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Boughs, I posted that a few days ago after I heard it for the first time in years lol! I still like it and think it has great advice tho. Mine would be: trust your instincts. If it feels wrong, don't do it.

DAY 2 I made it through an entire day, and only had to fight the urge to be nosy once. His mom stopped by so she could get something of his that needed to be mailed. Funny, he's nearly 28 and still has to get his mom to do his dirty work. Oh well, fuel for the fire. I feel oddly content so far. Guess the 2 week gap gave me some time to get a jump start on getting over things.

So, it seems I'll be joining this no-contact challenge. Hopefully it will help. We've been arguing and broken up but not really broken up for about two weeks now. He says he wants time to be alone. So time he shall get. Day one for me officially started at approx. 1 a.m. my time. We'll see if I can make it 30 days. Ugh, that seems like such a long time. And I'm not looking forward to telling people about our broken engagement. :sad:

WOW...amazing job. I can really relate to this.

WOW...that if great! That's a poem I could really relate to... Keep up the good work!

I get that too with my fiancee! I was actually kinda wondering the same thing. I think it's partially because they just worry and want what is best for us. That's what I'm hoping anyways!

Maybe that is a person's way of trying to separate and break the emotional ties. In a sense that's how she's moving on, would be my guess. Denying the feelings that may still be lingering, I suppose.

That is a lot to deal with all at one time! I hope everything works out with your mom! As for the guy problems. I've learned that when a guy tells you that you deserve someone better, he's generally telling the truth. Learned that one from hardcore experience! Maybe that's not always the case, but it has been for me. You shouldn't have to spend your time convincing someone to be with you, they should already want to, even through the bad times. Maybe space is what you both need...him to figure out his issues, and you to be sure that HE is what you want, and not just the life and things that he may or may not be able to provide/share with you in the future.

First off...beauty IS in the eye of the beholder, no matter what you think! I've had this drilled into my head by many people, and I've finally come to believe it. Even if you think you aren't overly attractive (which I'm sure you are!) that's not the only thing that attracts women. I personally love a guy who is witty and can make me laugh. Sense of humor is definitely in my top 3 criteria when looking for a guy. Another problem it sounds like you may have: getting "friend zoned." If that is the case, you need to pinpoint what it is you do that lands you there. Maybe that can be traced back to your shy trait! So...you need to learn to be a bit more aggressive. Go after what you want. Yeah, rejection sucks, not gonna lie. Sometimes, you gotta lose some to win some. Don't you think it'd be worth it in the end? PS-From one shy person to another, blind dates can be rather awkward, so that's obviously not the best route to go! But be sure to thank your friends for their efforts!

I believe that if you truly love a person, you never fall out of love with them. The type of love you feel for them changes into something a little less...sharp. Like you'll get to the point where you realize that you want what's best for them, and for them to be happy--even if that means it's not with you. Generally, there is no time frame. That's how it was for me...it was actually quite sudden. I just woke up one day and realized that something had finally changed or shifted or something, and that pang when I thought about him wasn't there anymore. It probably took about 6 months for me to get to that point. It really just depends on you I guess. Sorry for rambling! Hope that made some sense...

Glad I could help!

I think it is possible...someone had to feel it to come up with the line "You don't know what you've got till it's gone." I think you may feel it, but not realize exactly what it truly is until it's too late (in some cases).

Girls usually hate it when guys try to include themselves in a convo about girlie stuff. Don't eavesdrop! But if you should happen to casually notice them talking about random, non-girl related stuff...like say the weather or something equally as random...just drop a witty comment and see where that takes you.

How about a balloon bouquet? I have always wanted to get one of those and never have! Or maybe send her a cute teddy bear and some chocolate/candy if she likes that. I once drew a picture for a bf of mine, then cut it up like puzzle pieces, and sent him one or two pieces a day and saved the last one for when I saw him again...he seemed to like it!

Sometimes, it great to actually kick back and take the time to make love with your partner, instead of saying "this is what gets me off easiest/quickest" or "I'm tired, let's make it fast" or anything to that effect. My fiancee and I normally don't see each other during the week, but we did last night, and we took the time to reconnect and actually in a sense "re-discover" things about each other that we kind of forgot in the everyday grind of things. Even found some new erogenous zones! It was quite nice! haha... Just thought I'd share. Has anybody else had that experience?