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  1. Hi Penny - I understand emotional baggage and how it can color your choices. I can only offer my opion based on some life experience. If one is not careful, they allow the emotional baggage of yesterday to cause them to make decisions today which will become their emotional baggage of tomorrow. It is vicious and self-perpetuating. You can have all the therapy in the world and even intellectulize this concept however; it is all useless until you decide that your actions today will be in your best interest and not colored by the injuries of the past. Is this easier said than done? Of course. But if you do not make a heroic effort to step out of the past, then you are doomed to remain in this cycle. Hope this makes sense to you!
  2. RUN AWAY - The best predictor of future behavior is current behavior.
  3. Cheating is defined as an act of deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition. Cheating characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage, usually in one's own interest, and often at the expense of others. Cheating implies the breaking of rules. I hear people say that it is not cheating if your spouse is ok with it. But breaking marriage vows is cheating even if you agree. If you both agree to rob a bank that does not make it ok. I think cheating is less harmful if you both agree as in open marriages - but harmful nonetheless.
  4. This is the age of no self-responsibility. We often like to take the victim role which is easier than admitting to ourselves that we have done something wrong. Penny - Have you reread your comments? You state, "I have always been able to contain myself but a whole week with him was a bit too much to handle." A WHOLE week? Thank the good Lord that your husband is not in Iraq. You disregarded vows that you took (probably before God and an assembled crowd) and betrayed this man who loves you and whom you profess to love. Sure an orgasm is a great thing, but do you really want to go through life sleeping with new men because that is the only way you can get off? First i think you should not even entertain the thought of continuing an affair with a 19 year old. I am sure he is bragging about his conquest at all the frat parties and if I understood correctly that you work together - then you have made a monumental mistake in more ways than one. Secondly you need to decide if you want to remain married, If you do I recommend that you take your betrayal to the grave. If you confess you will surely destroy the man who took you as his wife. A man's ego is a fragile entity and it is not easily restored But most of all - realize that this was not some cosmic occurrance that you had no control over. You made a conscious decision to have sex with this kid. After all, we are humans and not animals. I do wish you good luck but you are going down a path to much pain and anguish. Leave this poor man that you profess to love so he can find a woman who deserves his love and faithfulness or go get some help and get your "urges" under control.
  5. I am sorry that you are going through this. I don't know of anything that will end the pain however; I have found that time like these are a good to ramp up your exercise program. Feeling good about yourself is very powerful medicine. In addition, DO NOT sit around and listen to sad songs on the radio - in another words, do what you have to to keep from dwelling on what might have been. If you are healthy and moving on - she might ralize what she had. Of course it may be too late as you may be the one who has moved on. Good Luck!
  6. ummmmmm - sure sounds like an infection. You will probably need a physician to prescribe you antibiotics. There is a sure way to keep from getting infected - don't get pierced.
  7. Sorry for the pain you are feeling and although I have no advice regarding your relationship issues I do feel that this might be a great time to really ramp up the exercise program - get those endorphins flowing. The benefit of feeling really physically healthy and confident at times like these is really underrated. Good Luck - Not much immediate help but know that the pain will fade. God Bless! %fly
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