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  1. sonja
    I just found out that my bf had been cheating on me even when we were together. Some of you who have read my previous posts already know that I was in a relationship with this guy for the past one year and I broke up with him because things didn't feel that same. But I could never imagine that he would do this to me. All this while I had this faint ray of hope that things will turn in my favor eventually, that we will get back together again. Now i am shattered. I don't know what to do. I feel betrayed. I feel angry. But most of all, I feel hurt, very hurt. sonja
  2. sonja
    Please don't hurt yourself. Your pain is fresh and your emotions are strong. Take control even if it hurts. Go and talk to a professional. Your life is very valuable. Treasure it. sonja
  3. sonja
    I hope you are feeling better now. I have never been married but I do understand your pain. it is not easy to get over it. I really hope that things work out for you. sonja
  4. sonja
    Hi Tears, You have tried to help me so much so I couldn't just stop myself from replying to this post. When people we love leave us for someone, the part that hurt us most is........." that's all my love was worth? that's all he/she cared for?" But trust me, even with huge feelings of depression within me right now, I know that the love that we showered on them was priceless. It is their misfortune that they never realised it. So if your ex chose a scum bag, think of it as her misfortune. And i know that its very easy to give advice, but when you are lonely in that room with all your memories intact, none of this helps. But I hope you will feel better soon and so I hope the same for me too. sonja
  5. sonja
    I really wish time heals. Otherwise I will never be the same again. I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago and is in constant pain. At first I thought I will get over it, I will be strong, I will never let myself down, I will go on with normal life. But the more I tried, the more I crumbled. Now I am in a state where I feel only pain. I can't sleep or eat. I don't even know why I am living. sonja
  6. sonja
    Don't worry about the fact that she has got a life filled with friends and support of others while you are lonely. This will only make you feel lonlier. 25 years of togetherness is a long time. Its difficult to get out of that feeling of companionship in a few days. So what you are experiencing is perfectly normal. Making new friends take time. Keep your mind open, if there's any activity that interests you, then you may want to join a club and pursue that and in due course of time you will meet like minded people and will be able to develop a bond with them. I hope this helps in some way. Wish you the very best, sonja
  7. sonja
    I thought I could get over this feeling a lot sooner than others do. I did not know how much I loved him until now. He is not around anymore. And I am filled with nothing but void. Just don't know how long I will carry on like this. My life seems so perfect on the outside, yet I am living every moment wishing I need not see the next. I wish I could get rid of this pain somehow, maybe inflict a bigger pain on myself and temporarily forget this one. I can't carry on any further. sonja
  8. sonja
    I am so glad that you are ok. sonja
  9. sonja
    Geez, I can't agree more Gilgamesh. I have this feeling of hopelessnes as though the world has come to a standstill for me. I feel no emotion at all except unbearable pain. I cannot get over my ex although I try to. I have been told by friends and others that no man is worth this, and that I should try and move on. My question is, where do I move on? Is there a place where I can hide myself and this pain will not find me there? So all I am left with is this empty feeling. I do my daily job, go on with my routine like a machine, yet deep inside I am bleeding. sonja
  10. sonja
    Be confident. If your guy loves you and you have full faith in him, she can't do anything. So enjoy life. Besides relationships are based on trust. Please remember that. Don't let this other girl spoil things between you too. sonja
  11. sonja
    Your boyfriend has a very secure and permanent notion of love. That security is based on his upbringing, namely, the perfect relationship of his parents and grandparents. It is a good thing in a way because he believes in a "happily ever after" kind of relationship. This is also the reason why he is so unsure to take the next step. He needs some sort of assurance from you. You may want to tell him that even if there is a problem between you two after marriage, your love will be strong enough to overcome it, that you will sort it out together. He should know that no relationship is free of worries and troubles, yes, even the most perfect ones. Those who know how to tackle their problem in a mature way come out as winners. I hope this helped. Wish you the very best. sonja
  12. sonja
    You are very right to feel upset at this moment. But I don't think she was misleading you the whole time. I think what you should do now is cut all contacts with her for a while and wait for her next move. Its going to be difficult. But you have tried your best by sending flowers etc. Now its her turn. If she really cares for you, she will realise soon enough, and try to get back with you. Whatever you do, don't push yourself too hard. Hope this helps, sonja
  13. sonja
    Take things slow, get to know her more, and then when you meet her eventually, you won't be up for a surprise. Hope things work out for you. sonja
  14. sonja
    You meet someone, you fall in love, and everything is so perfect. Then one fine day things crush right in front of you. You try to pick up the pieces and build your castle once again, but in vain. It keeps crumbling down time and again. You don't want to give up, so you keep trying. Why does love have to hurt so much? I was told as a child the love is a virtue. Its the best thing that you can give someone. I did too. I loved him unconditionally. And then I opened my eyes and it was all over. I am asked to lead a normal life, to go back to my regular routine, do my regular job, and then it seems I will find true love some day. What is true love? What I experienced was so true, so real, so beautiful, so surreal. It made me complete. I felt beautiful. I never asked more from life. It was as though I had everything. And now when I come back to an empty room, I feel scared. Scared that I might hurt myself. Scared that I will not be able to breathe anymore. And then deep in the night, without my knowledge, I fall asleep only to wake up the next morning with the same lingering pain. sonja
  15. sonja
    She is playing games with you. She probably doesn't even know what she wants. Don't bother, just move on. It will hurt for a while, what the hell it will hurt for long, but you deserve much better. All the best. sonja
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