A few months ago a woman transferred into my work group. I initially just thought she was cute, but didn't want to "dip the pen in company ink" so didn't look at her as a dating propect. She is really easy to get along with, is good at her job, & is easy going. So after starting to get to know her, I was fine just being friends and coworkers.
But couple of weeks ago she and I were paired together some on a special job. It was the first time we had to have 1on1 conversations and I was kind of taken by surprise when she asked me if I was into tabletop gaming and mentioned she'd bought her ticket for the local comic con, which are some of my hobbies. I had no clue at all she was into that type of stuff as well, but I guess she'd picked up on the fact I was.
Also, about this same time another guy from another dept had been asking me if she was single, so I asked her to get him to leave me alone. She initially said yes, but when I clarified that I was asking for someone else she back peddled and told me to tell him she had a boyfriend. Looking back I wonder if she thought I was asking for myself at first? She also asked me if I'd been to a new gaming/pop culture bar in my town, which I wasn't even aware of. And we also have the same taste in music. I haven't been to a concert in a while since my friends I used to go with haven't had time since having kids and other things. She apparently goes quite a bit. She said she goes to some alone and some with another guy friend, which she made a point to mention that he'd wanted to get a room together for an upcoming show and she had to clarify things between them.
I also asked if she'd been back to the bar and told her to let me know next time. She told me she'd gone with a female friend of hers last time and was going to a small concert with her in another city last weekend. She said her friend was talking to the drummer of that band and that some of his band mates tried to get her to go back to their hotel, which she declined.
I've heard all the don't nip your pen in company ink and have abided by it as far as those I work with closely. But, ive found myself crushing on her really hard the past few weeks. Our workplace is massive, multiple shifts and thousands of employees so dating/marrying coworkers is fairly common. But not working in the same group together. And I'm getting close to being vested in benefits and was already seriously considering other companies when I hit it. As well as simply being able to transfer to another area.
I had mentioned and hinted about concerts and the bar, but haven't directly asked her to do anything until this past weekend when i asked if she wanted to go to hangout at the bar, which she said she would but couldn't this weekend but maybe another. So i asked to LMK when she wanted to.
Am I seeing more here than there is? Changing from being single to having a BF when it was for the other guy? And letting me know she wasn't hooking up with these other guys at concerts? And I can definitely tell a difference in how she interacts with me when it's just us vs our other coworkers around, which I am too.
