Hi everybody,
I'm almost at my wits end here. Will try to keep this short and sweet.
My wife of 9 years (second marriage for us both, and I think it is the biggest mistake 've ever made other than getting married the first time !), is just not affectionate in anyway anymore. Very sudden turn around after 6 months of marriage.
Sex once a month if Im lucky, and then very unsatisfying due to no effort on her behalf at all. I have to do ALL the initiating ...AND...starts talking about her elderly Aunty ( just ONE example) just as im trying to do it!!! Man....what a turn off! Complains the whole time that Im hurting her is some way or another ., Even if I hug her she will hold her arms in front of her chest.
I am Craving some physical contact .Skin Hunger they call it, just a caress, a touch, something....I feel so neglected....
Just never shuts up about other peoples dramas, NEVER ! I just even have trouble being in the same room as her now. Its breaking my heart.
There was a disturbing incident involving her cousin some years ago. They were spending a lot of time together and then had a big falling out and her cousin said to me as she was leaving, " You should hear what she's saying about you! She said that she is not sexually attracted to you anymore and she rubbishes your children! She said this 3 times!"
My wife started acting very nervous after that and denied it vehemently but body language and her nervous chatting tells me otherwise.'
Well, I dont think I handled this very well in hindsight, I should have said right everyone ,sit down , discussion time because this is serious ***.
But the cousin left and that was that. But now her actions since have only worsened my fears.
She picks on lots of little things, " Oh look , you just spilt a drop of water on the floor whilst washing your hands"
I just brush against her in bed and its" Ow you hurt me then"
And one of the most annoying things is when say I am in the kitchen and you know how sometimes you get in someones way when they are moving around , then the body english, wow! Rolls eyes , gives impatient breath , like I have committed the worst crime!
She is quite rude and brusque with me a lot for no reason, I am one of the easiest people in the world to get along with ( this is part of my problem I think , Im too easy and I hate conflict).
Oh one last thing , If i even make a tiny noise whilst her TV show is on God help me , but she will talk incessantly trough mine and I read a lot of technical books and same thing when doing that. This is from a woman that claims regularly that I am the best thing to ever come her way and she loves me sooo much....
I am 62 and dont have any options anymore in regards somewhere else to go. I sold my house so there went my safety net. I would walk if I had options...
I am sooo depressed. I just dont know how to addess this.