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well obviously you guys broke up for a reason right? To move on and date other people. Most people will always have some feelings for an ex but that shouldn't stop them from moving on with their lives. Sometimes love isn't enough for two people to stay together. And like the other poster said...you guys are broken up and can date whomever you wish......in love of whatever.
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I think girls aren't attracted to the "nice guys" who are kissing their * * * * * all the time. Girls find these guys to be wussies and are more attracted to guys who are confident...treat women with respect but doesn't kiss their * * * * *. Girls sometimes like a challenge and the "NICE GUY" presents no challenge while the "jerk" who isn't really a jerk...he's just more confident and isn't afraid to tell an attractive woman off if he thinks she's wrong.
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You know you are on the positive road of recovery when you stop counting the months, weeks and days of NC. NC helped me ........ thank you NC
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Let time take its course and spend a lot of time with your family and friends. Feel the pain because thats the only way to feel better. Hopefully you keep yourself busy so that your mind isn't only occupied with the breakup.
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You made yourself sound really negative in this email....and you basically said that she is the prize and not yourself. You apologized way to much for something things. Also you used inside jokes to get a rise out of her. I'm sorry to be brutally honest but after a breakup...there should be a cooling off period....where no contact should be practiced. A better way would be of writing the email...reading it one week later and decide if you still wanted to send it. But since you sent it....oh well. Next time you contact her make sure you are over her and contact her in a positive way. Better yet....don't make first contact....let her contact you....and be aloof. People are naturally drawn towards confident and positive people.
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tries to talk to you and get your attention.
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same happened to me like 7 months ago. She broke up with you and is now with someone else. You have to let her go and do YOUR own thing. Focus on your life. PM me if you need it...trust me i know how you feel
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Question Poll: How to get over your ex?
bobo85 replied to skyjuice's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
1. How do you get over your ex? In terms that you would not cry or sad thinking of them. Spend time with family and friends. Stay away from the ex and try to keep busy. 2. How long its takes for you to get over them? It really depends how long you guys dated and how serious you are. If you guys were really in love, at least a couple months. It took me about 3 months go get it over with. I mean it still stings but i'm over it now...(and its been about 7 months.) 3. Does after breakup affect/change your perspectives/life goals? 4. Are you scare of entering into another the relationship again? Yeah it really does. Your life changes after a breakup and so does your goals. You want to prove it to urself and others that you are capable of being successful. 5. Do you eventually find someone who is right for you? This is the hard part. Everyone has certain standards of the opposite sex. You just have to get out there and meet new people. 6. Do you have plan to live alone if you does not found the perso n you want to spend the rest of you life with? Hell no ! 7. When you are still single at forties, would you consider adoption? No -
Lets just say when a woman wants to be "friends first"...it usually means they don't feel the initial attraction for you...but still want to string you along because its fun. Friendships that evolve into relationships are usually by accident. Nobody plans them but sometimes it just works out that way. But i kind of get what your saying and as long as your not considered a "good friend" then you should be okay. Stay out of the "friend zone" which means dont treat her like a friend. You can still be friendly but in a flirty kind of way. EDIT: i didnt know you were a girl but still....why be friends first? You dont feel enough attraction towards him yet? Or is it because you don't know him well enough? If you dont maybe you can hang out as a group of friends until you feel comfortable enough.
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due to infidelity???.....man that really depends on the people. I for one can never trust someone who cheats on me...thereforeeee i can never give them another chance. But of course love can still exist but sometimes love isn't enough....and sometimes love dies. Sorry to say that but its the truth...love is the greatest thing in the world but it can also be the hardest thing in the world.
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Has this ever happened to you?
bobo85 replied to JDMxTeGrA101's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships
I guarentee you that in a few months you won't even care about getting back together with your ex. You will be too busy with other girls and your own life. PS: Never take a girl back if she dumps you. -
know that doing it over the phone or by email probably means you will have to break up with them again in person anyways. There will always be questions reguarding the breakup and in person both of you can give your own opinions and thoughts on the subject matter.
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Broke up with my longtime girlfriend tonight....
bobo85 replied to Ross123's topic in Breaking Up Advice
sorry bro, i know how it feels. Same thing happened to me about 7 months ago. Though we didn't date as long as 5 1/2 years (we dated 3 years) it still stings sometimes. But you know what...you will feel better. The first month or so is gonna be a long drag but its something you have to go through. And look at it this way...now you are forced to move on because she is seeing this new guy. She isn't still calling you, wanting to be best friends. You get space from her so you can heal. In order to feel better about the breakup, you must feel the pain. Don't forget about her because you still had some good times with her...but take what you learned from this relationship and use it in your next relationship. And if that doesn't make you feel better...imagine what other people go through. Married for 20 years...3 kids....and get divorced at age 50. Where do you go from there?...its hard to have 3 kids, be 50 years old and have to find someone knew all over again. Your still young and believe it or not...you will have many other romantic relationships in the future. Its just that heartbreaks and breaking hearts come with the territory. -
my goal nc for 30 days: starts today
bobo85 replied to hulk7280's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
good luck man I found it that the first 7 days are probably the hardest... you will probably have a set back around the 15th day too but after 25 days...its coasting from there.... and you will probably want to keep NC for 6 months or a year. -
seriously though...it sounds like both of you are too young to be in this yo-yo relationship. If you two were meant to be together...you guys would find each other some where in the future. But the fact is that you still didn't heal fully from your past relationship with this girl. Also she broke up with you 2 times...what makes you think she won't do it again? Is love worth that risk..i say it is but DAMN...two times? How many times are you gonna let this girl break your heart. I suggest moving on from your ex-gf FULLY before even considering letting her back into your life.