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Thank you, it's akways good to hear a different point of view, I think I'll try to be more proactive this time, instead of just waiting for him to make a move.

I like this and honestly wish I was more proactive in these situations. I'm just worrried it would be too much since I've only seen him once.

I have seen him only once so I can't say that I like him or something, but yeah I'd like to get to know him better and maybe spend some time outside work, we had a good time during our coffee break, he was funny and easy to talk to.

Just to clarify, we had coffee during work hours, we didn't hang out outside work. While we were talking during our coffee meet, he invited me to join him and his team for drinks after work. But that didn't happen yet. But yeah, it's totally possible that he changed his mind in the meantime for whatever reason.

Ok thanks for clarifying. Can you please explain how you progressed romantically with her? If you feel like it, of course.

That shouldn't be an issue, I have very limted contact with him as far as work, we only worked on one project and then my manager gave me a little task that involved several people, including him. But otherwise we don't work together and I don't see him at all because we can also work from home so most people don't go to the office.

Yeah maybe I simply misread the situation. I think it was the flirty vibe that is hard to describe and the 'nice to meet you' message that he sent after coffee that made me think he might be interested. No big deal though.

It was just me and him sitting at the table, some people came to the same room to get coffee but we didn't talk to them, they just said hello. So it was the first time we met in person so we exchanged basic information about each other - I'm a foreigner here so he asked me a lot of questions about my situation - how long I've been here for, where I live in the city and so on, and then we talked about traveling because he visited Eastern Europe before. He then invited me to join his team for drinks and at the end he asked me what time I usually finish work because he and his team usually have to stay late in the evening.

Thank you, alcohol is not a problem, I'm originally from Eastern Europe so I don't get drunk easily 😁 I don't tend to share personal information with strangers or people I barely know so that should be okay. People at my company are not very friendly in general, everyone kind of minds their own business and people from different teams usually don't really mingle so that's why I was surprised when he suggested coffee. We didn' talk about work things during coffee at all but yeah, I take it that he was just friendly.

So it's been 2 weeks since I had coffee with this coworker and no new updates since then. We have talked a little but mostly about work. He didn't mention hanging out with his team again. I thought he might be interested but pobably he was just being friendly.

I think if she didn't like the good morning and good night messages, she could have told him in a friendly way - no need to say she 'hates' them. She said she likes these messages so I think OP can continue texting her if he wants to. If she likes him, she'll be happy to hear from him, even if she's on vacation.

Have you thought about taking some distance from her and maybe focus on other relationships, not necessarily romantic ones? I understand that you enjoy your close friendship with her but maybe this could help you.

I agree with this. OP, listen to your intuition and not to some 'rules' that dictate how many messages you should send, or how long you should wait to text her.

I think that if change your texting habits and text her less, she could think that you're less interested and pulling away. It could create some confusion in my opinion.

This was actually my first impression about this situation.