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NC is No Communication.. thnx for ur advice, i ll consider it

its been good sticking to NC but, these moods swings sometimes get the better of me.She is online at present like veryday and i m not messaging her,but i ve had that temptation more than often to do so...

The way you brought yourelf back to your normal self is truly amazing you ve inspired me mate,i m back , chin up... thanks to you. take care cheers

My dear friend ,I was in the same spot a few months ago.I also wanted honesty out of her. same ol stuff lies and more complicated lies, suddenly i saw a lot of her cousins born left right and centre.she sneaked out on me a couple of times and i caught her .but the fact that i was too madly in love with her i let it be and even asked her the same thing as u did to be just dating, despite all her reassurances that she loved me i got hold of a conversation with this guy which blew the lid and i "dumped" her. The confusion is bound to happen, if u read my post, i still miss her months after break-up.Its up to you to decide whether you want the realtionship or not, if you are too attached to her, just try and break loose and think it over rationally whether you will be able to continue in the future with someone who has lied to you and played with your emotions.It is not easy , but you must think it over from your head and decide what is best for you,just try n be selfish for some time.I went thru hell for months after the break up while she found someone new, barely weeks later..I sincerely hope your relationship does not end up like mine but having a practical approach would help you decide whether yu want this relationship or not.. good luck to u cheers

my story with all its twists and turns seems to be going around in circles. a brief recap : i was madly in love with my ex and would worship the ground she walked upon.the she sarted lying to me and cheating on me.I gave subtle hints initially but later on when things became out of hand i decided to call it quits. I was devastated by the outcome, a wreck to say the least.Luckily i was away for 3 months which made me realise a lot of things and apparently gave me time to heal.Even the thought of those three months makes me shudder.sleepless nights,crying bouts,depression,suicidal tendencies.. i was right on the edge.Thankfully i had the support of some of my good friends at this forum. So 3 months over and done, my ex had started going around with another friend of mine and when college started again i was faced with the dilemma of whether to talk with her or not.Thanks to NC, I stuck to my guns and did not talk to her, even though I saw her everyday in class.its been close to 2 months of college and my ex initiated a conversation over the messenger to which i told her, i need time to think whether i wud be able to talk to her or not. SOme days are just superb with me all positive and pursuing my challanges , while some days i m back to contemplating whether she misses me or not, i know she is a gold-digger of sorts but i hope sometimes that she will realise how much i love her.i kno i m chasing rainbows but this is the person i thought was just bout perfect for me and i still have a soft corner for her... i ask u all, where am i now, are these phases of love and hate normal.I am sooo tempted to call her, but thanks to my newly acquired introvert behavior i resist.Am i changing as a person,is it for the better... i don't know you can call me an emotional fool but i want to stop being one...please help me out

i feel as if my story is being told again n again,i was in a similar situation except mine was not a LDR, she wants to be friends... and for her friends means another word for doormat.i wud say go for NC for a few days and proactively think whether u want her to be a part of your life in future... don't be driven by emotiond, just picture the kind of person she is and put her in place of a companion you d probably want , if the two match, then go on .. pursue her or else, it adios, she ain't owrth damn minute of ur life.tough choice but it ll help u move ahead. all the best cheers

my ex cheated on me, i called it off, that makes me the dumper.NC is not for the dumper or the dumpee it is for the person who has actually given heart and soul in a relationship, who values those precious moments together and still cherishes them, it is a means to forget these momemnts and convince oneself that they are not coming back again.It is difficult and one is bound to jump to conclusions,NC helps u become indifferent to all thats happenin , it helps u realise the real u,get a grip on yourself and start from the scratch, start loving urself. take care

thnx so much allie,enjoy ur vacation.take care

no , i m not contacting her and thts final , thank you all Just heard this beautiful song by lobo.I guess i m not in love with her anyomore but i cant help being a die hard romantic. this one goes out to love ( not lovers) cheers everyone I stopped sending flowers to your apartment You said you aren't home much anymore I stopped dropping by without an appointment Cause I'd hear laughter coming through your door. Sometimes late at night you'll still call me Just before you close your eyes to sleep You make me vow to try and stop by sometime Baby that's a promise I'can't keep. I love you too much to ever start liking you So lets just let the story kinds end I love you too much to ever start liking you So don't expect me to be your friend. I don't walk down through the village or other places That we used to go to all the time I'm trying to erase you from my memory Cause thinking of you jumbles up my mind. You always act so happy when I see you You smile that way you take my hand and then Introduce me to your latest lover That's when I feel the walls start crashing in.

thats wht i m bothered about, there is a party in a few hrs, everyone's been invited. i dont plan to go, i only intended to text her. but i dont want to be looked upon as mean by everyone else, i know, it might harm my healing process, i think i wont attach too much importance to it.If its NC , it will remain so.

the question that comes to my mind is ... so what if she cheated on me,so what if she sucked my life out of me , i can't stope being the nice person thaat i am, i know it sounds too cliched but, i dont expect a responce.... really sorry but i m in a dilemma... the good part though is that i am not drinking my woes away today. she s not worth it.

its been more than 5 months since we broke up, 3 months of Nc, though i see her everyday in college, i have not broken NC.Today is her Birthday Should i text her or call her ...not that i expect her to respond but still.... help me out pls

BE STRONG , and everything will be ok before you know it...any form of contact will get you back to almost square one. mate i remember ur advice to me on my first post on this forum, and you are absolutely right yet again. right on cheers

i guess so, its been quite a while since i felt good about myself Friends!!! maybe, maybe not, i not bothering myself with that thought anymore trust me , it feels like a new life altogether

lift ur spirits,do wht makes u happy, most important is to uplift ur self image, in short, " love urself"