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  1. David DeAngelo has some very interesting ideas. Some of what he says I don't necessarily agree with, but some of the things he does as far as self improvement, and things like that are pretty helpful. He's a reasonably intelligent man, and a lot of what he gets into goes far beyond picking up women. Worth checking out, and might enable you to get a handle on what it is you feel you're missing.
  2. This is true, those of use with tattoos are just cooler. lol, yeah I'm kidding, but SOMEONE had to say it.
  3. Big BIG fan of tattoos. Got my first one 4 years ago, and I can't get enough. I've got most of my left arm starting about 3 inches above my elbow covered. I dig tattoos on a girl. Whether its something small on their ankle or a whole sleeve, it doesn't matter(providing it didn't come from prison lol), I think it looks fantastic. I wouldn't say mine mean anything specifically, I just love the idea of tattoos, the artistry and the whole experience. I'm okay with the fact that they may not be "fashionable" in 10 years, thats not why I did it. I've also accepted the fact that one day I might be wrinkled, and they might look ridiculous. I expect to be senile some day, and maybe it'll be fun to look in the mirror and wonder how all those colours got on my arm, and why it won't come off. Tattoos; You either love em or hate em. There ain't no third direction.
  4. Brad Pitt and Fat Bastard both approach you, who do you pick?
  5. Basically I approached it as a friendly hang-out. I just felt it was pointless to go into it expecting more than some friendly "getting to know you better chit chat". There was never any conversation prior to make me think it would be anything else. I have no doubt it could potentially become more, but I have no intention of moving slower/faster than either of us are comfortable with. Wrong approach?
  6. lol, okay, okay....maybe "hate" is a wee bit strong, but a ringing cell phone is a great way to get out of something you don't wanna be in. Basically my point is just that if she were desperate enough, she could've cut things way short. Yes, I'm horrible for disecting things (primarily women and what they may or may not be thinking), and I thought it might be fun to include other's opinions. I certainly do appreciate the input, and yous guys are pretty much on par with what I thought. I'm pretty confident we'll be going out again, and if not...whats another 3 months? :splat: Thnaks again.
  7. Alright, so had a bit of mini-date (strictly friendly terms) with a girl last nite and it seemed to go well. We ended up going for an hour and a half walk by the river. Even tho I'm *reasonably* certain I know where I stand, here's what I'd like a few other opinions on. Firstly, her cell rang, she looked at it and shut it off. Obviously if she hated me, she would've answered it. Being that she didn't, sign of being more interested in talking with me, or just being polite? Secondly, she had to be somewhere at 8. We'd been walking for about 45 minutes, and it was almost 7:30. She was fully aware of the time, in fact I suggested we turn around so she wouldn't be late. She was willing to keep walking and said her friends would wait. (Kinda the big kicker for me) Is this just being nice to someone who hasn't been with a girl in 3 months, or possibly genuine interest? lol, I feel like a teenager. Opinions/thoughts welcome and much appreciated.
  8. That stuff did wonders for me. Mine was getting to a point where it looked like I had a rash on my face. Horrible. Bought 5% benzoyl peroxide, and within a week the "rash" look was gone and I couldn't believe the results. Now aside from a couple spots a month, I'm clear. I pay 6 bucks CDN per tube, which lasts me almost 2 weeks. I use that stuff religiously. Plus a skin cleanser which lasts me at least a month. I use it 3 times a day, sometimes 4. 2.5% or 5% is ideal, just because you can use more and not have the dry-out that 10% gives you, and get equal or better results than the stronger stuff. If you haven't tried it, please do. Since we're on the topic, anyone know any non-surgical treatments for minor acne scarring?
  9. One girl decided to use some sort of "numbing" gel or something for oral. It was mint flavour. I don't know if she used too much, but I actually had to tell her to stop because it burned so badly. EASILY the most pain I've ever had down there. End result was me booking it to the bathroom and splashing cold water on it. lol. So not funny at the time.
  10. You guys rock. I've been telling him for the last couple days that he should definetly do this. I think a big part of the reason is that he briefly "dated" a girl we used to work with, REALLY fell hard for her and when she decided it wasn't gonna work it killed him. I know he is trying to avoid that same thing again, and from what he tells me this girl really digs him. They even talked on the phone for SEVEN hours the other nite. He usually listens to me, but can be very stubborn about things when he's set in his ways. He's talking about going some time this year if he even goes (his words, not mine) and I think it would be just awesome if he went. He doesn't really have any friends (I moved from there 2 years ago) and just needs something like this. I just see it going really well for him, but he pretty pessimistic and assumes the worst. I guess I'll keep on truckin and try my best to convince him to go. Thanks again, did I mention you all rock?
