jitterbug

So...I have an interesting story about myself. I recently got dumped by the love of my life...that's awful and I hope we work things out. But recently my other ex, from before my recent ex, also broke it off with his girlfriend. We have stayed in touch for the past few years anyway, but we recently started chatting about our current problems and it lead to reminiscing. Now, I have no interest in reconciling with this guy as I'm completely in love with my recent ex, but if I was interested, I'm 90% sure I could easily start things up again. He's said a lot of very surprising things, and said being with me was the best time in his life. We broke up 3 years ago. I'm really surprised that he feels the way he does, because although I ended it, it was kind of mutual. He didn't try to fight it or ever ask us to try again.

I won't spam the thread with my story but if any of you could read my post and offer insight, that would be great, I am having such a tough time. (Sorry it's an essay!) It's the "He wants to be alone. Can we reconcile?" thread. Stories: 1st: My 2 best friends were together since they were 17, after 4 years they broke up because she was at university and wanted to be single. A month later, she realised this did not make her happy, and they go back together for another 4 years. Now they are going through a crisis, they split up again because they realised they had to experience life outside the relationship and have their own adult lives. I am almost certain they will get back together after she has more time. He is basically waiting for her, and she wants to end up with him. 2nd: Another couple were together for 5 years, broke up due to ongoing problems such as long-distance, and he was aimless in his life whilst she was ambitious and wanting to settle and focus on her career. At first, she was fine, threw herself into volunteering, got a new job and went out with friends. He was a mess, really isolated and depressed. They had no contact for a while. Then things changed for her, she was not enjoying her job and started missing him a lot. I helped her through a lot of this, I saw how much she missed him. She begged for him back, but he said no, he couldn't deal with her and needed time. A few months later, they talked and decided to give it another try. They've been living together for 3 years. I think they apart 6 months in total. 3rd: My sister broke up with her boyfriend years ago, he adored her and spoilt her and I think she took him for granted. A while later, they got back together for a while. It didn't work out, but they gave it another try. 4th: A very romantic story. Two people I knew were close friends for a long time. The girl was madly in love, but he was in a relationship with her friend. Turns out the friend was cheating on him. They broke up, and the girl took her chance. It turned out, they had both been crazy about each other anyway. Things escalated and soon they were engaged. I'm not sure what happened, but they broke up. To me, she seemed to be really scared by the commitment of it all but I don't know for sure. They move to other continents - they had the whole world separating them! But here we are a year later, and they're married. The guy told me that their friendship was what kept them together even when they were across the world from each other. He said he believed it was never over, even though sometimes it felt like it was. I think one day they decided to meet, and they were still in love and decided to get married, and now they both live back here. I'll post more when I can remember them.