My GF and I have been together for about 3 years. We started dating just prior to the pandemic and so our time, for awhile there, was relatively flexible. We're both single parents, so it was limited to the 50% of the time we didn't have our kids (and then some time with, after they all met), but it was pretty easy for both of us to prioritize our time together.
Then my girlfriend went back to school and she got a new job that takes up more time and involves her travelling once a month. Between these two things, it's definitely changed our time together. My girlfriend is also someone who always need to excel, be it in school, work, or being a parent. And she does! She's great at all of these things.
What this means is that our relationship has taken a definite back seat. When ticking off her priority list the other day, she said: work, school, family. There was no 4th spot for "relationship" and I feel that's accurate. Whenever I am scheduling dr appointments or things like that, I always look at the calendar and schedule them for when it will not interrupt our time together. It's not hard, after all, that's 50% of the time. She doesn't do that and often our time is cut short because of some appointment.
We live about an hour away from each other right now and, with kids and schools, that's unlikely to change anytime soon. We have plans to move in together once our youngest kids move out, but that's a good number of years from now and, honestly, I'm starting to doubt how well that'll work. I mean, by that point, we'll have been dating but living separately for almost 10 years. That's a long time to be able to successfully maneuver such a big change as living together.
So I guess my question is: am I being unreasonable to ask a working parent, who is also going to school, to be able to prioritize our relationship with all of that?