Helpmesavethis

He text me. Thanks for dropping the Griddle and tanks off. And... I'm not responding back and I'm ok with that. 🙂

Neighbors all know me. I'm not creeping around his house. I'm returning his things. I parked in the driveway, opened my door, sat the Griddle on his porch and left. I didn't touch anything, I didn't snoop around etc. It's not in hope that he reaches out. It made me feel better to give it back. I didn't want it for myself because it was just another reminder of him.

I dropped off his Griddle and 2 propane tanks this morning. I didn't tell him I was coming and went before I knew he'd be up. I didn't cry or anything, just dropped them and left. He will find them when he goes outside on his front porch. He had said I could keep the Griddle but it was a gift to him and I didn't feel right having it. It made me feel better to drop it off. I feel like it's progress. I don't think I have anything else of his but if it's important or big enough that I come across something, I'll do the same. Leave it when I know he's sleeping or not there. That way there is no communication between the two of us. I know I'll be ok and I know this No contact thing is best. Just hurts and I want over it yesterday.. ugh

I'm the one who broke it off technically. I told him he had to let me go because I want more and he doesn't. Neither of us really said we were broke up. We've basically been no contact since last Monday and the only text before then since the 16th has been to say I'll drop this off at this time. Nothing at all since Monday. I get what you're saying though. I'm trying to make myself block him on social media but haven't gotten that far yet. We're still "friends" on there... and maybe it's because I don't want to be heartless like you said above... 🤦🏼‍♀️

I am a pleaser. And yes, put his needs and feelings before my own. He was always stressed with work. So AM I but I didn't want to bother him with it since he was always so stressed. He would have a million things going on, I was right there to help but when I needed him, he wasn't there. He always said I needed to ask if I needed him. Um nope, I show up for you, you should show up for me... and he didn't. These are the things helping me but also hurting. All the times he wasn't there or did things to hurt, are helping me know why it needed to end but still stings.

We aren't in contact and haven't been. We are still social media friends but that's it. And I'm about to make myself block him. I don't think he will reach out to me and I know I won't reach out to him. What I don't want to see is him moving on and I feel like he will do so quickly because he's the kind of guy who needs someone.... thanks for the advice, it's truly helping me.

Thank you... I know I'm a good person and know what I bring to the table. I'm a successful, independent woman. I know I'll be fine, just gotta get thru it and want to right now but I know it takes time. It just hurts he could let me go so easily and has made me feel like I wasn't good enough or what did I do wrong for him to not love me like I wanted him to. 💔

We knew each other 9 years prior to dating. We're in our 40s and I think knowing/having been friends for 12 years now and dating for almost 3 is plenty of time to know whether you want to marry someone at our age. If I were in my 20s, I probably wouldn't even consider any other type of commitment right now. Kids are preteens. We've been no contact for 6-7 days now. I don't have the desire to reach out to him, I'm struggling with how he can just let me go like that I guess. It's almost like feeling rejected maybe.

We're both in our 40s. I wanted to plan a future. I didn't need any of it right away but I wanted to know it was going to happen. I wanted a plan, a timeline, to talk about it. We're were exclusive.

Commitment. We're both in our 40s. Both already have kids. We saw each other on the weekends, if that. I didn't even ask for it to happen, just wanted to plan, know it was going to happen etc...

My boyfriend of 2 years, 9 months and I broke up last Thursday night. Last October I told him I wanted more. At that time, he said he didn't. We broke up. Less than 24 hours later he sent me a 2 page letter saying how he wanted a future with me, wanted to grow with me etc etc. Fast forward now 9 months later and nothing has changed. I have pressed multiple times to have conversations about moving forward. He avoids it. He finally last week told me he wasn't ready and didn't know when he would be. He said he had hoped his feelings from October would have changed but they hadn't. He says how great of a person I am, how great I am to his children and family, him, etc. How he hoped he wasn't making some big mistake but knows it isn't fair to me to keep on doing what we are knowing I wanted more. It was eating me up. It was bringing me down. I didn't want to have small talk with him anymore. When he'd text me lovey things, I didn't want to reply etc. He had pushed me away. I don't feel the need to call or text or anything but I am struggling with the fact that he seems to have completely erased me from his life like I never existed. It has me feeling like I never mattered. We didn't end on bad terms at all. I told him I wasn't mad at him, I don't hate him, he can't help how he feels. And he doesn't have to want what I want but I don't have to wait around for him to be ready for what I want. I guess I need support and to be able to vent and talk it out. I have signed myself up for counseling. Any other advice to help me thru this?