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they sent me home because my contractions were 7 minutes apart not 5 and because my internal exam showed that my cervix was closed and the midwife said that the doctor read my notes and said it was ok for me to leave as if i was in early labour the cervix would take atleast 24 hours to dilate. she said i should go home and take a bath and go to bed. which i did.

i was having regular contractions so i went in to hospital for a check after my husband called them and the midwife did an internal exam there. It wasnt pink blood it was a heavy amount of blood which slowed down after my bath. The blood clot thing which me and my husband thought is my plug was just red

the doctor hasnt examined me im 39 weeks now and this is my 1st baby i only had an internal done the other night I dont know what i am supposed to expect or do with everything im such a mess right now i dont even know how to feel about myself. Im just 17 and i never thought about these things before. my husband is my world and i love him with all my heart I can understand if he is scared because im terrorfied. I had the false labour on friday night and I bled because of the internal exam. When we gothome my husband run me a bath and I told him he shouldnt be there while I got undressed because I have some blood and it might scare him. he said he wanted to look after me and he didnt care about the blood and that I am safe with him because he is my husband so I got undressed and he saw the blood and I had some of my plug come out too but he didnt say anything I was more scared of it then he was i think but ever since then he hasnt touched me or he has started sex and stopped and said he doesnt feel secure.I do not force him to sleep with me because i respect his wishes. I dont know anything about routine checks here as I moved here from another country and everything is different I know the basics tho because me and my husband read up on it and asks lots of questions but the midwifes at the hospital said it was normal for sum bleeding and the doctor has never seen me personally. Im so confused!!

no i did not hit him. My midwife said it was ok to have sex until my waters break. I cant help it tho I crave sex since i got pregnant everything about me has changed I know I look like a bad person but honestly im not usually like this. I love him so much I really do but I feel like I need sex for some reason and I dont know why. I think its for normality or because I feel so ugly or something like that. My moodswings get way out of control too. Its so hard.

Omg my baby is due in 6 days and my husband is being a jerk. I went to the hospital the other night for false labour and they did an internal exam and i had some bleeding which has stopped now but he wont come near me now and last night he wouldnt have sex with me and he started it!! Im so frustrated today he got up before I woke up and then after we had breakfast he went out and he still hasnt come back in yet not even for lunch and now its 3pm Im so annoyed that he is acting this way why cant he just be with me? I need him right now

Once again I wasnt being hypocritical I was trying to explain what it gets like. Im sorry if I offended anyone it wasnt what I meant to do. Im really happy that silentscrem has sorted it out. how far along are you now?

I did get ur side of the story its the only side on here! and before you get defensive I wrote in my post that I wasnt having ago at you but trying to get thru to u as sumone who is going thru the same thing as u and make u understand alittle of what its like for real not just cuddly baby stuff and choosing names. no I wasnt married when i got pregnant i only got married a few weeks ago and my parents werent so happy about my pregnancy either and no im not better then u in any way because i had sex at 15 but i used birth control I had sex with my bf of 3 years without protection just a few times and we thouht it was safe but we were wrong and I wasnt ready for the baby atall I was immature and I have had to grow up alot these last few months I just want you to understand how bad it gets and all the pitfalls. I admit I was a little bit nasty to u on my last post but to be honest just reading the title of ur thread just made me think u dont care about alot.

Dont forget to get condoms too!!

hi, Im 18 in a few weeks and my baby girl is due in 3 weeks. I cant believe what I am reading!! When I got pregnant I had been in a relationship for 2 years and I took my responcibilities seriously as soon as I found out. Im shocked that you didnt learn after the first time you concieved. Im not here to have a go at you but you are too immature to raise a child. When you were sleeping with these guys why didnt you use a condom? being on the pill may prevent pregnancy but what about diseases?? You could risk your health and your babies health if you have one and dont know about it I advise that you go get a check on that! secondly, I raised helped to raise up 2 of my brothers and that still hasnt prepared me properly for my baby because nothing can prepare you until you give birth and have to do what you have to do. when you get to the last stages your gonna wish you hadnt done it because you get backache, false labour ur boobs get stretch marks ur body is stretched and ruined and at our age that isnt nice for guys to look at. When you go into labour its gonna hurt like hell because your body hasnt developed properly. Luckily Im married and dont have to worry what other guys think. Also think about your baby, What are you going to tell her or him when they grow up? Im sorry daddies not here but mommy was young and silly and didnt think things through enough. Im sorry if you think my advice is hard or horrible but it makes me angry to see someone be so careless and unconcerned about a life which is going to depend solely on them! and where was your self respect? to be having sex so young is illegal and wrong you are just a child still you should be going out having fun not sitting home with a baby, have you even thought about the costs and the housing and the screaming at night and depending on you every second of the day? babies need constant attention do you think your ready for that? if you cant commit to a relationship how on earth can you commit to something like a baby? you have to think this through now before its too late for ur sake and the babies sake! I also think its worth finding a teen pregnancy support group in ur area because trust me you WILL need it!!

