sara_0562

Hey everyone I have this lump on the sid eof my neck under the skin. Its not under my jaw where lymph nodes are and its about two inches lowwer then my ear. I just noticed it today. It doesn;t hurt or anything but im wondering if its something to be concerned with. I dont have time to rush to the doc if its something simple like a swallon gland.

Ok so i went ona few dates with this guy.... i came on really really strong and i defintily scared him off and he got pretty cold with me. So i backed off to give him some space and see what happens. I blocked him on msn for a week and didn't contact him at all. Int hat week he didn;t contact me either. Today i unblocked him to see what happened. I got the urge and messaged him saying "hey" he replied saying "hey, i was thinking about you the other day, hows it going" We talked breifly because i had to go. Should i continue to block him or should i try talking to him again?

your soo right im pretty pathetic!! Hes obviously made it clear hes not interested and for some reason just wont verbally come out and say it! but his actions are very clear and i can see that now. Should i even make myself available online or just block him?

I think i kinda have already confronted him before. He didn't contact me for two days and i was kinda upset and then he finally messaged me two days later. I asked him why he doesn't contact me very often and if hes not interested to just tel me and it will be alright... i just dont want to waste my time. He then replied by saying "i messaged you didn;t i?" and then went on saying how busy he is... Am i expecting to much from this guy since were not a "committed couple" yet? Or if he was really interested he woud be showing it more?

Ya you alll are right. SHould i just stop contacting him and delete him from msn or should i confront him about it and see what he wants?

Ok im very clueless when it comes to dating becasue it seems with my previous relationships we jumped right into a committed relationship and skipped the whole "dating" part. So i have known this guy for almost a month and we have been on about 3 dates. I really like this guy but hes not really showing much interest. we talk maybe once a day online and he hasn;t called me in a while. Im usually the one to initiate conversation and ihave noticed that he never really asks things about me. I kno all of this is huge red flags which should tell me hes not interested. When i ask him where he sees this going he says "lets just see what happens" and when i ask why he shows no interst he says "i ahve been really busy... blah blah blah" So should i block or delete him from my msn which would make him actually call me if he was ever interested? I feel like i should just stop talking to him all together, play hard to get and jsut wait and see what happens. If nothng happens then i kno hes not interested... any suggestions?

I find this part of dating the worst. I always feel akward when the bill comes. I always offer to pay... but usually dont really mean it. I think for the first few dates the guy should pay for sure. I guess im old fashion that way. After that and once a relationship starts i think both should make an honest effort to share the costs of dates. Or who ever makes more money (ie. if someone is in school or lost there job) should pay most of the time. I think after the inital akwardness of dating has passed communication should be key when deciding how things get paid for.

Wow thanks for all the replies. Im 20 and hes 25 so there is a age gap. He does ask me limited questions outside of sexual things. I did mention to him once that i was concerned that h wasn't over an ex gf of his and his reply was "if you think this is jsut about sex then you dont know me at all. I wouldn;t have driven 1 hour to see you just for sex cause theres lots of that here...." SO his reply makes me think its not jsut about sex but im stil getting a weird vibe from him. I suppose i wil just have to ask him and see what he says. When is it appropriate to ask to be exclusive with someone??

no we are not exlusive and haven't really talked about it yet. We go out about once or twice a week. Yes, asks about my day and general stuff like that. He has met my roommates but i haven't met his...

Well i do want to have sex with this guy and we are... but thats not the only thing im interested in. Im just unsure what his intensions are...

Hey everyone im looking for advic eon how to detect if a guy is just using you for sex and doesn't really see the relationship having any future?? I kno there must be tons of poeple that have thought this before or have done this before so im jsut wondering if you all share "the signs"....

Ok so just wondering what everyones opinions are on when a dating couple should celebrate vday?? I know it depends highly on the couple themselves but just lookign for some feedback. I have been dating this guy for abotu three weeks and im wondering if i should expect to do somethjng on vday wiith him?

ok so lately i have noticed i have been excessively scratching my skin to the point of bleeding. I cant stop sometimes... its like i like the feeling of it or something. Or maybe i just have really dry skin of something. But my roomates have also noticed that i have been doing this alot and i have lots of marks all over my body from this. They said it could be a desease or a psychological issue...any thoughts?

Yes i think ur right.... but his profile does say hes single.... does that mean anything???

should i just back off and play hard to get???