Incompatible

If I don't plan anything, he will just happily meet me at my house all the time. I don't mind just having a day at home and chilling as when you eventually get comfortable with someone, you don't need to always go on dates. & Yeah he does always say he enjoys experiencing new things with me. But tbh the initiating dates as I said isn't really a red flag or major issue for me. I've told him about it and he's putting more effort in and thats all I can ask for and I'm happy with it.

Yeah I've slept over his house a few times and we do have fun when we're together.

One thing is that he doesn't plan dates/days out much. I'm very adventurous and love to explore and do new things. I'm always the one saying to him, we should do this and that together and he always is happy to do it. But I guess, I would like him to take the initiative and plan stuff too.. as It can get exhausting one person doing it. & I have told him that and tbh he is trying and putting more effort in, which is why I cannot complain much. (Reason why he doesn't plan as much is because he is so laid back and is happy to do whatever I want to do, so he likes to leave it to me, but still nice once in a while for the other person to plan something nice).

Hi everyone, I just wanted to get some people's advice on long-term serious dating. I am dating my bf and have been for the past 7 months now. So I have no major issues generally with my bf, he is pretty much everything I'd look for in a guy. Yes, he's not perfect, he has some things I didn't like but I've communicated to him the issues and he is putting more effort in, so that's really good for me. And those issues were minor issues anyway, not bad enough to not wanna be with him. So I guess here is the thing that I'm wanting advice on... Is it normal to not feel like you miss someone and have the butterflies & excitement gone away quite quickly in a relationship? I don't know whether because in the past, some relationships I've been in, I still felt the honeymoon period and excitement and waiting for their text within the 5-6 month mark. (& I don't think 7 months of dating someone is particularly that long either) I feel like the honeymoon period between my bf & I kinda died down by the 4th mark? we got very comfortable with each other very quickly because we are very similar people as individuals. & I'm happy with that, cos I love the fact I am very comfortable around him and don't feel judged etc. I am also a very independent person , I love me time and doing my own things etc. I don't feel like I need to text my bf 24/7 and he feels the same too. Whilst it's quite nice and I do like that, it makes me think, back in my old relationships I remember wanting to constantly talk to my exes all the time... So now I'm questioning myself whether this is normal? Cos I can go a 1-2 hours without texting my bf and not feel like I miss him? Same with seeing him, I see him once a week but sometimes if we're busy we see each other once every other week.. and oddly enough, I don't feel like I "miss" him or feel gutted I won't see him. In the beginning yes, I felt sad when I couldn't see him, so I'm not sure whether I'm just in a serious and comfortable part of a relationship. Where it's non-toxic and it's sturdy and this is how it should be? So, I guess I just want to hear other people's advice? P.s I know people say, imagine yourself without that person in your life to know your true feelings. & for me yes I would be upset if my bf and I broke up. Part of me thinks the sadness is because he's the first person I've had a lot in common with, similar personalities and outlook in life etc. However, I think I would get over it, as in I wouldn't be absolutely devastated, heart broken... - Idk if this is the independent part of me. 've always lived my life knowing I don't particularly need a guy in my life. So, I don't "need" my bf but more so I want to be with him. & This is just because I'm very happy independent and I've never been someone who depends my happiness on someone else. I'm a big believer, you date someone cos you want to be with them, not cos you feel you need them for your own happiness. Plus, I've dated a lot of guys before and I know if something doesn't work out with someone, there's always someone else out there for you? So, I don;t know if this plays a part.. but I just want to know people's thoughts?