I agree.... if its what she wants she'll kiss you back if not then u have 10 days to get over it

just wondering.... how old are the girls he is chattin to online and the lady that he watches out the window??

thanks for your advice someguy_282, we were together in my country for 9 months not 3 and we saw eachother everyday and things were not perfect but it was a good time and I fell in love with him. now 3 years later I still love him as much maybe even more then I did back then and I respect that people change espiecially when they are young. We argue because of our circumstances and problems which are hard to overcome, I do not want to leave my husband because I love him and I know we can work through these things if we werent so stubborn. We come from different places with different cultures and what he thinks is ok I could say its wrong and he could say the same to some things that I say. My husband is my life I love him very much if I didnt then I wouldnt be here in his country pulling every string I can to get his people to like me. Friends can come and go but Im his wife I will be with him forever and support him no matter what. The email that he sent his ex was back in december one month before I moved here but I found it a month after I moved here and it broke my heart, The girl he emailed was a good friend of his in the past and his ex girlfriend and when me and him got back together after a short break up last summer (which is when he was going out with her) he promised he would not have any contact with her.... his argument now is that an email is not contact its sending information. I disagree. However when we got married the judge said that we should except eachothers pasts and I have excepted her but not forgotten how much it hurt me to read that mail and how much it hurt when 1 month b4 i come here to live with him he was emailing her. The friends thing was an issue 2 months ago which has been made to sound worse then what it is. I do not trust him because of the email thing and I do not trust the girls that he hangs out with because one girl tried to kiss him one night. He can hang out with girls but I want to get to know thema nd trust them before he can hang out on his own with them. His guy friends are into drinking and doing guy stuff so I dont really wanna sit there doing nothing for hours while they watch some wr film or play cards. He can have friends and he can see them when he wants, but if he chooses not to go out to see them why should I get the blame?? I said he can go if he wants to and I will stay home and do nothing and he said no, then they call him sayin that I never let him out. I went to see his best friend 4 times last week because he is lonely and William was working late almost everynight and it still wasnt good enough. When I am with my husband everything is ok but when he is with other people he hardly talks to me and I just sit there like a melon staring into spae wishing my friends were here. If he said to me in England I dont want to go out to Holly's or Kelly's tonight then I would say ok and drop them in a second to be with him but I would want to know why. William is a very generous and loving guy but unfortunately he is stubborn and a little bit lazy, I love him no matter what I refuse to think that our relationship is coming to an end just because of a few arguments. I think horemones and stress cause alot of our problems and if we were left alone we would be fine 99% of the time. But we are young and we have commitments to eachother, to our baby and him to his work and education and me to him and making sure everything is going ok in our lives plus our friends. It was concidered that he should come to live in England but Norway has so much more for our child, and William has to work until the end of this summer to finish his education as an apprentice.

I dont blame him for being immature because he is only 19 years old and many times we have a lot of fun and there is alot of love between us but its the underlying issues which keep coming back up that stand in our way like his friends.

I met him 3 years ago in England and we hung out everyday for 9 months until he had to go back to Norway. He was really kind and loving and everything was so special. After he went back we only saw eachother a few times a year and we broke up once or twice but when he came back to visit me last June, I got pregnant with his baby. I asked him if I should abort and he said no. I love him so much no matter what he does if I didnt I wouldnt have married him. He promised to look after me if I can here and when I first moved over in January he did look after me very well. I used to suffer with agoraphobia but I over came it not long after I got pregnant so Im not used to being around people still even though im ok with it. His friends started to get angry because we didnt go out to see them as often as he used to and they put the blame on me. Im a little bit better now but I still dont know many people here or whatever apart from his friends and a few girls i have met and spoken too so I dont get to hang out much with people cus they are scared sometimes of the language barrier. His best friend Atle used to call everyday and ask if we could go out to him and hang out and it really annoyed me, I like the guy but its so boring just sitting there not doing anything for hours while they talk in Norwegian about guy stuff!! He got annoyed because my husband kept sayin that he didnt wanna go out to him because I would be bored and he called him at work one day and said things about it to him and told my husband he wasnt happy that since i came here they hardly see eachother. The girls here are mainly * * * * *y apart from a few that I know and the girls that my husband knows arent good for him they cut themselves and try to kiss him (he doesnt do anything with them i know that for sure!). I just feel like Im spinning half the time trying to make everyone happy. 1) my husband 2) my baby 3) friends 4) family and when I pay attention to one of those points the other 3 seems to get angry I cant win! and on top of it all im stressed about the labour cus its just 3 weeks until that happens and im scared because I miss my family and im so far away from them. everything and everyone here is totally differnt to what what im used to and I dont know who I am or what Im doing anymore!

i cant go to marital councelling. I came here with no money and I dont speak the language, he promised he would take care of me but now im here he doesnt treat me like b4, its like now we are not living long distance anymore he can do and say what he wants to me, when he doesnt get his way he says he is disappointed in me and when I say I dont want him to do something he will do it any way. his friends complain to him about me bevcause he hardly sees them anymore and i get the blame for it I tried to talk to them and make them understand that its hard for me and as soon as we are settled things will be better but they still carry on. last night my husband told me he wants his friends and he wants to hang out with girls. he told me when i was upset so i got more upset. i dont need the stress now and he knows it. i love him so much but i dont want to stay if this is how things are.