  11. Hi. I have a buddy who's had no serious relationships, and is in an interesting LDR situation and I'd like to help him. He's been speaking with this woman who lives better than 2000 miles away (he's in canada, she's in florida) for almost 2 years now, both online and on the phone. Recently she's invited him to visit her. Now he's the type thats VERY shy, and his lack of relationship experience doesn't help him right now. I'm trying to help him out as best I can, but I've never had any kind of LDR so there's only so much I can help with. He's mostly concerned with things going really well, then having to deal with this kind of distance and all the things that go along with it. Which is a vaild point but I guess what I'm wondering, is for those who've had any experiences with it, what the heck can I say to him? I know he really wants to go, but I suspect he'll end up bailing on the idea because this is a pretty big deal and not something he'd normally do. I'd really like to see him go through with it because he needs some excitement and adventure in his life. Anyone have any magical words of wisdom that will remove all shred of doubt for him? Or just anything supportive that I can tell him so he leans more towards going than not going? Opinions welcome as always.
  12. I'm confused. Clearly you've made a conscious decision that you would just as soon be single and "happy" with having more money, freedom etc. Yet I still suspect its because thus far Plan "A" has failed, and you felt you needed to rationalize the backup plan. Why is anyones guess, personally I think you're tapping out a little too early, but thats me. Where my confusion lies is this - No later than yesterday, you created a thread on how to ask someone out, and continue to post in it, while at the same time declaring that you've given up all hope in this one. Not that that's a bad thing, because as far as I can tell you're still trying to figure out which way to go. I'm not gonna say that "everybody gets hurt, but they move on", etc etc because obviously everyone has varying degrees at which they deal with and hopefully get over said hurt. I just wouldn't be so quick to try and rationalize this ideal of being single and being happy, because clearly it WON'T make you happy. Happier than being hurt again? Sure. But as you said, you need to figure out whether the risks outweigh the rewards. I'd just do a little more figuring.
  13. First off, I appreciate all the different points. shes2smart - I wholeheartedly agree. When I was with my first serious girlfriend, sure at some point I would've married her. Later on, not so much then I kind of realised I wasn't ready to be in a long term relationship at 21. Granted my friend is 24 and has an established career doing very well for himself, which I didn't at 21. Its just that being in the dating world has taught me so much about myself and want I want in a prospective wife. Even just in this last year I've gone thru some pretty bad short term relationships. I guess part of my concern is that if this ends up going bad for him, he's not going to have any idea how to cope with it. Thats definetly not the case. As I said, I really haven't had the chance to get to know her all that well, so a lot of what I get is heresay. It may not be like it was, but she kept him on a very short leash. ex. If he was going out for a beer or whatever after a hockey game, he'd better call. She would tend to get upset if he in fact drank said beer. It just seemed like a bad situation to me. One thing I did forget to mention is that they moved VERY fast at the beginning. Within 2 weeks of dating, they got an apartment and moved in together. At some point within the last 6 months or so, they've bough a house. So this is all inside of the 2 year mark, just after their 1 year in fact. I'm glad they're holding off the wedding for another year, but I don't know, I guess I'm just looking out for my buddy and just hoping for his sake that it works. But I'm sorry to say, I have my doubts. And believe me, nothing would make me happier then to have them prove me wrong. Thnaks again for all your replies and some very interesting points.
  14. I'd like some opinions on a situation my buddy has got himself in to. He met this girl almost about a year and a half ago, and I just found out they are engaged to be maried next july. I moved away from my friends shortly before they started dating so I haven't had much time to get to know her, but she seems alright, if a bit controlling. Anyway, I digress. Obviously I'm not gonna judge him or her on getting married, I think its great that they found eachother, but I'm a bit concerned that at least HE hasn't has the chance to experience the whole dating life and that sorta thing. Personally, looking back I would be in a bad place now if I married my first long term g/f. What I'm wondering is how many of you would marry or have married your first gf/bf? Or just whether generally speaking its a good idea. Please note that I've accepted this and am certainly not going to try and talk him out of this when I see him again, but I just wish he had a bit more experience. Thanks.
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