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I wasn't surprised too that they didnt work out. In fact I watched these type of shows aaaall the time but I am realistic because I've watched these enough to know that 95% of these couples don't work out in real life. Unpopular opinion... I really do think Gerry and Theresa, at their age, really had a deep connection ... on the set. LOL That's how it is. When a set is a MADE for you... like how can you not fall in love with the other person! I don't know if anyone watched this episode, except Starlight. But the episode with Gerry and Theresa first 1:1 date is where Gerry picks up Theresa in this nice old classic car and he was driving so slow and kept getting honked at, and the whole time Theresa in her "namaste" state just had one calm gentle hand on his arm. They get to their '60 diners theme date and he said he was so scared that once he felt her hand, a calmness came over him. Then they do this Grease dance with the whole staff. So again, how can you not fall in love when theres already chemistry with someone? I think once they got out of that TV set, and back to living real life and realized ... "oh theres nobody setting another romantic scene for us - no writer, no director and no beautiful waterfall or staff serving me at every whim." Yea.. there's an art behind these shows. Once that sorcery is gone, reality sets in. I love seeing couples come out of this strong and still together - of course not many. I watch Survivor and a lot of the winners and contestants don't let fame get to their head. Not everyone who goes on these shows have self-serving interest where their moral is corroded. I think most people like competition and humans, as most animals, love being spectators of competition. I also like watching the connection between contestants... most people are not all about themselves. Some of them know if they don't have a chance or even if they do have a chance, they cheer on their peer/rival(s) and still express humility and sportsmanship (and I've seen this on LIB!)

I don't think he rejected you but his response wasn't an emphatic celebration. So yea, I don't think he likes you like that but just as a friend.

So I just quoted what stick out to me. And thats because I am speaking from experience and so it doesn't mean it applies to your situation. So you can totally disregard my post. When Ive dated people who told me early on they've been hurt and are trying to be cautious, I found out later that they weren't over what happened to them and they projected a lot of insecurities onto me and the relationship and it ruined any opportunity of growth/progression. In the end, I just got fed up with people telling me this or even me feeling this self-pity for what happened in the past. If you aren't in the right mind frame to date and find love, just don't date and drag someone down with you. I keep writing this and this should really be my signature. Early on in dating, everyone should listen to their gut. If your gut is telling you that your interaction or communication is signaling doubts and insecurities, its because on a subconscious level, you are reading between the lines. Any way good luck and I hope she does reach out to you and plan for an alternative plan to meet up.

Uhh ...what?! So is she running an illegal business then?! Here we were... talking to you about making sure you transfer all the social media accounts back to her and don't use it on your own personal email account.... and turns out, she probably wouldn't even have a leg to stand on because she never made you sign any paperwork. SMH talk about hot mess. Any way, good thing you're leaving and I am sure she will be just fine.

Please have a heart to heart with your 10-year boyfriend - agree with everything catfeeder said. Groceries is expensive and you should not be taking that on yourself. Can I ask how you both came to the conclusion that you would buy all the groceries for you and him? Same with the cleaning lady?

RUN! Do not look back. You cannot help him. They have to want to help themselves. You just need someone to watch your back when you're packing while he's not there. Please ask a family member or a close friend. I'm sure they will help you no questions ask because they are just as tired of him as you are.

Got it. If you both leaned a few times, then I think you're ok, because it was mutual. I don't think she was blaming you. I think maybe she was having doubts since there were no contact the following day and then Monday rolls, she decided to say something about the kisses but it was late and you were asleep. She is probably in her head a lot. I think she'll respond to you about seeing each other again. Fingers crossed.

Oh Alex... you are your mother's daughter. I just hope one day you decide that life is not about keeping scores or winning people over but about letting people be and living your own life without a care what others thinks or say.

Well, how did the kiss happened? Did you both lean in to each other, or did you lean in only? Also you said you kissed a few times. How were these kisses? On the cheek on the lips but pecks? Or like tongue action? I say this but most people would not like a kiss with a stranger's tongue in their mouth on the first date, unless the goal is a one night stand.

Nattz, have you thought about doing group therapy? I think you need to be in group setting more so you can get out there and put yourself out there.

If I was to be honest, I don't think you guys are compatible. When someone sends you a selfie, I think they are want some love back 😁 - especially since you both are still in the "new-ness" phase of getting to know each other. She still wants to know if you still attracted to her. I also believe in your other thread you said she was average looking? " As I mentioned, she's said that she has insecurities (but she's average looking and smart etc...) ."

Do you like the cinema guy? Are you attracted to him? The rest of the guys - no. And yes, Meetup groups is another tool to meet people and maybe even find a significant other. You putting yourself out there is awesome! Keep attending if you're enjoying the group. You never know who will pop in. I never met any one while single and active in Meetup groups, but I did meet a lot of kind and interesting people.

Go Kim! You never know? You might actually meet some great people who you can network with or a special someone 😉

Our first meet was our first date, even tho technically he didnt call it that. And it was funny. Mind you, when we first met on the game he was living 600miles away. However, he was also doing random odd jobs for a transportation company. About 2 months of us playing this game, he let me know there was a job to transport a military vehicle to a base near my town and if I would like to get a drink because he didnt mind driving 30mins over to my town after he dropped off his load. It was obvious he really wasn't into this PS4 game as much as me LOL but was playing/engaging just because he thought I was cute and funny. He was a looker too, the type I would go for, but I didnt think it would work out due to distance so I just never tried to flirt or entertain that idea. So, agreeing to meet up with him, I was really treating it as an old friend coming to town. Also, what was old me doing on a lonely Saturday night? Not much- so why not? So no nerves going into this until I laid my eyes on him! My face suddenly turned red and I was flushed with fear. I think I was just struck at how attractive he was and questions came flooding me head 'why did I not brush my teeth, or do my hair, do I smell good?' He just looked at me, smile and hugged me and that hug, whew... felt so warm and good - it actually felt like it released me from the ill feeling of wanting to pixel fade from the bar. I was still nervous and sweaty, so I ordered a drink, down it and took the edge off. Thats when we started to vibe and he said he thought I was going to vomit when I first walked in. Any way, the chemistry in person was 10x better, he was so much better in person, and he felt I was so much better in person. I am now a believer that the stars will aligned for you if you're meant to be with someone, even if you're not looking LOL The Proposal was funny too and not one bit romantic. I actually proposed to my husband and it was nonchalantly posed. We were having dinner and I just said "Hey I don't think you have health insurance? I think you should join my plan... There's only one way you can join my plan." And he just answered without pause to what he was doing: "You had me at hello." LOL He did get me a ring - he remembered I don't care for diamonds, but yea I am crystal girl! So he got me my favorite stone, an opal ring.

Yes, sorta. We met thru a PS4 (back then) game online. I took a break from OLD, even planned on being single for the rest of my life. There was these hotspots in the game where all the newbs went for help, and he and I kept bumping into each other at these hotspots. So we would always see each other characters looking at maps and treasure chests for a whole week. And then one day, he asked for help and thats how it started...