I really appreciate everyone’s feed back.
For more context it’s food service- so he works with everyone there very closely, teaching and helping and overseeing everything. He gets a lot of attention from everyone and gets a lot of publicity for it. Which is great for him.
He posted a picture of himself one day and the comment this girl wrote was “master” with like a saluting emoji face. which I thought, okay weird thing to say? But whatever no big deal, he’s in charge he teaches people he knows his stuff-
But then she posts a picture of him, in her story, with a caption of a silly phrase he says all the time and it like rubbed me the wrong way and almost solidified in my gut that something is wrong.
I always think the worst though, and have made up scenarios in my head from over thinking in the past- but is this just me over thinking or…
I don’t know if I think he’s having an affair per day as it’s more of, like, exciting beautiful people at work clearly giving him attention stroking his ego & him liking it- liking the attention he’s getting (resharing that picture) then coming home to a “boring” future wife/life possibly losing interest and having that show and reflect in his actions.
the medication is definitely changing his moods and attitudes. He has a pretty big/out there personality, it’s still like that but he’s less, manic I guess I would say. At times I would almost say “flat” in a way. He’s benefiting from this medication he doesn’t hit his lows like he used to.
I’m doing my best to work through my own personal issues with the codependency. I realize I have an issue in need of correcting. I go to therapy myself (been on a hiatus lately because of work). I read books i do a little research here and there.
I like to joke that I’m the kind of person that thinks their s/o is mad at them because they put their shoes on angry or something 😂
I had recently had a huge change in my career as well right before he did, more hours more stress, different location but a raise which is great. I love what I do but my job is more “lonely” vs his.
we both have had great changes in our careers, new meds to help, getting married in less than a year, I can’t tell if I’m self sabotaging or if his actions are suggesting possible failure for the future..