Amanda1607306433

I am not sure what advise there is, just wanted to say you are not alone. I was with a guy 7 months, he has 3 wonderful children who I also love. After 3 fantastic months I could tell something was wrong and he did the bit about not wanting a serious relationship as he had just come out of a bad marriage where his wife went off with someone else and he said he was just beginning to cope on his own again. We talked and I said I take it at what ever pace he wanted, and we carried on. Then 4 months went by and I could feel him pulling further and further away from me, and I thought just give him space but I was getting hurt more every day until I had to ended it, I knew it was the right thing to do at that moment in time for both of us. We both cried and hugged when I left. He rang me the following day to make sure I was ok and when I asked him how he was he said he was just throwing himself into his work, so I presumed he must be feeling as sad as I was. We have been apart 2 months now and I think Im crying more now than then. I am lost. I'd known him 14 years before we got together as a friend as we work for the same company, and I have to speak to him work related every day. No personal conversations have passed between us since we split and we never discussed the situation that made us part. Now I want to discuss it and see if now he has had some space if we cant make a fresh start. We never even argued once when we were together, and I keep thinking about all those good times, then think why has he not tried to speak to me, purhaps there is not hope. But I need the hope to get me through. Im going to try and contact him soon, need to know one way or the other, otherwise I will never be able to more on. I just hope he has appreciated the space I've given him, and will love me for it. So the adivse i'd give you is give him a little space, maybe even a letter to let him know how much you care, saying you understand and give him space. Then try and contact him after a while to see if you can make a fresh start. Hope all goes well. Amanda (England)

Four weeks ago I had to walk away from a good relationship. He is just going through his divorce after his wife went off with someone else. I'd known him 14 years as a friend before we got together 8-months ago. Because he had such commitments financially and also has 3 wonderful kids, there was no room for me, he'd end up working all hours when he did not have the kids because he felt he'd lost everything and needed to start again. Yet everything was good, we never argued once, I loved his children and got on well with all his family. But a few months ago he said he could not handle a serious relationship so soon, everything still remained good between us but he slowly began to drive me away, and so many little things began to hurt. I knew in the end I had to walk away, he knew it too. We both cried and I have not seen him since, although we have checked the others ok by phone. Sorry I cant offer you any advise, just letting you know your not alone. I hope every day he'll ring because he wants me back, I resist the temptation to ring him every day because I know it wont help. I plan to just give it a bit off time then I will contact him to see if we cant start afresh. I hope all works out well for you, give her that time and space, you cant go back to what you had but I do believe you can start again when the moment right.