done, then i turn around and do something even dumber. like when i told my friend that i was sorry for hurting her, then i turned around and wrote her a letter asking if anyone would miss me if killed myself. that pissed her off and she cussed me out. i dont get why i only get depressed at night. does it make any sense? shouldnt i be depressed all the time, not just at night?im sorry to who ever read this. im just trying to get rid of my depression. if anyone thinks they know whats wrong with me or just want to cuss me out then please respond. later. rc

babe its not your fault. we all go through a faze where all we want to do is hurt the people who bug us. what ever you do dont actually hurt someone cuz it doesnt help. it causes more problems. but the whole thing with your parents, when ever the start a conversation about you moving overseas just tell them that youre happy where you are and change the subject. after a while they'll give up and see that you wont be controled by them any more. good luck and try not to actually hurt anyone.later. rc 8)

any ways. J, i think you should talk to her about whats going on. it might make you feel better and it might help her understand how you feel. but thats just what i think. you should trust yourself and od what you think is right. good luck. let all of us know how it goes. later. rc