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LootieTootie

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  1. Me thinks its normal how you're feeling, rainbows. Guy is attractive and swept you off your feet and you're not meeting anyone at the moment that has caught your attention, so I can see why you're second-guessing. However, in the end, you have to remember why you made that decision not to continue. I don't think you made that decision lightly. Thank you for putting more context in how he went to jail and decided to turn his life around. When I read your earlier posts about his abusive past- I had a hunch that it was drinking- related because you had mentioned the boner comment was when he was also drunk (?)... Not saying this guy can't handle his alcohol but someone who is extremely forward on a first meet/date, along with a past of alcoholism slash domestic violence is big red flag.
  2. I think I mentioned this before that you have an unhealthy perspective about how things are, and how things should be. You're doing it again and this time putting your relationship with your mom in jeopardy. Hopefully your SIL is clueless to how you really feel about her because if she found out, you bet your brother will cut ties with you. Then you really will be left out. Learn to let things be and let things go. Also you really need to ask your new friends to go dancing or go to the batting cage.
  3. Well you know what music he likes, so maybe you can say "Hey I heard that song you and your friends were listening to. I thought it sounded familiar and realized it's one of my favorite bands 🙂 Did you know they're going on tour?" I know its lies but hey wouldn't that make a great story later how much you were willing to lie to get his number? It's better than stalking or waiting endlessly for the right moment.
  4. Yay! This sounds like an awesome update and she sounds like a keeper already. Rooting for you!
  5. It's a beautiful stone. I am glad you are unloading in your therapy sessions (thats what they're for) and you have a good friend who can hear you and comfort you -it's very hard to find a good friend!
  6. Have you created an email account for your boss and transferred all social media to that account?
  7. I didnt read everyone's post here but do agree with Blue Castle and Starlight. The deficiency in testosterone in men have significantly dropped, not just in America, but all over the world. I'm not an astrologist or claim to know a lot about it but I recalled reading this article about how the world goes thru astrological ages and we are are at the beginning of the Age of Aquarius, which would be an age of rebirth. In the past, astrologists believe that this astrological age happened during significant ideology and technological advancements. And we are at the dawn of one, meaning civilizations or cultural norms/idealogy dies and new ones are born and shaped by technology and progressive ideology. Aquarius is associated with idealism, technology, progressive and critical thinking and humanitarianism. Age of Aquarius brings in a balance of masculine and feminine energies where feminine energies was not as prominent as its predecessor (the Age of the Pieces). Any way, its interesting and just shows that how dating apps/social media (screen time) have shaped the dating paradigm and even society's. You have a lot of successful women in the dating pool, they're looking for an equal. You have men who are wanting a woman who is fiscally independent and isn't afraid of a woman who can change her own tire. There's definitely a paradigm shift in how people are starting to view the roles of a man and a woman. But then you have technology oversaturating people's brains that they get a kick of being virtual popular but not actually real-life commit to anything. Because everyone like Coily mentioned is risk-adverse. However, I am also an optimist and say that just because its hard to date now (thank goodness I'm not single any more) doesn't mean there aren't well-meaning people out there who will meet you halfway. I am still a true believer that if someone wants to be with you, they will make that time!
  8. Why is Joe snooping on FB and relaying the FB comments to you? You would think a grown adult would know not to get in the middle of two petty people's drama. Any way... no one wins. Only the kids suffer as both adults are bent on revenge and division. If she doesn't want you seeing her children, accept it and move on. All you can do is bite your tongue, bow out with grace and hope that when they turn 18, they reach out. Also send the x-mas presents already. It's getting waaaaay too late to be holding onto winter presents when spring is here.
  9. Lutina, If someone meets you and wants to be with you, they will make time. I think it's where "he's just not that in to you." & that is perfectly ok. Sometimes you think someone is exactly what you've been waiting for, but they aren't feeling the same with you. & sometimes you meet someone, and they're are way more in to you than you are with them. It happens. Dating is tough but don't even put any more time an effort to this guy. If later, he thinks maybe he wants to give it a try again, let him be the one to reach out.
  10. You need to see it for what it is... verbal abuse. It doesn't matter if someone is ill or not. If you keep putting up with it, you're allowing them to talk to you this way. When people I love treat me this way, I just tell them "See ya." I don't try to reach out or visit them. Whatever they're going thru, it's on them. You don't have to "be there" so they're not alone, or you're not alone. Its better to be alone than subject yourself to someone's cruelty. At the end of the day, peace of mind is so much more important than someone's regular verbal abuse and gaslighting.
  11. Thats nerves and complimenting you for being a good listener 😁
  12. I hope thats not the norm these days but then again, I haven't been dating for 9 years. I think you can only be you and don't put on a facade just to keep someone interested. If someone is in to you, they do not need you to sext them. Some people are fine with sexting. One of my work friend was like this with her boyfriend when they started dating (met on Tinder). I would always hear her phone go off. They were nonstop sexting. I used to cringe at some of the stuff she told me they texted each other but I would be lying if I said I was not entertained, LOL. They're married with kids now.
  13. If my partner has a pattern of lying, I see that right away as not being honest. If you value honesty, this guy isn't it.
  14. When he told you he was done, he was done. Have you thought about downsizing since he left? It looks like you both stuck around due to financial reasons. Any way, I love your fur baby account picture.
  15. Ok, so, it's not even her house and she is upset at your mom for showing your house to your aunt. Wow the entitlement here. I have to commend you for drawing out some boundaries with her. However, it seems that she is not respecting your boundaries if the same fights keep happening. Relationship is a 2 way street and it sounds like when you guys get into fights, she fights dirty. Please do not think this will somehow change overnight... People who are abusive do not change overnight - most actually get worse the longer you are with them. It's good that she is going to counseling with you, and I am interested to know have you told your counselor about your fights? About her throwing a wine bottle *near* you ? Which one day, will probably be at you.
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