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  1. That is super cool. I'm not sure if the singer Lorde is popular in North America but she apparently has synaesthesia
  2. It is helpful, because I won't focus on trying to give her information, if what she needs is perspective
  3. Every 6 mths or so I do some casual babysitting if something comes up. There's a lady I worked with for about 6 weeks in 2016, she has three kids, one of whom was diagnosed with ASD (7 yr old boy) a few months before I came into the picture. She was reluctant to tell me his diagnosis because she refused to accept it. He had a lot of problems - sensory, motor, sleep, emotional, fixated interests and odd facial expressions/body language, he seemed to misbehave and ignore instructions/rules all the time and needed a lot of extra attention in order to feel secure and function normally. Occasional mild meltdowns and liked to have things his own way, rigid/literal thinking etc She found him really difficult and would tell me he was just "a little sh**". I felt pretty bad on his behalf, because I could see he was a very sweet child - even if he didn't have a good understanding of or respect for 'arbitrary rules' (such as those set by his mum!). I spoke to her about his diagnosis a few times and she kept saying "it's not autism" - so at that point I finally disclosed. I didn't go into a whole lot of detail about my own diagnosis, but just wanted to normalise the issue - she obviously liked and respected me enough. And her son behaved for me, I would sit with him and let him talk to me about Pokemon for an hour when he wasn't able to sleep. I once heard his mum reprimanding him quietly and he yelled back at her, "I'm not like you!". That broke my heart a little - I don't think he knew his own diagnosis. He just knew he was different Anyway, she has asked me a few times in recent months to come back and work for them. Very small/odd jobs, mostly haven't come to fruition but I am going tomorrow and maybe later this month, for an hour once a week I don't know why but I have a feeling the topic of her son and ASD will come up. It's been a couple years since his diagnosis, if it is autism it will have become more apparent over time and she may have accepted it by now I feel like there aren't enough resources for parents with children who are Level 1. I am wondering if you've found any particular blogs/websites/books/YouTube channels beneficial with regards to parenting a boy on the spectrum (maybe ones that would have been helpful to you when your son was younger) - most of my own personal research has focused on females/adults and I'm worried I wouldn't know how to relate to her (though I relate to him exceptionally well)
  4. I've got this song stuck in my head now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6wcixnwEiik When I was in my late teens, before my ASD diagnosis, I explained my alienation from others as being an indigo child. If you look it up on Wikipedia now, it's interestingly connected to ADHD and ASD (which I have both). The idea is an indigo aura and certain characteristics associated with it Have you heard of synaesthesia? It's a crossing of the senses - a number of people with synaesthesia report seeing people, sounds or numbers associated with colours. But there wouldn't always be a correlation between what two people with synaesthesia see. So if you could see someone's energy as one colour, and a synaesthetic person sees it as another colour, how can you tell if it's something connected to your experience of the world or if it's a part of that person's aura? I wouldn't want to know what colour my aura is. I'd be disappointed if it wasn't somewhere between mint green and turquoise, because I'm obsessed with that colour
  5. Do you mean you have seen those things as in a feeling/sense that you felt? I am agnostic but I used to be a bit more spiritual/religious when I was younger because I had an experience where the room felt brighter and I felt immense clarity, like an epiphany. That is one of the reasons I decided to study science, but since I started learning about science I put that particular experience down to brain chemicals. Illicit drugs that work on certain brain chemicals can give the same feeling to users that I got at that moment That's not to say anything of religion. Knowing how the brain induces experiences doesn't discount 'why' those experiences happen. Science can't explain that. We can just say 'how'
  6. Yes, I've read accounts from other people with ASD that the late teens and early 20s are the some of the hardest years because of the transition into adulthood. But also a time of huge growth I genuinely believe many people with ASD are highly empathic. He feels what you feel
  7. I understand. I don't recall what I spoke about when I was younger, but I do recall having trouble finding words to respond when others would talk. Leading to selective mutism. I still struggle with back and forth, there are many awkward silences. But there was a dramatic improvement between age 22 to now (27 in a few months). Brains mostly finish developing around 25 yrs of age so maybe he will show a similar trajectory around that time How do you find he is with emotional reciprocity?
  8. I've read the first few pages and the last few pages of this thread. I'm just wondering if you could help me understand this a bit more? Do you feel shut off from your son even when he is physically present, because he's not as emotionally expressive as other people?
  9. I'd be interested to see how they measure the intelligence of a person who is blind and deaf. Would you give them a low score because of how they adapt to the testing requirements? Hellen Keller was obviously brilliantly intelligent
  10. IQ tests and intelligence theory are one of my interests, along with ASD and a few other brain-related things. I really don't think standard IQ tests are designed for those with ASD - I'm not sure which test he was administered, but most spend a limited time on any given subset of the test before moving onto the next one and requiring new rules to be adapted for the next task. If you look at a person with ASD who has the ability to delve deeply into a topic and become incredibly adept at it fairly quickly, and to a greater extent than most NTs ever will, it doesn't make a lot of sense to administer a test that requires them to perform a new task every 5-10 minutes. But that's why it measures "general intelligence" which is very loosely defined as the ability to problem-solve in everyday life So, everyday life moves fast and maybe those with ASD don't adapt as quickly. But to equate that with "intelligence" doesn't make a lot of sense. And yet that's the ability that IQ tests try to capture ... The ultimate reason is that the form of intelligence captured by the test is the one that they can do population studies on to find how it correlates with things like health, career, happiness etc. That's all it really means
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