I am not sure what advise there is, just wanted to say you are not alone. I was with a guy 7 months, he has 3 wonderful children who I also love. After 3 fantastic months I could tell something was wrong and he did the bit about not wanting a serious relationship as he had just come out of a bad marriage where his wife went off with someone else and he said he was just beginning to cope on his own again. We talked and I said I take it at what ever pace he wanted, and we carried on. Then 4 months went by and I could feel him pulling further and further away from me, and I thought just give him space but I was getting hurt more every day until I had to ended it, I knew it was the right thing to do at that moment in time for both of us. We both cried and hugged when I left. He rang me the following day to make sure I was ok and when I asked him how he was he said he was just throwing himself into his work, so I presumed he must be feeling as sad as I was. We have been apart 2 months now and I think Im crying more now than then. I am lost. I'd known him 14 years before we got together as a friend as we work for the same company, and I have to speak to him work related every day. No personal conversations have passed between us since we split and we never discussed the situation that made us part. Now I want to discuss it and see if now he has had some space if we cant make a fresh start. We never even argued once when we were together, and I keep thinking about all those good times, then think why has he not tried to speak to me, purhaps there is not hope. But I need the hope to get me through. Im going to try and contact him soon, need to know one way or the other, otherwise I will never be able to more on. I just hope he has appreciated the space I've given him, and will love me for it. So the adivse i'd give you is give him a little space, maybe even a letter to let him know how much you care, saying you understand and give him space. Then try and contact him after a while to see if you can make a fresh start. Hope all goes well. Amanda (England)