Hi All,
I'm tired being alone stuck in this situation, taking abuse and not able to do anything. Atleast just want to speak out here.
We have been married for almost 10 years and since the start there were issues about my husband's lying about recreational drug use. I was naive to understand that after everytime I caught him lying, something will change next time.
Sometimes he is atleast little apologetic but last year he was like a full time addict, abusing ecstasy almost every day. He had no remorse for his actions and told me to leave if I can't take it. It took me an entire year to gather courage and I finally made the decision to leave him. But he convinced me to stay with what felt genuine regret at the time.
I have given so much to this relationship and I again believed him. It was short-lived few good months. Before he was back to taking drugs here n there behind my back. I knew he won't go 100% clean and this year he has done very few times.
I have always been clear to him that just don't lie to me and I don't want to be around you if you are high. This year if I was not home and he did, I would just ignore for my peace of mind.
But it has happened a few times where he again lied to me while I know very well he was high, gaslighting me by trying to make me feel like I have lost my mind and imagining things. I lose my sanity when he lies to my face and makes me look like a fool.
2 weeks ago it again happened and I am just not able to move past. It's horrible timing as we are in middle of something important. He was apologetic but what's the point if it will happen again.
I feel regret having trusted him in Dec. No words out of his mouth seem to have any truth. I never had much trust on him, but last 2 weeks have shaken me up.
And especially his response of gas lighting, verbally abusing me. He doesn't want anyone else to know about his drugs issue and threatens me if I speak to anyone that he will ruin my life. I have spent thousands at the therapist but he doesn't want to go there.
And this time it has just crossed more boundaries with his verbal abuse and turning into physical abuse. I'm in shock and just so regretting not going ahead with my decision of leaving.
Here to just vent out. I really needed to speak out.