KMO7970

I'm on day 15. It's been a rough week. I have realized this, though: I am mourning the loss of our friendship MUCH more than I am mourning the loss of our more-than-friendship. We were friends for much longer, anyway. He told me shortly after the breakup that he does want for us to be friends again, but that we need time to heal from this before starting fresh. He hasn't reached out at all so I am not reaching out anymore, either. He knows how to get ahold of me and can talk to me if he wants. I just keep pushing forward.

This is such a great feeling! Congrats to you for getting to this point. It can feel impossible in the early days or weeks.

FooledAgain, I'm right where you are, having just gotten through day 4. That said... Ex, I know you said we need a break before starting over as friends, and that even though you've been silent, you think of me constantly. Then again, that was 4 days ago that you said that. Everything from before seems like a bit of a lie at this point. It's almost like you did to me what your ex did to you: got whatever benefit you could from me (in this case, getting over your ex) and then moving on as if nothing ever happened. I know I could be wrong, but I have nothing to go on other than sheer silence. Do you feel the silent time is for MY benefit or for YOURS?

I'm also in my first week of no contact. Actually, today is my day 1, but would have been my day 3 if I hadn't reached out yesterday. He is so kind and always has been. I have never regretted talking to him. Never. But since this is a relationship that absolutely cannot work, despite the love we had, I have to be strong with this NC stuff for a while. Turns out that my day 30 is actually the day I leave for a vacation, so that's pretty cool. Sending much love to everyone out there slogging their way through days of no contact